my son is 5y/o and when he started to discover what fellings were i started to teach him public and privet places you did not tell us how old so i just thought i would share what i did i got happy and sad faces and we coloured them in and we played a game of when people would like to see him and when people would not so when they were happy or sad but you also have to becarful not to let them see nudity as being rude because u were born without cloths but there is just a right time and a wrong time to be nude and in your case who to be naked infrount off. i hope this helps.Merry chrismas!!!  

Going off the handle won't help,I would be explaining this behaviour is for adults not little people.Keep your explanations simple.I know sex is rampant on TV and suggestive behaviour is not just kept for late night viewers.Kids are very perceptive as you would know,and as such we as parents have to monitor every program on TV.My husband and I also have to watch our own behaviour in front of our little girl.There are many good story books that break the explanations down to a kids level extremely well.Go to your library or book shop and they should be able to provide you with some great tools to help you with this sticky problem.regards Merle

This can be tricky because if you respond in the wrong way they can start to see sex as a bad thing and that can affect them negatively for the rest of their lives. They shouldn't be punished for imitating a learned behavior because that's what children do.

Regardless of their age, they have obviously been exposed to sex so they should at this point be properly schooled on what sex is in an appropriate manner for their age. I would also try to learn exactly where they learned this behavior, again, without making them feel guilty or as though they were doing something wrong. It's possible they learned it from movies, but it's also possible they learned it somewhere else... so for your sake and theirs find out.

To give you an example of how I handled a situation sort of like this once: I was a nanny for a little girl who was 4 at the time. She learned that if she played with her privates it gave her a good feeling and believe it or not she actually had orgasms. The problem with it was that she had a tendency to do it right in front of her older brothers and in the open where anyone could see her.

I spoke to her dad about it and he preferred that I handled it (because she didn't have a mother figure at the time and he didn't want to upset her). So I told her that what she was doing wasn't wrong, but it was a very personal thing and that in the future she should do it in her room or in the bathroom. To tell her she couldn't do it at all would have made her feel as though she was doing something wrong (and although I know a lot of people will disagree with this), she wasn't doing anything wrong at all.

Obviously telling your kids to do this privately wouldn't be a good idea, but maybe explain to them that what they are imitating is something two grown people who are in love would do. Let them know that their curiosity is okay, and that you'll answer whatever questions they have, but it's not a behavior that is appropriate for a brother and a sister to take part in.

Once you have explained it to them and satisfied their curiosity (because afterall they are just trying to figure out what it's all about) the behavior should stop on its own. If it doesn't then consider getting outside help with a professional who can better explain to them what they are experiencing.

I agree with what everyone has been saying. Don't let your children watch inapproiate shows on tv and talk to them about this. If you have to take some toys away or privilages your children enjoy and when you see improvement (them not doing this anymore) give them their toys/privilages back. Good luck!

just wondering how old your children are?

Hi there,  Buy a tastefully book about sex for there age group and sit down with them and explain that what they are doing is wrong but it is a beautiful act between two adults who love each as I don't believe any child is to young to be aware of the wrongs and rights about such things.  Change the channel when adult movies come on TV as they don't need to be exposed to that and the language that is also used.

Sorry I cannot offer you any advice on how to stop this. My brothers and I apparently were busted by my real father playing Dr's and nurses when we were about 6 ish and my real father took this as a sign I was being sexually abused and got me examined etc. Not something a young child should have to go through.

i'd like to point out that in early civilization there was no taboo on sex. Children often saw their paretns and other adults having sex and often practiced before they reached puberty. This practice was encouraged. Special ceremonies were performed to acknowledge puberty and certain customs determined when males and females could mate. It is only in modern society that sex has become so taboo that when kids actually reach puberty the only things they know about sex is what they see on TV or hear in the schoolyard.

Perhaps (depending on age) talking to your kids about what they were doing and why and then explaining about sex properly. I doubt if they were fully aware of what they were actually doing.

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My dear one, Firstly if your children watch late night movies with too much sex scenes kindly put a stop to it. Secondly I do believe they are practising what they see on TV. If they do not watch it anymore on TV it might help them to forget about it and put a stop to it. You did not state their ages so I cannot say if it is time for you to educate them on sex. However to prevent it from happening again do please have a talk with the two of them that it is not right for them to do so in a positive way. And also how did you react the first time you saw them together? I do hope this will help you. Do please keep in touch to let me know if the above helps. Merry christmas and a happy new year