hi, i wrote a few days ago suggesting you and your father seeing a counsellor or such.  You may not feel ready for this though so how about putting all your feelings in a letter to him. Tell him you know he loves you but talking about what happened is a bit uncomfortable. Sometimes we plan speeches in our minds but they never usually come out as planned. On paper, you wont stumble over words, it will be less embarassing and you can let him know exactly how you feel. Tell him you feel his over protectiveness is making you feel judged for what happened. Perhaps meeting your friends before you go out or him driving and picking you up from your designation would make him feel at ease.Even writing letters just for yourself can really help get things off your chest.  I really wish you the best of luck in the future.Your life changed the day you were raped but remember to not blame yourself for the crime.Your father would probably feel helpless that he cant take your pain away.  The pain does eventually get better. Do you have some close friends you can lean on 4 support.

 I think you just need to sit down with him and tell him how you feel, the way you told us.  It may be that he blames himself more than you, but you should tell him that it feels like he's blaming you, so that he knows where you're coming from.

Sweetie, given the circumstances I can't really blame him for wanting to make sure that experience never, ever happens again.  It's a difficult topic and I used to think people blamed it on me too but they didn't, they just didn't know how to talk about it.  I would bet my bottom that if your brother had a bad experience like that he'd be wrapped in cotton wool as well.  I'm so sorry for all you've been through.  Have you had counselling? Has your dad had counselling? That might seem strange saying it like that, but in these cases it often means that the whole family needs some help getting through it.

your father probably blames himself more than you for the rape as he couldnt protect you from it.

maybe you could both see a doctor , counsellor or some other third party to help you both with the pain that comes from rape.we often find it hard to explain our feelings after a tradgedy. boys are still given more reign than girls as unfair as it may be. he probably just doesnt know how to make things better.  believe me, things do get better over time so dont give up.remember you survived the rape and are stronger than you know.

It sounds to me like he is just worried about you . Maybe you could talk to him and tell him you are becoming a woman now and tell him you will call him if you have any trouble what so ever and maybe you could ask him to drop you off so he can see for hmiself where you are going to be and that you will get in contact if there is reason too . Just a thought.

Good luck :)xxxx