thats a good idea, sometimes kids need more then one on one interaction and being at day care with other kids and planned activities might be good for him. centerlink might be able to provide u with JET or CCB so it may not cost you much, even if its one day a week to break the week up a bit.

xoxo

day care is great. i put my kids in there 2 days a week and it was great not just for me but also for my kids as I am not a social person.

everything else here is great too. also turn the tv off completely, put music on instead. I never had the tv when my kids were little always music, even now at 7 and 5 my kids watch maybe an hour of TV a day and it is Anime so they are learning to read as well as learning Japanese.

if you want educational things for the tv get things like little einstiens ( that show is amazing)

Even if she does have post nadel depression do you really think that the way you are talking to her will help her?

She is asking for help not asking for abuse from you,You do not even know her and for you to say that she will have her child taken off her i think that is a disgrace!I f you dont have anything nice to say to someone than DONT say anything at all!

I work in Children's Services and I can safely say that ignoring your 2 year old and plonking them in front of the television set to babysit them for 8 hours a day is a form of child abuse and you can have your children taken away from you. I recommend you look in to this before commenting in future. Having your child taken away from you is a very real consequence for poor parenting and needs to be acknowledged and mentioned. May I add communication is 90% give or take non verbal, you choose how to read words on a screen. You can choose to make it sound as dramatic or as sensible as you like in your head. What I have written are facts, your interpretation of it is a disgrace.

I personly do know Cinta and know for a FACT that she is not what you have said she is. And may i alsó

remind you that defamation of charactor can be a legal issue esspecially when you dont know anything about the person.And to say that i am a disgrace you dont even know me so what you have to say means nothing to me.

Oh grow up please - go take your silly little threats elsewhere. If the author had written her question properly to begin with nobody would have been shocked nor appalled to begin with. If my post means nothing then it doesn't issue a reply from you does it? Move on and find something productive to do.

cant you just agree to disagree and get over it? its not help to anyone if theres bickering and fighting going on. take the advice you want to and ignore the advice you dont want to listen too.

I'm definitely not ashamed of my reply, in fact I stand by it and support it 100%. Sitting your child in front of a television set for 8 hours is not on and is a major sign of post natal. While this site is here for encouragement and support, I do not support the decision to abuse a 2 1/2 year olds life and a wake up call is needed as well as providing the steps to fix the situation. If I was abusing my child in such a way (which I would never, ever do) I would hope someone would give me a wake up call and tell me the cold, hard, facts too. Asking me to go get a life (by the way it's fantastic and I wouldn't change a thing about it) doesn't make you any better of a person my dear. Personal insults are also against minti's code of conduct.

hello,

i am the origanl person that posed the question

i would like to resond to ur answer

first off i would say thank you for ur ideas

but also i would like to inform u that i was quite upset with the other thing that u posed, i do not just PLONKmy 2/12 yr old in front of the tv, my  t.v is on during those hours SOMETIMES that does not mean that he is there just sitting for 8 hours watching it, he does other things during the day asweel and only sometimes goes back to watch it.

U wrote that u think i might have post natal , well i do not, and i do not abuse my child as u like to put it,  i dont know why u say the other lady personaly insulted u and that is againt minti conduct because clearly u r insulting me by telling me that i will get my child taken away from me and that i am abusing my 21/2 yr old, so u have gone against the conduct ur self.

i do take my 21/2 yr old out palces i am in a mothers group wich meet up every week and also take him out to the park and other places, i was asking for ideas to keep him occupied, i dont know how u got from that that i dont want to spend time with my child and therefore i have post natal depression, u do not know me at all and in my post i did put that my child does watch a lot of t.v but that does not give u the right to come on here and abuse me and tell me that i am abusing my child and dont care for my child and that i am a lazy mother because that is what u r saying basicly.

i am a active an RESONSIBLE parent, and were in my post does it say that i do not want to be around my child, all of the other responces to my post have been helpfull encouriging and r nothing like what u resonded like, i think that u took the question in a way that u have made it up in ur own way that u think.

So i am not happy at all with ur resonce

Hi cinta,

I do sincerely apologise; However here on Minti parents can only reply to the information you have provided them with. The way you have worded your original Q&A does not shine you in a positive light.  What you have just written then is extremely informative and it would have been beneficial to add some of these details to your original question. Had you explained your situation with more detail, you would not have encounted such a problem. I messaged 5 random friends to ask how they interpreted your post and they couldn't believe it, so it's not just me. Please take this in to consideration if you have another question in the future.

My intentions on this website is to always look out for the well-being of children. Child abuse is everybodies business and should be dealt with promptly.

I do agree it was a little harsh but she did raise a lot of good points. But this may also be the only way to get thru.

A 2 1/2 year old is very active fun little person to be with and dosnt take much to keep them occupied if you think bout it so maybe if she cant think of what to do then maybe she does have  post natal depression.

So it was a little harsh but it was also a little called for as well, she also added a lot of ideas so she wasnt just blasting her. Im sure the mum would also agree that if she heard someone else was doing that that they would need a good talking to as well.

Thanks Zoo I'd rather someone mention they thought it was too harsh or attack my idea rather than me personally. The way I view it, Minti is filled with all sorts of personalities. Some people react better to straight-the-point no bull responses and others appreciate it more when it's sugar coated. Personally when I have written Q&A's I've ignored the posts that didn't help me and absorb the information from posts that do. My theory is that Minti is filled with all sorts of personalities which is a positive thing because it means one of those personalities will hopefully match that of the author. While person A may be very defensive, person B might really appreciate a reality check because they didn't realise how serious it was. Personally, that's why I loved llmunchkin so much, her assertive ways benefited my situations.

 Thats ok, you always answer questions well and have lots of infomation to back up what you say, you dont just say thats bad or thats good, you give reasons, tips and ideas.

I think if you were some random that isnt a active person of minti it mite have been a bit different, but you are on here a lot and here to help.

Anyway it was a good idea just a little full on hehe, hope it helps her tho im sure they will both benafit from what you said :)