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mama03
mama03 | December 2006

My son is driving me crazy with tears!!

My son is 3.  Last week he came down with a stomach virus (fever, diarrhea).  His fever broke on Sat & the diarrhea stopped also.  However he is still crying & complaining about his stomach.  He is also making up things to cry about, "My foot is broken,"  "My finger broke," "I bit my lip."  These all the excuse he made yesterday for his crying.  I spent 4 hours of one on one time with him today & still he is crying & fussing.  This is not like him, he loves to laugh & play & all he wants to do is lay around & cry!!  What on earth can I do to get to to SNAP OUT OF IT???

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Marlena
December 2006 | Marlena
My son is driving me crazy with tears!!
You know when you get sick you can soemtimes get aches and pains.....Well maybe he is feeling this and can pin point where the pain is coming from.  Have you taken him tp the doctor?


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jimannakateen
December 2006 | jimannakateen
My son is driving me crazy with tears!!

I you fell he is making it up u r prob rite. Its amazing what we do for our kids wen they are sick lol. If there is other sibling its worse. He is crying out for your FULL attention becuase he got it wen he was sick.  Ignore Ignore He will give up at the end and find his order in the pack again.

Good luck



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breannababy
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | breannababy
My son is driving me crazy with tears!!
Hi there, Gosh I know how I feel after bugs like this......He is probably still very weak from his illness,it can take awhile to re-cooperate from tummy bugs.And don't we know how whiney  they can be until they are mended LOL Sorry to say you are probably going to have to put up with it until he is back to his old self.If he is still off colour to much longer I would get him checked over by your doctor.Yoghurt helps in these situations as well as making sure he is still having plenty of fluids,he could still be a tad dehydrated.good luck regards Merle


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Norby
4.63 (Excellent) | December 2006 | Norby
My son is driving me crazy with tears!!

First, get him checked by your doctor to make sure there are no problems. He could also still be feeling unwell, even though the symptoms are gone. I know when I get a stomach bug, I feel pretty awful for up to a week after all the iccky stuff has cleared up.

If he doesnt stop sooking soon, did he get a lot more attention whilst he was sick then normal? I'm not suggesting that you usually ignore him, but when one of my boys are sick, I tend to hover over them. If he has younger siblings (who need more time spent on feeding, nappies, naps etc) the extra attention may have been pretty cool. He may now have the idea that "Mummy comes running when I cry"

This can be really difficult to overcome, as no Mum wants to see their little one cry. If he is crying over a broken foot or finger - put a magic 'wiggles' bandaid on, give him a hug and leave him to cry. (Checking regularly or waiting outside the room). If he says he has a sore tummy, check for fever first, then tell him that "sick boys have to stay quiet in bed", remove all toys and books from his reach, and put him to bed. Do not stay in the room with him

He will soon get the message that Mummy loves him, but he gets better time with Mummy when he is not crying.



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Cathbuzz
5.00 (Excellent) | December 2006 | Cathbuzz
My son is driving me crazy with tears!!

Be patient. Is it possible he still really does feel bad, or are you pretty sure he's faking it? If you think he might be sick, tell him that he's crying so much that he must need to go to the doctor.

If you think he's manipulating, think of the special things and attention he's gotten from you while he was sick, and stop providing it. Go back to healthy mode. Mine is 3.5 and she does things like that too when she wants something that I won't give her. Magically she falls down and hurts herself. It's her last ditch effort to try and get her way. I express some sympathy (just in passing while I carry on with my business) and give her a pat on the head but otherwise ignore it. She gets the message eventually.

If you need to pull out the stops, you can tell him that if he's sick and whiney then he must be too sick to go outside to play or must be too sick to stay up late. Best go to bed early. You get the idea ;)



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