My sister in-law threw a party for us. We allowed the men to come as well....  I am not sure if there is a law against having a baby shower.

However for me I could not bring myself to write up a list of things that we needed for Francis. My sister in-law asked me to write up a list of things we needed or wanted for Francis so that she could pass them onto the guests. But I could not do it because I felt like I was telling them they had to get something for the baby. My hubby ended up making the list.   We all had a great time though sister threw a great bash, but I still had the feeling that I was telling them they had to when all I wanted to do was just celebrate..  They all gave gifts which were fantastic and did not have to buy hardly anything for Francis when he arrived, and when Francis was born they gave gifts all over again...  

So really it is up to you and how it makes you feel. If you feel guilty throwing the party then don't do it.. If you want to celebrate the soon to birth then do it....  You don't have to call it a baby shower just a celebration that way if people want to bring gifts (and you'll find they probably will anyway) then that is up to them....

i didn't get to have a baby shower for my angel She came early and i was taught that freinds or family throw one for you not the other way around so i didn't want to be rude and well noone threw one so i missed out lol

doesn't mean i didn't get given a lot of baby stuff though (mostly hand me downs) ;)

I thought you got a bay shower for each child that you had, at least that is how I have seen it.  I dont think it would be greedy, different children have differnt needs. 

Traditionally families only get one baby shower in order to get help on what they need to prepare for baby. But nowadays, a lot of people have a shower for the second baby too, especially if the second child is a different sex.  But I also know of people who have baby showers even for the same sex baby.  I think it's really up to you!  If you want to celebrate your 2nd child, go for it. It may not be a traditional shower since you probably have what you already need for baby#2, but there's nothing wrong with that!