hello, iv had the same problem with discipline with my partner  my son is six and was pushing the limits alot, one thing we did do one night was made a list of what behaviour we thought was acceptable and what wasnt, then when our son crossed the line we used time out the bottom step on the stairs works well for us, one bit of advice i was given a while ago that has helped alot is not to let your child hear or see you debating discipline because they can and will pick up on weak points and use them, we always disscuss options when our son is in bed that way we have a strong pact the next day, hope this helps.

Hi,  I noticed you said you are only disagreeing on some of the ways you discipline the children. You both oviously have ways that you both agree on. Its not always easy to agree with your partner on every thing when it comes to the children and it does depend on the situation at the time. The most important thing to do in a situation when you both cannot agree, is talk about it away from the children. 

I have been in a situation where my child has done a crime by our standards and my husband and I have not been able to agree on a suitable punishment, compromises have to be made, and sometimes all you can do is agree to disagree! Children need to learn consequences for their actions. Its a tough one I know, but stick to the main aspect of the issue and don't let it become a battle of wills between you and your partner. Consequences about about teaching the child that their actions are unacceptable and should suit the crime at hand. I hope this help you.

My husband and I come from different universes and tend to clash on that one too.  I find it helps to list the wrong doings that you find unacceptable, then rate them from one to ten and decide what punishment fits what crime.  Can help if one parent is really strict and the other lax.  Also by rating the offence you can get on the same page as to what is the appropriate method for discipline.

In the end we both compromised that neither of our childhood's were perfect, so neither method of discipline was either.  I recommend Diane Levy's book "of course I love you, now go to your room".  Give's you some proactive methods where the child takes overship for the problem and it teaches them self discipline.  We got some great advice from that book!

so if still cannot agree, try something new :)