Well, i guess I"m a little late, since you've made up your mind one way or another over a week ago. But my thoughts are this- you'll only be 60 when baby is 18, so It's not like you'd be 80 or anything! If you want this baby, go for it. Your still young. My grandmother was 46 when she had her youngest. yes, it's a surprise, but if you're feeling you want the baby, then keep baby. It's not like you don't know what your getting into. The health implications are hard, but that's your choice. 

Either way, all the best to you, and i'm praying. 

Iamschild.

Congratz.  Talk to your kids first and i am sure they will think positive about bringing a new member into the family.  You seem to be a pretty strong Mom and i am sure you will fight this.  There is a reason for every action in your life.  At 42, you will be a more calmer and patient to your newborn.

Take Care,

Good Luck. 

If your unsure about an abortion then don't do it. It's not something you can undo once done.

Be confident in you and your desicions, it doesn't matter what others think, you do what makes you happy and what you can live with. Your ex-husband has no control over your life, if you want this baby, you don't need his permission - it's not even his kid! If he wanted a say in your life then he should have stayed in your life as a husband! If he disapproves of your action (keeping the baby) then he's just being jealousy. You do what you want and what you can live with.

I think it's wonderful and your older children will fall in love with the baby and absolutely adore it (if you choose to keep it). Children are wonderfully adaptive, even older children. I have met people who have teenage/adult children and have another child, they older children gooed and ga'ed over the baby, even showed it off like grandparents. So don't be concerned, once the adjustment is made; you'll find it quite easy and they will pitch in help.

As for the health concerns, talk to your Dr and get all the facts before you have an abortion. It does seem though you have made your mind up and I'm sure it will all work out and be worth it. In the end only you can decide if you can live with the desicion either way.

Raven

Hello rprincess.  You are asking for input so here goes.  Your kiddies are not fully grown, are you putting your health at risk?  You had an irrational moment with the aid of drinking but thought you had taken the pill to be sure you were not pregnant.  The case of being pregnant brings all sorts of motherly feelings out and of course you want this baby.  It takes you back to your other pregnancies.   Are you going to have the where with all with money, energy, support and health to raise this and your other children?   We all bravely face things when the going is not tested as of yet and say never mind what others say but the reality  is you have to live in the community as well as your older children.  Can you take the comments and the talk even though they really in truth do not matter, but your emotional state does matter.

I would like you to think things through as calmly as you can and weigh every thing.  If the idea of bringing this new little being into your arms out weighs all the negatives you know are there,  then you have your answer.   I wish you the best and send the best vibes!

 Take everyone's opinions and bury them, they're not needed. Listen to your gut instincts and your heart. You've been strong enough to raise 3 teenagers without a dad, so if keeping the baby is what you want, then baby number 4 doesn't need a dad either if he doesn't want to be involved. Children only need one loving parent or guardian figure to grow up for-filled. And if you want to terminate, that is also your choice. If you want an unbiased chat, speak with your doctor to go through the risks involved in being pregnant as an older woman and speak with a counsellor about all the thoughts you have running through your head.

Hi rprincess,well congratulations to start with,it sounds like to me that you have already made up your mind your just worried what other people will think,well i say if you want to keep the baby  then keep it,it doesnt matter what other people think..

if you know that you can look after it and provide and love it then other people dont matter(im not talking about your kids)..hopefully someone else that has been in your situation can give you more advise..but i say do whats in your heart..