When I started feeding my son I always gave him a spoon to play with as well and eventually he started mimicing me putting the spoon in his mouth and eventually started actually putting food on it.   So my son had been playing with a spoon since he was 4 months.

Also to make sure your son gets enough food you can also feed him in between while he tries to feed himself... Just hand him the spoon and see what happens...  Then well he'll do it eventually on his own.

Francis needed encouragement every now and then and in these cases he still had his spoon but I'd give him some spoonfulls myself.

Hope it helps... 

If your husband is in sooooo much of a hurry for your son to feed himself - tell him to teach him.
My husband was really big on telling me to hurray up and teach my son this or that (walking/feeding/talking). I finally blew my top at him and told hime to teach our son himself - in the end he let my son deveope at his own pace.

On the other side - anytime that your are comfortable introducting a soppn to your child is a good time. Let your son set the pace, offer him a spoon even if it is only to play with while you feed him and your son will start to show you when he is interesed in feeding himself.

when my boys were younger and wanted to feed themselves i used to use a clean sheet lay it on the floor and let then eat that way, not only does this save your carpets from getting food all over them but the independence the child feels is amazing, and its also fun for them too, if the hands are used to eat, let them be, your child will use a spoon in their own time so tell hubby baby eating on the floor and he is going to have fun doing it. Im going to use this method with my 7  month old when he is ready and cant wait

Hi just let him develop at his own pace if he wants to try let him my youngest son was nearly three before he had even a reasonable idea how to get food on a spoon to his mouth with any degree of accuracy and while that is due to his disability he is now ten and he still makes a mess down his clothes and on the table and floor. Just tell your husband to chill and not to rush your son as he will miss out on all the wonderful stages in his life by forcing the issue and your son will grow to resent the pressure that is being put on him.

He will do it in his own time before you know it he will be taking the spoon off you and doing it himself. Of course show him how it is done and give him an extra spoon to play with when you are feeding him but don't stress, and tell the hubby to read all of this advice!

Whenever you feed him give him a spoon to hold. He will start to use it when he is ready. You can encourage him by putting some food on the spoon and then giving to him but if he has too much trouble don't stress, leave it for a while and then try again.

Tell you hubby to take a chill pill, lol. He's only 1! My goodness! Does you hubby have him enrolled in school already too? lol.

just give him a bowl of food and a spoon under him put some newspaper or shower curtin or a sheet and then just let him go. he will love it. my daughter 20months has been feeding he self for quite some time now but there is still a bit of mess. i put a towel on her lap now. there are no rules in when to do this and that for babys they are all different. your hubby probally just wants to give you more time to your self by allowing teaching your son to feed him self. have fun 

My daughter has been seeing a speach therapist for a while because she wasn't into solids at all. She's now just about at normal stage for her age (nearly 11 months) however the other day when the speachy was here, she noticed that I withdrew the spoon when my daughter began waving her arms around I thought this was her signal that she didn't want anymore, but the speachy told me to pop he hand on the spoon infront of my own and my daughter expetly guided it into her mouth like an old pro.  so everytime she waves now, this is what we do.  The speachy said that this was a great way with limited mess to get them into the hand to mouth co-ordination as is eating finger food (whch we do for lunch with a plastic table cloth as a drop cloth on the floor.....the dogs love it lol)

I also give my daughter a spare spoon which she loves to practice with inbetween mouthfuls.

Hope this helps.

My first thought is that it's fine to start introducing a spoon to a one year old, but don't expect much to get in the mouth. I found that sometimes I was willing to let my son "use" a spoon, but at first it's very messy and not really equal to eating. That's fine. Sometimes, though, at that age I just didn't feel like a huge mess and didn't give him a spoon. It's great to let them try, but feel free to not choose to on a day when you're not up for it. Like other activities for kids that age, everything is experimental. Some things you introduce, see how he responds, and then choose to wait another month or 6 weeks before trying again.

My second thought is, let your husband sit with your son while he uses the spoon. Perhaps he's already done this, but if not, it will certainly give him the opportunity to see that it's quite messy, etc. It might open up a discussion between you too of why he really wants your son to be using a spoon at this age, and why you might not be as inclined or interested in that particular skill. I know when my husband and I switch tasks that the other usually does, it opens our eyes to see things we hadn't before and usually leads to some greater understanding between us, sometimes brainstorming a challenge.

Good luck!