hey hun

i was just like you and every thought was babies it made me so happy when ever i babysat others little ones and made my day each and evertime

i was 19 years old  when i had my first child and  not long after that i had my second third and forth child then not long ago found ould my eldest has severe autism

so as a 24 year old mum of four under five  and one with a severe disabiity i do sometimes wish i got to learn a little about life  for example bars , parting as i never got to do anythings like this and also travel but

if your heart is yearning for it and you feel so strongly for it how about saying to your partner exactly how you feel about wanting to become a mum  and why you want to do it sooner than later but yes weigh up the pros and cons first as that is very important

good luck and hope to hear about some great news down the track

Hey thanks for all your comments so far its been really helpful! And yes ive been living with my partner for probably three years, we share all our money and everything we are just like a married couple really.

What could i say to him to make him understand how much this means to me so that he would want to have a baby sooner? At the moment he wants to wait till we are 25 but i dont know how much longer my heart can wait! Thank you for all your advice :)

 It is a huge life change even more then you could imagen. Now that I have my bubs I would have like to waited. I miss my salsa dancing and having the freedom to be able to just get up and walk out the door if you find something to do.

I never went out partying or drinking, I never went to clubs or bars (apart from salsa dancing that it) and i sometimes feel like im very restricted in what and when i can do stuff.

Make sure you know who you are, so you dont loose your self when you have kids, as its no longer just you its you and bub, and sometimes around grandparents its just bub lol, they come over just to see bub and then you just happen to be there lol

Looking after someone elses kids is also a lot different, i think everyone here will agree lol.

Im not going to say no its a bad idea because you are old enough to make that decition, but from someone who was 20 when she had her bub, i would have waited, but i wouldent change it now lol.

I also dont think its pathetic some people have higher maternal feelings.

You must make sure you and your patner are ready (dont just stop using contraseption without his knowing). Being financially sound would be a VERY good idea because you never knwo what is going to happen with a baby :)

although i am only 17 years old (big difference) i felt exactly the same way as you did. I thought through everything first and didnt just rush in and after trying for a while and having a miscarriage i am finally pregnant and almost in the second trimester.

I think we think to much about what other people think and are going to say but honestly if you feel as though you are ready i believe you should go for it.

You sound ready to me and sound very adiment and dedicated and all you need to do now is talk to the other half and see how he feels about this, maybe also do some weighing out of pros and cons and decide if you really want this now or believe you and your partner could wait a few years, but you need to do this with your partner and make sure you two communicate as much as possible about this.

Good luck and may whatever you deccide to do be the right decision for you!

I think that regardless of when you choose to have a child you will obvously be as ready as you can be by the sounds of it. Being 20 there is no rush for you so you can take that into consideration. Think of personal goals you would like to achieve, are there any that you may miss out on wtih having a child so soon. You will do what you think is right regardless.

Look if this is what you really want why don't you ask your partner what he thinks and if he agrees then go for it!

Make a list of all the pro's and con's for having a baby right now. Consult your fiance. List all things you would like to do before you have all the responsibility of children.

Write down all the things you would like to do for example travel, have a fancy wedding, all the things that cost money and time.

List all the costs associated with a baby don't include money given to you via the government but do include the amount of time you have to take off of work and if you plan on going back or not. Then decide on facts rather than emotion.

Cheers Raven

If we all waiting until we were finacially ready for a baby hardly anyone would have kids :) I guess its up to you, I dont think your too young and If its what you both want then I cant see a problem?