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trixie30
trixie30 | January 2007

report abuse or not

I am at my wits end as the neighbour has moved in bout 5 days again and they have a new born baby and a child and all you can hear is the baby cryiong non stop and the child getting yelled at all the time-i mean i went out to see on what was going on and the lady was holding the baby and i saw her slap the new born over the head twice.I understand that babies do cry as that why i went out as i was concerned to -but when i saw the lady slap the new born twice i felt sick.I dont want to be a noisy neighbour but i hate anyone doing that they kids or anyones What u think report or not?they are in a goverment housing.....

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iamschild
September 11th | iamschild
Re: report abuse or not

This is NOT something to dither about. I know I'm long after the fact, since you wrote this over a year ago, but to anyone reading this now.... PLEASE IF YOU EVER WITNESS SOMETHING LIKE THIS

REPORT IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That babies life may depend on it!.

It doesn't matter what kind of housing she lives in. It doesn't matter if she's a young mom or an old mom. You do not ever EVER hit an infant for crying! Any of you who are parents must almost puke seeing this kind of thing happen. I have no kids, and it makes me mad. It makes me glad to be a child protection worker so that I can go tell that parent to STOP IT or Else! And if there's a second report, I now have the peace of mind of knowing there is a safe baby... even if baby's not with mommy any more.

Sorry guys, but this kind of scenario has a high escalation factor. you saw two hits. But what about a bad day? What about when baby cries more because of being hit? What about the psychological and emotional harm to that baby! No, we wouldn't goof around with this one. One warning, straighten up, see what your doing, get parenting and help coping, or you may just lose your baby. One strike, your out with infants. We do NOT mess around with babies!

I appologise if my passion offends anyone. I can't stand this kind of situation, and it cuts close to some real cases where I apprehended babies in the middle of the night....

Contact me if you have any questions.

I Am's Child.



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cassaustin
January 2008 | cassaustin
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What an aweful thing to witness!! I would be straight on the phone to Docs and the police. I know that it may seem like none of your business, seen as how it is just your neighbour, but that is a precious childs life that she is damaging.

I dont think it matters where they live, those kids deserve a happy life, not to be yelled at and slapped across the head.



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whome
January 2008 | whome
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you seen her what? well im sorry but id have slapped her twice round the headits storys like this that end up with the child dead never mind being nosey sort it an fast


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brandy
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | brandy
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please please report this as soon as poss. if you have not already.i have had to report a niebour before.it took a long time for the police to do any thing.so i just called them out every night till they took notice.we ended up recording the abuse so they could listen.it payed off in the end.the young lad went to a better place and was looked after.at the end of the day it could only be you that can help.good luck x x


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telly07
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | telly07
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YES!!! I would and quick.  I was just reading an article about alil boy who was beaten to death in a foster home.  He lived a short 2 yr. life taken from an abused and neglected home. So yes I think I would report it



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MelodyS
February 2007 | MelodyS
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If you have any doubts as to whether or not to contact authorities...I could tell you the horror stories of my 3 sons (adopted) and the other children I fostered.  Two were severely abused from birth to age 1 year , one was neglected from birth to 2 months, and people "turned their heads" and did not report their suspicions.

Better to err on the side of caution for the sake of the children.


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cazza
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | cazza
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hi  i have just came in and being told about this story, and it concerns me a great deal, as a foster mum/mum of 3, it makes you wonder why she is doing this... I agree with what everyone elses advise, and please let us know how you got on.. Another suggestion is maybe you could befriend her, and see what support she has, now you probaly thinking what, i think sometimes people handle stress diffrent, and yes there is no excuse towards child abuse, but maybe she will open up to you whats wrong... Also if you have a community centre in your area, there are family support workers there, and they may have contact with this mum and now her situation... It is hard to watch, and i know first hand as we have kids that come and go from our house all the time... Good luck and i hope this mum gets the support she needs...


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Leanne07
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | Leanne07
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Oh my god,  get that child out of there yesturday!!


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pagan-mum-of-three
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | pagan-mum-of-three
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REPORT IT. What she has done is wrong. It needs to be stopped NOW before something bad happens.


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mandymum3
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | mandymum3
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please report her, be strong, you are not being nosey at all.


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claudine1
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | claudine1
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u need to. It is a responsibility we have towards those little angels.Call child protection but don't say ur name. If u have neighbors who are ur friends invite them over when u hear abuse happen or ask them if they heard something before and ask them to call also anonymous. U can mention that u live in same building if u want but u need to call. If they don't do anything at least u tried.Take care and thanks for caring. So many people out there would love to have a child to adore but can't and than we see those as.... that abuse them, it makes me sick.


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      claudine1
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | claudine1
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Also i forgot to say, call everyday, askfor the same social worker everytime, eventually they will act on it if u keep on calling. Call when u hear the abuse and if it is possible make them listen over the phone what u hear by putting the phone against the wall or something. I don't know how loud u can hear it in ur appartment but sometimes the walls are pretty thin.


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lucky321
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | lucky321
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Your not being noise  at all . Hitting a new born is toatly wrong report it asp ,TO chid services and anyone else . That poor baby  its just mades cry to hear things like this .

                                 I wouldnt think twice about reporting this mother as she dosent desevered to have this baby .You be doing the right thing for this child and any other children she has in her care , as you dont know what she be doing to them .



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Deborahsc2203
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | Deborahsc2203
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S *&^%%^       report it  asap and keep doing it untill you get some action for that poor innocent baby


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monyq83
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2007 | monyq83
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jesus christ, report her before she kills the baby for christ sakes!!!

my son (well he is my step son but shhh dont tell no body, as far as im concerned he came out of me lol) anyway his birth mother had pnd and broke his bottom ribs when he was 3mths old. seriously if she has a problem you need to intervene ASAP before its too late. imagine if she kills the baby, you would feel guilty for the rest of your life!



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franni
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | franni
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i would tell the goverment of housing. they will contact welfare.
or go straight to welfare, she obviously is having problems with the baby. and needs serious help if she is hitting a newborn thats child abuse.
go report it now.


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      trixie30
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | trixie30
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Yes i thought the same thing post tramatic depression its sad as u wouldnt exspet that of a mother but i suppose whenu dont feel well u do stupid things and i umderstand what can happen if u dont get it checked out its sad thanks for the advice


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Marguerite
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | Marguerite
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Like everyone else is telling you - you need to report this immediately to both the local police and the Department of Human Services.  You have witnessed an assault.  You have also witnessed a mother who is not coping with her responsibility of having a newborn and needs to be relieved of that responsibility before she kills her child (accidental or not). Don't waste any time.  It is targic when a newborn is killed by its mother for both the newborn and the mother (who, more often than not) is suffering from post-natal psychosis. Hurry. Report it now!


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      trixie30
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | trixie30
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I will have a chat with the child abuse prevention area in the cop station i will see what they will say hey?thanks for the reponse


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lexiw
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | lexiw
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Please report it. That baby is in danger and imagine how you would feel if the woman killed the baby and you did not report it. I know I could not live with myself if it was me. This is what I always think of in situations like this and unfortunately I have seen alot of this type of thing.

  Lexi xxx



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      trixie30
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | trixie30
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Thanks heaps for the advice its sad how a mother can do that to your baby i mean babies are so defensless and they can only cry when they need something its horrible to see a mother do that hey?


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emily123
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | emily123
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Report  immediatly wether they are govenrment housing or not abuse is a abuse... do the right thing and report it now.... You may of seen the baby being slapped a couple of times but who knows what happens behind closed doors... Please report this....


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      trixie30
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | trixie30
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thanks for sharing your advice i will report it as like u said u dont no what happens with closed doors its scarey hey????thanks again


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4BOYZ
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | 4BOYZ
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report for sure as a concerned parent. You never know the next time may be more then 2 slaps to the head. The kids deserve better. Those kids will never forget that the lady next door saved them. Call docs asap.


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      trixie30
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | trixie30
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Thanks heaps i will report it for sure its horrible to see as you look at such a small baby and someone slapping it ,its horrible kids and babies need better than that hey


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Wendigo
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | Wendigo
Report it - NOW!

Here's some advice you can read about it if you are still not sure...

Reporting Child Abuse - all the questions answered.

Zero Tolerance

Shaken Baby Syndrome

If you read these and still have any doubts, phone and report it anyway.  And keep reporting every little thing that you feel isn't right until something is done about it.  If you don't, how will you feel when a tiny little body is being taken out of the house on a stretcher with the sheet over it's head?  Sorry if that seems a bit dramatic, but it's reality.



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      trixie30
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | trixie30
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i will have alook at the sites and see what the procedures as what got my attention was when the baby was like crying but was in a high pitch like its in fear or something thats why i went out and i will chat to the welfare as its complety unfair and its true i dont want the baby dead or the child its a very cruel world-i was adopted for the similar reasons is i do have a large inpac on my feelings well thanks for the quick response


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           Wendigo
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | Wendigo
You're welcome.

Thank you for breaking the silence and speaking up.

I'm on a personal anti-abuse crusade, and anytime I see any post like this I jump on it immediately and I jump hard.  Every time I login to minti I check Q&A for anything like this as one of the first things I do, and then I check back regularly while I'm on, and that's why I found your post about 15 minutes after you wrote it.

I put the link to the shaken baby advice just as a point that if shaking a baby can do that sort of terrible damage, imagine what a slap around the head can do to a young child!  The link to zero tolerance is a personal story and an exellent example of how so many people think they can keep a situation under control without reporting it, and shows how it doesn't work.  The other one has all the contact info and all the answers to the usual questions people want to ask when they are faced with having to make a report.  Hope it helps.

Cheers, Wendy.



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MadMel
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | MadMel
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U need to report it. And anything else you see needs to be reported. DO NOT give up. I had to report someone 6 times before welfare even visited!


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      trixie30
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | trixie30
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Thanks heaps u would think that they would do something ASAP hey expecially when it comes to your baby and child


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breannababy
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | breannababy
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Report this immediately,this could mean a baby's life.


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      trixie30
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | trixie30
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I will report as i dont want to see anything happened if i couldve stopped it thanks for your advice


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      trixie30
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | trixie30
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i agree on that statement i just felt being noisy but when i saw the abuse it  made me  really mad its horrible to see hey?


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      Jessgore
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2007 | Jessgore
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Agreed....  You may just save a life...

Good luck.... 


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