Adoption - does anyone had advise
Hi, We are not out shopping for the perfect child. With my degree in Psychology and my degree almost complete in Masters of social work I am sure I would be a good parent to a mentally challenged child or any child for that matter. I just want to be a mother. Perhaps next time you read someones question you should consider their feelings as well. I am not out to "view" a child as you so nicely put it.. In fact I would know if a sibbling group would fit without even meeting them. Taking on two children at once is a big resposibility so it would only be natural and responsible to make sure that I had the resourses to give them the home they deserve. I am not worried about learning disabilties etc. My father lived in a foster home from the time he was 2 until 17. He was taken away from his parents due to neglect and spent most of his first year and part of his second year in the hospital because of what he suffered. If it was not due to people who cared (FACS) who knows where he might have ended up. He died at an early age, due to some of the trauma he suffered as an infant (I'm not getting into details), however he lived a lot longer than he might have if a family had not taken him in. I never met them, however they spent the last years of their lives caring for my father rather than just taking it easy.. My point is that you were more judgemental about what I wrote than I could ever be when given the opportunity to adopt. I have to obviously take in to consideration any special needs a child has to make sure that I am able to physically deal with them.(I won't get into details.) I'm not extremely disabled,, however suffice it to say I have a handicapped permit in my car because I am not supposed to carry anything over 10 pounds (and even that only for a short period of time). This being said I can pick up a child an hold them, carry them if they are injuured but on a day to day basis it would not be possible. Should I not be responsible enought to make sure that I have the ability to care for a child prior to adopting them? I am not extemely disabled however for example I would not be able to push a wheelchair (at least at this point) Would that make me a bad parent? Given the fact that childrens aid is there to match children with the appropriate family that can meet their needs, I don't think I am being unreasonable. I only want what is best for a match with a child that can benefit from what I have to give. Leanne I hope that maybe I did not understand your motives and that possibly you didn't take enought time (or that I did not clearly word it) before you made judgements about me. I always first give someone the benefit of the doubt before slamming them into the ground. I am not trying to make this a vendeta or anything like that. This is coming from the hurt that I felt when reading your message. So lets just leave it at that and hopefully next time we interact it will be on a more positve note.
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