i don't believe that being gay is wrong, I don't believe that having sex with someone of the same gender is right but i define gay as having same sex tendencies and not just having sex with another person of the same sex.

This said, I do in no way pass judgement on another person for their sexual orrientation and would be friendly with a likeminded gay over a hetrosexual who I had nothing in common with, so I am not bias. 

I know that there are a lot of people out there having children who don't care about their children and many gay couples would make better parents than them, but i don't believe that a gay couple is the best case scenario and so I would prefer that gay's be banned from adoption.  Equally, I believe that unmarried and single people should be banned from adoption also, there are very few children available for adoption and I would like to see them go to into the best possible situatioins and I believe that a married hetrosexual couple is the best possible situation.

These are just my thoughts and just because you asked.  I wouldn't openly discuss this topic of my own volition due to the nature of my beliefs.

Jodi

I myself am still undecided as no offense but i was brought up that it is wrong to be gay however i am not so sure these days as i am pretty sure science has now shown that they realy truly cant help i also agree they could and would give as much love as ne other parent out there but you also got to think about what the kids at school are going to say are they going to get severely bullied for it and are they also going to be confused about they're sexuality. so umm... yeah good luck on your paper and good luck with the adoption

I believe it does not matter what your sexual preference,if you can be proven to be a loving and good quality person you have every right to adopt a child.There are plenty of two parent families that are really in a bad way ,there are lots of single parent families doing excellent jobs and im sure that gay or lesbian parents would do just a good a job at raising a child.Do you believe that catholic adults should have no right to adopt, do we exclude aboriginals from adopting , no because as long as they meet all the current criteria then they should be given the opportunity,well i believe the same for gay and lesbians too. 12 people i know who are gay,lesbian or bi-sexual so it is incredibly important topic for me.mel.....all the best for you.

I think adopting should should be allowed to anyone with the mentality to do a good job.  I say this because all children need love and attention and if some one has it to give then no matter what your sexual prefrence (unless of course those that go against the law underage etc:) then why not let people adopt who have the means, the mentality and the ability to care and love for those that need it.

I stress mentality because I know a couple (same sex) that adopted (they are not actually a couple just been living together for as long as I remember), and one of them treats the kids very well, and the other treats one like dirt, he is being mentally abused that I have seen. And I am told that he is physically abused as well. But I have no evidence to back that up, although I would not put it past this woman...  It's a very sad situation for the little boy. And the little girl is a princess, although when she was 8, she bit me, and nothing was done about it. Also she came out wearing a holter top and tight leggings and told me she looked sexy... At the age of 8, and she says she looks sexy.. I mean really what is this...

Anyway with that being said, as long as the children are being cared for and loved apropriatly then why not let those that are able give that love... Sex should not be an issue..... 

My heterosexual parents were disfunctional, self-centered, addicted people who had no business having children, let alone, raising them (even though they had the means and the legal rights to do so).

I am a gay man in a committed, healthy and loving relationship with my partner of 13 years. My sexual orientation does not grant me rights, nor should it deny me rights. My sexual orientation does not define or limit my ability to provide a healthy, loving, nurturing environment to a child. We adopted our 7-year-old son 1 year ago. While our family may not be considered "traditional", I assure you, we are a FAMILY. Everyday, we count our blessings that we found each other.

We all face challenges. We hope that living our life as an example and not a "label" will help others see that we are more alike than different.

Leanne, feel free to contact me if I can be of any help with your report.

First - all the best with your adopting and I hope you will have your child as soon as possible!

I have no problem of gay/lesbian adoption - lots of  heterosexual parents are not good parents, and that's not because of who they are with in bed. Also there are alot of single parents out there, and some that for a long time won't have a partner again or have chosen not to have one - so the child is being raised by one sex parent - and there's nothing wrong with it. There are single parents who have a best friend from the same sex, that they don't have sex with, but they see each other lots, so the child is almost being raised by two of the same kind. and if a woman friend will come to visit me and my husband is not at home for what ever the reason - I see no reason not to share my big bed with her, even if i'm not having sex with her. and my son will know that she sleeps in my bed.

as long as sex is done in private - what does it matter who the parent sleeps with? the parent can sleep with the oposite sex or the same sex or both. that's not what makes the parent a good or a bad one.

I know that when the time will come, my sex education to my son (now 4+) will be open minded, and I will also teach him about gay/lesbian relationship.

It's not just raising children and adoption - it's everything in life. i really don't care with which sex you/he/she is sleeping with. I just care about being human, honest, good, clever, funny (do I need to continue the list?)

All the best with your report and most of all - all the best with your parenting to be!

I reckon that as long as they are a "down to earth couple" not your "out there" types (like Jack on Will & Grace for example) it would be fine.  If they themselves are your regular Joe or Jane Blogs next door, and they are moral and sensible people they will probably raise a very open and honest young person with a great self esteme as they themselves would have to have a tough hide I imagine and have a personal great sense of worth.  Not that your "out there" types don't (get myself in trouble here" but I think that it is perhaps, those types like any "out there" person gay or straight that may prove to be to much of an embarrasment to a tween or teen and those years are bad enough with a perfectly great and "NORMAL" mother that is asked to drop them off around the corner to avoid embarrasment. 

I think that being raised by 2 loving caring people of the same sex would have to be better than being raised by one over worked and struggling parent, males or females.

I will say this about adoptions though.  I think that they should be for those who cannot conceive naturally on their own gay or straight.  There is in most developed countries a long waiting list as I understand it these days for children, and it is also difficult to get children from under devloped or 3rd world countries, where you end up almost buying a child through bribes etc.  I think the system needs to be looked at.  Hollywood stars who adopt children like they buy hand bags annoy me.  Do they not want to ruin their figures by bearing their own children, or what??  Sure they can afford to give a child a great and financially privelidged life, but they also tend to have to have a lot of help raising them because they work a lot, even if they say they do it all themselves.  They get these kids because of their big pay packets and the Govt officials they can bribe to get it done quickly whilst average joes desperate to share love and teach life lessons and moral values, PARENT, get let down time and again, through systems that are flawed in every country.  I only know what I have read and veiwed on shows such as "adoption" on the hallmark channel on Foxtel (Aust pay T.V.), but it seems to me it is a system that needs a world wide overhaul.

Hi there,

I think the more happy people who can adopt the better - there is so much hate in the world that if there were more people wanting to support and nurture children then maybe we could stamp it out.  Times have changed and reactions to same sex marriage or adoption by gay couples is not as taboo as it once was and I firmly believe that this will become less so as time goes on.

 

"To Each Their Own" is an ethic I live by, in All things. I refuse to choose for anyone but myself and my family, as that is the only group I believe I have a Right to choose for. If same-sex couples are loving, caring, responsible, secure, and safe, as parents, why should they Not be allowed to rear a child? There are millions of children, all over the world, who are orphaned or unwanted, or abused. The more couples, same-sex or not, that we allow to adopt children, the less starving, alone, and dying children there will be. End Rant.

I am against gay and lesbian marriage, but that said, I am for anyone who wants to adopt. I think adopting a child who needs a home and someone to care about them is a great thing. There are so many unwanted children in the world who wanders the earth not knowing what it feels like to have someone love them for who they are and not know what it feels like to have the security of always having someone there when they need someone.... these kids need someone. And if there is anyone out there, be they lesbian, gay, heterosexual willing enough to provide this to a child, I think it's very nobel and admirable.

As far as being bullied in school because they are from a homosexual household, well, kids get bullied for lesser things (not being in the "in" crowd, not wearing the "right" clothes, not looking "normal").

My opinion on this may offend some people and it is not my intention to offend it is just my opinion.

After 10 years of trying to fall pregnant adoption came up a few times and it is something that is close to mine and my hubbys heart as both himself and his sister are adopted.

BUT I am against adoption by same sex or gay couples at the end of the day I feel that they have choosen to live a life where normal reproduction can't happen therefore they have given up their right to have children.

I also feel it could have a huge effect on the child when it comes to school, other children can be so cruel, we all thought about the bullying a child may face when we choose their name so why do we not consider this when it comes to home environment.

There said it, again I will apologise if I have upset anybody but I will not apologise for my own opinion.

I really don't understand the debate about gay couples adopting, the amount of unfit hetro couples there are where kids grow up in violent homes, alchoholic parents, drug addicted parents and so on,  that doesn't mean to say that all gay couples are perfect for parenting, the amount of children there are waiting for someone to adopt and love them I don't see why it should matter, if a gay couple or hetro couple are good people with love and security to give a child then thats what should be important.    So no I have no problem with any human being with love to give adopting a child no matter what their sexuality.  Good luck with your report