Sorry for the late comment, just scrolling back abit on the quetions but, i have to say, you just given birth to a baby only 120 days ago! please dont be so hard on yourself to be in the mood. Of course you need your sleep back thats no normal. just to sleep is sooo nice, better than sex i think anyway. It does take about 18 months for womens bodies to get back in shape and to feel their energy pick up. Your mood will return in time, and dont feel bad about it.

It's been over 4 years for me, and still counting.  I don't have a partner, but the boyfriend I had for the past year didn't even try anything with me. I made him sleep in the spare room when he stayed here, as he was from out of town.  I told him that I didn't want my daughter seeing us in the same bed until I knew for sure this would work out.  Most of it was that, part of it was that I didn't want any pressure to do more than just go to sleep next to him if we were in the same bed.  I don't know that it's normal, but lots of people go through it.  If I was in a relationship I would be seeing a doctor about it by now though or I might end up single again just from that.

Well my son's nearly 3 and I'll choose sleep over sex any time! Sex is a chore, sleep is bliss!!! lol. (God I hope hubby doesn't read this!) so sorry, can't help you.

I wasn't in the mood either when my daughter was first born. I think it took me about 9 months to get back into the swing of things.

when you have a baby you are in constant demand.. you have to be ON all the time.. babies require so much that its hard to give anything of yoruself to yet another peron when the time arises..i used to get to the point where i sould despise my ex becuas ehe dindt understand that when baby was in bed i wante dsome time to be me again.. just me...no-ones wife, mum,teacher.. whatever.. but he thought once baby is was bed.. then its my turn to be his...i likened it to something of an identity crisis, i was so busy being everything to everyone else that i forgot who I was.. it is important to identify exactly what it is you're feeling... to make sure that youre not interested because youre tired.. or is it something else?.. i ask becuase if you fear it might be something else, get help NOW, before it gets any worse.. if its becuase youre tired, then i would strongly suggest taking some time out for you.. and for you AND hubby.. there is nothing wrong with leaving the bub with someone for a few hours.. good luck xoxo

IN our house we call it going off the boil :-) its quite normal especially with a little one. We had our kids very close 15 mths apart so the situation rectifies itself...however it can be helped along first and foremsot you cant forget that you are part of a couple and not just a mum, Im not saying thats whats happening but I do know its easy to slip down that path. Make sure you are getting enough rest, if that means that the floors dont get washed until three days from now so be it. Its about priority and prioritising whats important, hubby may feel in the mood more because at a subconsious level he may feel he's competing with baby for attention, again Im not saying thats whats happening but it is an easy path to travel. So rest when baby's resting, eat well and drink plenty of water. Make time for yourself be it a bubble bath or nap, create opportunities for you and hubby and dont be afraid to let the grandies babysit where possible even for a couple of hours. Saturday night I would cook a special dinner, candles and all he would indulge my need to be romantic until he realise that my efforts were for him and then suddenly he helped get kids bathed and put to bed and that was our time. Also remember that affection neednt let to the act if you're exhausted but you can still assist hubby and in turn hubby can assist you and not necessarily sexually it may be that once he's satisfied he gives you a back rub...I remember saying once that the house and kids didnt look after themselves and that assistance would get me into bed earlier...my goodness how quick a man can learn  when there is a positive reason to do so.... now this is OK in most circumstances if you do this and you still feel like you're not in the mood then a quick visit to the Dr to check your hormone levels may be in order. Just dont be to hard on yourself your body has been through a great deal and as I said there are a lot of things you can do while not in the mood to ensure hubby is happy until you are again.

Babe, Im right there with you. Im just so not on the mood and my partner always is, I feel terrible for him to, im more just wanting the hugs and kisses at the moment!

Hi
Trade ya hubbies lol
Since bub was born he is not interested....hmmm maybe he should be the mum 
Rest assured it is normal.....
Talk to hubby tell him how you feel
If you have a good relationship he will be ok with it but just remember he is not a mind reader so may think you don't need him now you got bub.....
If you talk to him he may understand that all you need is a cuddle at the end of a tiring day.....eventually it will bring you stronger as a couple and who knows he might even take over doing some stuff to give you a break and make you feel loved and then it will all come naturally........
You feel how you do at the moment as it is natures way of telling you to slow down and relax.....
But remember communication is the key..........having a new bub is hard....

Luv Deb

It's normal to feel that way, you have been through alot.  Something that might help would be to take one night a week just for the two of you to get reacquainted with each other.  If you have a family member you could have watch your baby for a few hours so maybe you guys could catch dinner and movie that might be just what you need.  Your not alone though.  Don't forget to speak to your doctor about things if it continues to bother you.  I wish you the best.  Take care and have a great day. :o)

YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!, Please trust me when I tell you, my son is nearly 20 months and I still can't be bothered, personally I think that its just me but some women experience what you are and it goes away after a while and sometimes it doesnt.  I'm sorry I can't really tell you what you should do as nothing has worked for me yet but I just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone in this.

i agree with wendigo get someone to take bub for the night, i was the same i bleed for 12 weeks then got bub into a proper routine by this time i was tired and uncomfortable irritable lol you know the feeling, eventually we did when she was 4 months (lol i know 4 months no love ahh) i still wasn't really in the mood when we did but when we di welll i realised what i was missing again lol. it is very normal to feel the way you are feeling so don't stress to much!!!

It's relatively normal.  Take sleep away from any woman for an extended period of time and she'll loose the urge.

It might help your relationship a bit if you can organise to have bubs looked after for a bit by someone so you can catch up on sleep and those other little look after yourself things.  There's some good advice about this sort of thing on Minti, I just can't remember what the articles are called.  It's 3am.  If someone hasn't linked them by the time I log on tomorrow I'll got for a search and link them.

 

I wont be able to help you much with this seeing as how when I had my daughter I was not in the mood for the rest of my relationship with my ex, but that was because I just plain hated him. What I can tell you is that it is normal, think about it, for the first month or so you bleed and don't want it, then you get into a routine with the baby and it is damn tiring. Your husband wont fully understand it so try talking to him about it. My suggestion, though he may not go for it lol ask him to take care of teh baby for an evening, have a long bubble bath and take some you time. Maybe after baby goes to sleep he could give you a nice back rub, I'm pretty sure then you'll start to feel a little more in the mood, at least more so then you are now. The first year of being a new parent is hard and drains you completely, not to say the rest of parenthood doesn't but it takes some getting used to. Just tell him how you feel.

good luck