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Dawdling children
My 3 year old has become a dawdler! I never thought someone who keeps a fast pace about what she does would become a dawdler. I have been late for work a couple of times because I've sent her to make her bed and she hasn't done it, she sat in front of her breakfast this morning for half an hour before I told her it's gone bad and threw it out. She threw a tantrum over it and said she wasn't finished it yet. Seriously though, it does not take that long to have a bowl of muesli! I told her to go and choose her clothes and she took about 20 minutes and had pulled everything out of her draw. I did her hair, she pulled it out and said she wants it in 2 pony tails. I did it like she wanted, she pulled it out again and said she wants the top part done in 2 parts, so I did it that way. I have taken her to daycare before with her hair out because she's taken it out in the car or I haven't had time to redo it at home when she's pulled it out. There are comments about how I haven't brushed her hair and they do it at daycare, then in the afternoon the staff remind me to do her hair each day as expected! How do I get her back into the habit of hurrying in the morning instead of playing around and pulling her hair out and taking her clothes off. If I take her naked I'm sure there'll be more than just a couple of comments! How do other people manage?
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night prep
My oldest used to do this and it was very frustrating, especially the clothes part. She would sometimes change 3 times before she got the right combo. Finally, I started doing the clothes choosing at night. She chooses what she wears at night for the next day. She picks a blouse, a pant/short, socks, and even her hair accessory. She lays it in a box in her room and that's what she'll wear--no changing her mind. At school she learned a term from the teacher, "you get what you get and you don't throw a fit." and we apply that and she seems content. She dresses herself after going potty. As for the eating in the morning. I found that the TV was interfering so we don't watch tv sometimes in the morning w/breakfast. That is always the threat, if too slow on eating, i"ll turn off the tv. Some people have used charts in the morning, I haven't tried that. The other thing is expectations...I think 3 yrs old is too young to do the bed but that is my opinion. What I am saying is, don't set your expectations too high, or you will both be disappointed thus the frustration. Good luck...
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Thanks, I'll try this. I get everything else ready the night before. She doesn't have much hair so the hair accessories are just those little hair ties you get in packs of 100 at the cheap shops. She is only 3, so I don't think a clock would help. Even if she can see what time it is, she has little concept of how long 5 minutes is if you know what I mean, but getting her clothes ready the night before might be of help. I'm not at work today, but tonight I'll try getting her to choose her clothes. She's been making her bed since she got her bed at 2. It's only got a fitted sheet on it that if it comes off she needs my help to get it back on, so she just needs to pull her blanket up and put the pillow on top. I know it sounds harsh when I say she has to make her bed, but it's very basic with just 1 fitted sheet, a blanket and a pillow. I've never let her watch tv while she's eating, so I don't know why it takes that long to eat it some days. She has skipped breakfast a couple of times, this morning she sat down at 7 to have breakfast and was finished in less than 10 minutes so i praised her lots for that. She's done everything today and it's 7:50, the time I would normally be leaving the house for work. It's been after 8 before I leave the house sometimes. Pity it's not a work day today, and we don't have to leave the house until 9 for swimming lessons!
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Dawdling children
I do it the way that tells her that we're running out of time, and I will take away her breakfast if she takes too long, I will choose her clothes for her and dress her myself if she takes too long, I will make her bed myself too if needed. The daycare centre has after school care kids who bring headlice with them and keeping their hair tied up is one way of preventing it. Although my daughter has very fine, short hair and hasn't had headlice before, they make it a rule that children who's hair can be tied up must have it tied up. They have a higher standard than most centres, which is one reason I send her there. If she misses breakfast in the morning, I tell them and they give her a bigger serve of fruit and raw veges for morning tea. They provide lunch and parents take things in to share with the whole group for morning tea and afternoon tea. She's only ever skipped breakfast twice, but this dawdling has only been going on a week. Also, if i'm on an early start and she has to be there at 6 I take her to daycare still in pjs and she has breakfast, gets dressed and brushes her teeth at daycare. The staff have to brush her teeth for her as I don't allow to do it, she can't do it thoroughly enough yet. They do her hair for her too, she always has detangling spray, comb and hair ties in the front pocket of her bag for those times when they have to do it in the mornings or when she needs it done again through the daycare because it got messy. As you can see in the pic she has short, fine hair anyway.
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