that must be very hard but you will have to keep calm and not show your frustration or he might withdraw and not progress at all when you find it is getting to you just calmly go to another room and just gather your thoughs and calm down for a few minutes as you don't want him getting frustrated aswell kids pick up on your emotions very easily. Also you are not imature this is obviously a very difficult situation to deal with and you should not be so hard on yourself.

thankyou for all comments i do appreciate you all taking the time to answer my question :)

You say yourself he has a speech and language disorder, perhaps he doesn't know the words to tell you. Help him out and think on his level... "is this thing red?", "is it a toy?" ect Perhaps even pretend to look for "it" even if you don't know what "it" is. He'd feel much more pleased that mum made an effort to find "it" than getting mad. Then if you can't find what he's looking for, suggest something else fun to do.

you could do personification play. give toys voices when your playing with him and keep the sentances simple as they say practice practice practice.

playgroup is another great stimulator of vocabulary. it took my younger brother till he was almost 5 to speak in full sentances he sprouted when he had to use words (he didn't have a choice) when he got to kindy and mum or big sister wasn't there to interpret.

also have you spoken to your CHN about getting him into speech pathology? might be worth looking into.

hope this helps ::)'s

Its very wise to ask for advice.

It can be hard to stay calm... If you believe he is sincerely having trouble expressing himself do encourage him to find another way; to show what it does or what shape it is with his hands...Then when its found express delight & joy with him & ask him to try to say the word for it; reward/enthusiastically congratulate him if he succeeds.

This will only work if you can stay calm & unflustered. So try to find a way to make some Mum-time in every day. You need it, as do we all.

good luck

Rosalinda

 I agree with Jill, signing may be a way of getting around the words he cant think of or say.

But what I really wanted to say was I dont think you should feel imature asking about how to deal with frustration! I think its very mature asking how to deal with it, a lot of people older and younger then us just ignore it or just take it out on the kids.

Asking for help and peoples opinion is very mature (I think anyway). It means you have a open mind and willing to learn and grow and do the best for you and your son :)

I have this with my kids at times.

instead of using adult words and sentence structures use child ones? ask better questions like "oh dear ******, we cant find it. lets look better." it seems funny but some times they know what they want but cant find the word for it. The other day here is a perfect example. my daughter who is 5 wanted to take photo's in the garden and I have given her my old digital camer. she wanted my tripod so she could take pictures of our vegi garden but got really upset and started crying and screaming cause she didnt know what the tripod was called and my hubby nor I knew what she was trying to do cause she didnt say she was taking photo's.

it has taken me a bit to work kids out and I am also 27. I think if it wasnt for my son I would still struggle.

so try and ask questions that have a yes no answer, find out what they were doing. most of the times it is very simple things.

Just a suggestion but have you thought of using hand signs so he can associate the something with an action.  They can be anything you want them to be yours and his own little language .... I guess and example might be if he has a favorite toy you might teach him to clench his fist once to indicate that toy.   I thought this because you said that he is very good a mimicking.

Another suggestion might be to take him to an ENT specialist he may have some issues with his ears even if he doesn't complain of ear aches or anything like that, sometimes that one issue can lead to a whole heap of issues in young children, temperaments, educational etc.

Don't know if this is the sort of suggestions you were looking for good luck. 

Jill