just as they tell you srt8 out to give some to your child you tell  them st8 out no im not going to and my child dosent need it ,, they have baby bars in wollies strawberrie and so on i give them and saultanas to my boy and take them with me ever where i go ,, we are also offered junk food i just say no thanks he likes these

You are the parent not your partners family. You will get a lot of "advice" (which is a nice way of saying the requests and pressure people will put on you to do parenting their way). It is your decision. Personally I agree with you. I have a 7 week old and am not planning on giving her sweets until she is probably two, and then only a hershey's kiss or a little ice cream. Too many children are spoiled and get treats too often. It should be a reward and you are promoting healthy eating habits. When I was younger my sisters and I only were allowed sweets once a week and we are all healthy and happy. Never feel like you need to change your opinions or parenting style b/c of anyone but your own opinions or your partners. You alone know what is best for your child.

Good on you. , they want to help, but it is your decision, i don't know if they will ever stop hasslling you but they feel it is there job.  Just keep it up it's your choice.

i know exactly how you feel the same thing happens to me from my mum. her kids are always allowed junk and my little boy very rarely has it.but when we go over my mums she always tries to feed him chocolate etc... but he has learnt to say "no thanks it's not healthy for me and i don't wanna grow up to be sick"how cute is that? lol then she goes on about how i'm depriving my kids yada yada but you know what? what your doing is great too many kids these days are over weight and its because there parents feed them crap. keep doing what your doing coz in the end your kid will be very grateful.

hi i still go thru this and my oldest is 9 yrs. I never gave my little ones junk when they were that small.I think it was when they were around 2is i  let them have something like candy.I don't give my children pop either. I have inlaws that have tried constantly to give them junk and i just say i would like it if they wouldn't do that and if they do i go over take it away from them and then tell them again i do not allow junk food.Even now i give them limited junk and no pop. My older one has tried pop and decided she doesn'y like it anyways,If you don't want your little one to eat junk then be strong say no, take it away do whatever you have to do.It's your baby not the grandparents.

hi i had the same problems with my family for a long time until my girls where old enough to say for themselves we dont eat that, or even more so we dont like that. now when they go to my parents house there is special healthy treats for them and guess what the other cousins even prefer to have what my girls are having!

so stick to your guns, it is your choice and a good choice at that, you are showing how much you care by ensuring the best start for your little one and setting really good eating habits at such a young age is the only way to ensure their future tastes!

I would just tell them "Thanks for the advice, but what I am doing now is what I feel is best for her, and I'm going to continue following my instincts. When I feel she is ready for junk food ( if ever ), I will give it to her. "

She is your child and you should raise her how you want to. (As long as what you are doing is having a positive affect on your child, and I couldn't imagine that not giving her junk food would hurt her!)

so basically say "thanks, but no thanks." I don't think that should offend anyone.

 

i have to say that i know exactly how you feel as i have a 13month old daughter and i give her no junk food what so ever. my daughter loves to eat the little fruit bars that i give her but whenever i take her to my mothers she gets give chocolate buttons and alll sorts of junk. it seems that no matter what i say they go ahead and do what they want anyway!what are we supposed to do?

Hi ange, stick to your guns....I have never given my three children fizzy drinks eg. coke they are now 12, 9 and 8 and won't drink any type of soft drink....I've had a few comments especially when visiting people and they go to pull out soft drink and I say they have never had it and don't like it.  Some have thought it wierd hey but at least their not drinking all that sugar!!

I also work in a school and I see the difference in learning with kids that eat healthy and ones that don't and believe me you would want your daughter to eat healthy.

My personal opion is that if you fell that u dont want to give ur child junk thats up to u and u shouldnt feel pressured to do so( no matter how it is). But i will say one thing and dont take it the wrong way and that is if u dont give ur child no junk wen they become the age to make there own decisions on wat food they will by from the shop  or eat a birthday parties i can tell you it wont be  a healthy choice because it would  be like the forbidden fruit mum and dad dont let me have it so i going to have it.  I was one of three of those children that didnt c lollies and chips until i was 4,  well i thought i was in heaven wen i saw the junk at a party . Mum said after that we would go a look for that type of food(junk) and eat it until it made us physically sick. Now with the forster children she has they are allowed one treat a week and thats on the same day every week and they look forward to it.

I admire ur strength to not give in though.

You do what ur heart is saying and not wat the family  wants u to do.

Hi there. To begin with 13months is a little young I think to start giving junk food to a child. When they're older I personally dont think a little here and there as a treat is a problem but dont listen to your family telling you to give your child it unless you want too.

The fact is all people should know that healthy foods produce healthy bodies.

Its your child and if they enjoy the healthy food your giving them then theres no problem at all.

Good luck,

samchic

a little chocolate now and then is ok, chocolate has its benefits. lol. other than that i think your choice to feed your child all healthy foods is very responsible and is done out of love. one day your child will thank you for it.

i don't have children but i do take care of two younger sisters, they are old enough to appreciate that i care enough about them to feed them only healthy foods. they are rewarded occasionally but generally are now accustomed to healthy foods and wouldn't really miss junk food if it were banned completely.

in conclusion, your choice to feed your child all healthy foods is something i personally plan to do when i have kids. you are dong the right thing so please don't let your in laws or anyone else tell you different. 

Hi, aren't inlaws charming! Stick to what you think is best! As they say - mother know best! It is your child and your rules and people should be respectful of this - my inlaw family do similar things to me and my decisions! They laught and snigger behind my back on a regular basis with they ways in which my husband and myself look after our child! lol

hi i cant see where you are doing anything wrong, as if your chilsd is eating healthy now, why change it.and at that age they dont really know the diffrence between good or bad food. I would kindly let the in laws know that the statitics if you are in  australia obesity in children are  high,Once your little one is older she definetly make the choices for you, believe me i have a3 year old that i allowed to fall in that trap, and you dont to go there.Another way you could approach them is to say you really feel,uncomfortable, and could they respect your wishes.

A little bit of junk food won't hurt, but giving your child a lot will, so just be careful with it, only give your child junk food once a month or so as a treat. My son is now 13, he used to have a McDs or KFC once a week and he's still a healthy child, he's not overweight or anything either. But really your partners family should allow you to decide what's best for YOUR child, it's not them that will have to deal with the consequences if your child does get addicted to junk food. I'm assuming you're referring to KFC and McDs food as junk food, rather than something like pizza, because pizza is actually quite a good food really, if it's cooked properly and only has a healthy topping. If you mean snacks like crisps (chips) or anything like that, then I would say, it's still OK to give them to your child occasionally, my son used to have them almost every day in his sandwich box for school, but personally I wouldn't give a 13 month old baby crisps in case they choke on them. Bear in mind it's YOUR child, not theirs, things were different when your in-laws were bringing up their children, all in all, it's entirely up to you.

You are the mother not them... I personally think kids shouldnt eat junk.... but occasionally ok...

I really see no need to ever give a child junk food ...  hint its JUNK food :-)
Sure when they are older and want some every so often, thats fine, but at 13 months why would you want to give a child stuff that is patently bad for her.

why, what have they said?