I think it's time to go to court and get him to pay child support. He has made his own bed now he has to lay in it. If he won't pay with an arrangement between the 2 of you then bring in the big guns. You have to look out for your daughter. Children are expensive and it is apart of raising them. If he ends up paying full support then thats his problem not yours. As for his mum, stick to safe subjects like what your little girl is up to and all the cute things she's doing. Don't give her anything she can use against you. That happened to my bestie with all their friends, it cost her dearly in the beginning but she had the last laugh when she got full custody  and his rights were terminate by court order.....he still had to pay!!!!! (he threatened her in the court waiting room, she didn't know but the survalliance camera caught all the action!!!)

Raven

Sounds like he has a lot of maturing to do probably best to do what is best for your daughter right now and just concentrate on her as I am sure you are and if he is going to use emotional blackmail then maybe she is best not to see him for a while until he sorts himself out.

That's probably a really good idea and just a heads up; blood is thicker than water so you may have been close to his mum then but in situations like this it can come back and bite you in the butt and she can just use you, fishing for information. So tred really carefully or even don't call her anymore.

If he wants to see her then he has to do so with your blessing in a safe place of your choosing. If he doesnt like it then you can always go to the Family Law Court and have a Parenting agreement worked out but they will also make him pay child support.

If he is telling his mum that you are asking for child support then why isnt she asking him when he is going to start paying it and backing you to get it any way you legally can? Break ties with this woman where he is concerned and only allow her in as the grandmother of your child. Make it clear you dont want a mediator but your daughter needs her grandmother.

Dont back down and dont let him bully you into his wishes and if she is backing him then stand up to her too, she'll soon get the message and if she doesnt then better to find out now than later. I thought things were cool with my daughters family but I thought wrong as they all supported him and his lies. His Aunty found out the truth when we met up at a Caravan Park one Christams then I heard the B.S he and his sister were spouting. I allowed her to spend time with my child and her daughters and mine playyed quite happily so she knew the family had been had. The rest of the family still believes him and turns on her but she knows the truth and is willing to sacrifice them to stay in my childs life.