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josierm
josierm | September 22nd

work dilemma

hi everyone. long time no talk :)

i am returning to ask for some help on making a decision. next year when my twins go to school i am going to find it hard to work my current shifts and get the kids to school and the youngest to childcare. i am a single mum with little support and no-one to care for the kids during the week. before school care doesn't start early enough for my 7 am start on tuesdays. i also work every 2nd weekend and my ex (their dad) looks after them.
i have to work at least 4 shifts per fornight in my current job (i am doing 5) and i cant change workplace because i will need to apply for a home loan soon.
at the moment i can see 2 alternatives. i could apply for a clinical nurse position which would be full time 8:30-4. pro- would see the kids every weekend and i wouldnt have to rely on their dad; con- my youngest would see me less. anything part time, unless its what i am doing now, would be on a rotating roster and impossible with childcare and school hours.

OR i could do night shift and that would mean that i could still take them to school and pick them up, but it would mean the kids would have to stay overnight somewhere other than their own beds (and i want to avoid them spending time at their dads- he doesn't cope, has a pet rat that runs around the house pooing everywhere, and he hasn't made room for them to sleep comfortably in his 2 brm unit).

i feel stuck. the kids need me, but i need to work to get us a house to live in (our house we have to sell so that i can pay out the separation settlement).
help!

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Arna
September 24th | Arna
Re: work dilemma

Have you looked into Family Day Care options in your area (sorry, I lost the bookmark :( )?

They have flexible options for parents who work early shifts, night shifts, weekends or even in emergency situations.  They are run by people who care for your kids at their home (the carers home that is), and it is less 'structured' than a daycare centre and more relaxed and not so overwhelming for children.

 



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      josierm
September 24th | josierm
Re: work dilemma

Thats definitely something i could consider.  thanks arna.

I have thought a bit about it, and I think the ideal thing for me to do is to get a part time clinical nurse position with hours 8:30-4 weekdays only, and then i could get the kids to and from school and not have imogen in childcare full time and still have them all weekend every weekend.  the extra rate in pay with make up for the weekend penalty rates lost, and fortunately i could easily get a promotion as many unit managers seem to be after me (just this week i had a manager ask me to leave the nurse bank and work on his ward)  so thats a bonus.  recently the stress has temporarily upset my rational thinking.

............now for such a position to present itself.  (positive thinking)

thanks again.



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rosalinda
September 23rd | rosalinda
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In an ideal world you'd find a great housemate... Got any single friends who might need cheap accomodation? That's what I did. For a couple of years a woman I used to chat w/ for hours on end every time I saw her, lived w/ us... Rent free. Her work was at different times to my study-commitments (she was a commercial cleaner). So she'd get home from her morning stint just as I needed to leave to get to school.... She'd take my daughter to school then grab a nap to prepare for her evening work then pick her up after. Sometimes we'd have time for a brief catchup when I got home, before she had to go & do her evening jobs. My daughter got very attatched to her & we stayed in contact for many years.

If you don't know anyone personally. you could try to get in touch w/ a network of house-sitters & see if anyone who does that would be willing to become a housemate & standin Mum... There's a lot of women, usually in 30-55yo age group who house-sit as their main source of accomodation these days... They have to have impeccable references otherwise people wouldn't leave them in charge of their pets & belongings for months (sometimes years) on end. You'd probably have to 'fluff' her a bit; treat her like a guest when you're home & give her plenty of space to herself (& her own room too). But it could be ideal for eveyone & if all goes well your kids'll aquire another aunty/granny in their lives & you'll get another friend.. Could be a win/win all round!

 Rosalinda



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      josierm
September 23rd | josierm
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thanks for your response, but i am about to "downgrade" houses because of separation property settlement and we will be lucky to get a house that is big enough for me and my 3 kids, let alone a house guest as well.  my friends all have their own places.



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August88
September 22nd | August88
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You could put your name down for in-home care as you qualify being that you are working outside child care times. Worth a try but that can be a long wait but sometimes you can be lucky and have a carer available to start in your area. Going to a private nanny in the meantime is an option but is a bit more costly. Worth a try to put your name down though. Good luck in your decision. Hard trying to juggle. xx



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      josierm
September 22nd | josierm
Re: work dilemma

you've just given me an idea.  i could do my early shifts (2 per week) during the week and have a student from the same school (after screening and with senior first aid) look after the kids in the morning, get them ready and walk to school with them, dropping them off at their classes.  meanwhile i can drive the youngest to childcare.  and i can still pick them all up myself, not have to rely on their dad or my family, and have every weekend with them.

if i cant find a suitable student i would go the private nanny option (eg 6am to 9am twice a week).

thankyou.  i love minti.



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soozntone
September 22nd | soozntone
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When looking at a night shift position you need to seriously consider your own sleep patterns.  Day sleeping during the week and then night sleeping on weekends..  You could find that long term this is no good for you or the children.

Good luck in finding a job that works best for you and your kids.



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      josierm
September 22nd | josierm
Re: work dilemma

i've done the night shift thing before.  i would work it so that i could sleep when the kids are at school/childcare.  its just a case of whether i can burden the night care with my mum and dad.  they are not staying overnight at their dads place.  it would be tiring but my options are limited.



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zoolooau
September 22nd | zoolooau
Re: work dilemma

 i dont know if you have looked into before school care, there is a place here called jellybeans child care that take and pick up kids from school. I dont know if there is any near you, but it could be a option :)



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      josierm
September 22nd | josierm
Re: work dilemma

Thanks for the idea.  i dont think there is a jellybeans near us though.



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