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Rosa3
Rosa3 | February 2007

4yr. son frustrated with other children taunting him.

Need help.  My 4-year-old son has been telling me that he hates school and that he hates the kids.  Have finally observed that children are taunting him and my son doesn't know how to deal with it.  My son's teacher has told me that he tends to yell, scream gets upset during outdoor playtime.  I have noticed that a little girl has been saying hurtful things to my son.  One day at the playground the little girl told him "You are gross".  She then proceeded to have another child say the same thing and repeat it again and again.  My son ran away from them and yelling I hate you, leave me alone, I don't want to play with you but the children continued to follow him and taunt him.  All I could tell my son was to not listen to them and to play with me on his own.  He then told me that he hated me.  I suppose he wanted me to some how defend him but I felt that the parents should have said something.  Finally the parents told the kids to stop taunting him and to apologize.  My son refused their apology.  He then ran away and then the kids continued to say "You are gross".  Help, what can I do to help my son.  I have told him to tell his teacher when this occurs.  I plan on talking to the teacher about this.

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violeta
February 2007 | violeta
4yr. son frustrated with other children taunting him.
ok one question WHERE ARE THE TEACHERS when this is going on. as much as teaching and making them understand (I mena the kids) the teachers have to see and recognise what is going on. How sad that your child should experience this at such a young age and for the teachers to over look the problem. I would in your place talk to who ever is in charge but make sure he is ok with the outcome the last thing you want is to "sort the situation" but for him not to have many friends and hating school. If its an option change school.


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MummaBear
February 2007 | MummaBear
4yr. son frustrated with other children taunting him.
These girls are probably only 4 as well.  I would try to work out with the teacher some things he might be able to say or do to protect himself from them and to maybe put a stop to it that way.  It's a hard one when the children are so young, although they certainly know what they are doing! Maybe get the teacher to call the parents of the other children and have a conference, as they may be at a loss as to what to do about it.  This is what worked in my Prep class at daycare once when we had trouble with 3 of the children 'ganging up' on another child. They never became friends, but it put an end to what was going on with them.  It's very individual though so whatever you do will be unique to your child and the other children and that situation.  Good luck, fingers crossed.


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      Rosa3
February 2007 | Rosa3
4yr. son frustrated with other children taunting him.
Thank you so much for your suggestion.  After reading everyones comments I started thinking that maybe they should spend a day teaching all of the children about words that are hurtful and not to use them and also about teasing how that will not be tolerated.  I know that some teachers believe in having children communicate their feelings with each other and apologizing to each other but I feel that their should be some kind of  consequence.    THank you again and will definitely talk to his teacher today.  I am so glad to be a part of minti.


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rockclimbr4400
February 2007 | rockclimbr4400
4yr. son frustrated with other children taunting him.
I would talk to the teacher and tell her she needs to control her class. These children should face serious consequences for acting in this horrific manner. If you don't get this to stop by having a talk with your childs teacher, I would go then to the principal. Children need to learn to say something nice or say nothing at all. I am sorry for your son's feelings being hurt. I would not just accept this (as you are not) even if it takes some fighting on your part (not literally, but you may need to push the matter if the teacher isn't making it stop on her own). If this doesn't stop, I would request for him to be put in another class. Good luck to you and your son.


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      Rosa3
February 2007 | Rosa3
4yr. son frustrated with other children taunting him.
THank you so much for your suggestion.  Seems like everyone definitely is saying talk to the teacher.  I will definitely be talking to her today.  Wish me luck!!  Thank you for your words.


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      Rosa3
February 2007 | Rosa3
4yr. son frustrated with other children taunting him.
Totally agree with you.  You know I figure that they could actually put a stop to this since their school is so small and they have 1 teacher per 8 kids.  I know that they have 16 kids at a time at the playground with two teachers watching them.  I am definitely talking to the teacher about this today.  I will definitely not be confrontational but will really express my concern and in hopes that she can come up with some solution or I already have a suggestion which is spend a day teaching all of the children about words that are hurtful and not to use them and also about teasing how that will not be tolerated.    THank you again.  I am so glad to be a part of minti.


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      Omegastar
February 2007 | Omegastar
4yr. son frustrated with other children taunting him.
where I am that is considered bullying no matter what the age and there is zero tolerence for it. Talk to teh teacher, if that doesn't work go straight to the head person. No child should have to hate school because of mean kids.


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           Rosa3
February 2007 | Rosa3
4yr. son frustrated with other children taunting him.
THank you so much for your suggestion.  Seems like everyone definitely is saying talk to the teacher.  I will definitely be talking to her today.  Wish me luck!!  Thank you for your words.


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