hey mel

i no its hard but you do have to leave them and let them cry otherwise your baby will expect you to be there everytime he fallas asleep. they say that everything new takes time i think its a 7 day cycle correct me if i am wrong but its 7 or longer. thats how long things take when you teach a baby new things like sleeping ,toilet training etc.

still say goodnight read a book do what you have to do and then leave the room yes they will cry but eventually he will fall asleep and then he will get used to having to do this. i have 3 kids and i have done it to mine you feel shit doing it but it works in your favour eventually

good luck !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have twin month old twins 9 mths old I recently took away there morning naps and started puttin them down at 12:30 for there afternoon nap.  They now sleep once a day for 2 hours and sleep through the night 12 hours.   This is really working for me.

It sound as if you done everything. well done

what a loving mummy ...........

hang in there ..  everytime my little one stands up i dont put him down etc,, i just read my mags etc ,, while im in his room at times if he wont settle and eventually he just lays himself down and crashes out ,, i dont over stimutate him as he seamed  to think at first that was the routten every time he went to bed . you got  your little one to sleep by patting him... you might of found out at whats helps him to settle  if the patting did it then thats your key

I tried controlled crying with both my kids.  This last time, I failed miserably.  I would let him cry but when nothing improved after 3days I gave in.  He was too young. With my 1st son however, he was about 18months old and I just left him to cry and it worked fine.  Some times it would take an hour or more for him to fall asleep and I hated the sound of him crying so I would ring a friend to take my mind off it.  Before I knew it the noise had stopped.  You being in the room with him might be a problem for him?  Some kids go better if you are not there?  If you arent comfortable with him screaming, dont beat yourself up over it, just means you love the little tyke! 

My heart goes out to you because I remember all of this so vividly and am not looking forward to experiencing it again with my next child.  We ahve already conversed about this issue so I wont take it any further than that but I really do think you have to follow your own instincts on these things as well.  Good luck and please look after yourself.

Before you put him in bed read him a story Then give kisses and cuddles, lay him in bed and walk out of the room. He will cry and carry on for a while, but don't go in the room. Eventually he will work out when mummy says good night or what ever you say. That there is no point on crying cause your not coming. He will learn to just go to sleep. Hope this helps.

sounds like you did a perfect job to me. Its very hard to listen to your children get upset. Persevere with it. He will get the idea and sleep eventually. Took Jaidan a few days.
Good Luck

You did nothing wrong. We are all different and so are our babies. Do whatever you want to do to settle him. Trust your instincts. God gave you this baby because you will know what to do with him. By all means ask for ideas but make your own mind up. They grow up so fast. Ask your self what do I think is the best way? If you don't want to let him cry, don't. In the first year of life they are learning trust. When we respnd to their needs they learn that the world is a good place. Different children need different amounts of cuddles.

Keep up the good work. My first baby has just started highschool. Where have those years gone. She is confident and outgoing,  I mus thave done something right! I could not leave her cry either.

bye

I think you did well - nothing wrong.
Its hard getting baby to sleep by himself - when he/she wants mummy to do it.
I dont think there is anything wrong with patting his back for a while, you can then maybe after a while change that to holding his hand, sitting next to him.
Be patient and dont stress - the more you do the more bub picks up on it.
Good Luck.

I found that when my son was 10 months old, I was less stressed if I waited to figure out when he was getting tired.  Then when I started seeing the signs I would take him to his room sit in his rocking chair and talk with him for a bit, just before he was about to nod off I'd stick him in the cot pat his back, tell him I love him then leave.. Then he would cry himself to sleep.. Eventually he figured out the fact when he was getting tired it was time for the cot.. He would still scream but if I put him down closer to the time he was tired he fell asleep rather quickly.

I was able to shorten these times by waking him up before he slept to long so I could get him to sleep at night at an earlier time. And eventually (it did take a little bit of time) but I eventually was able to get him into his routine.

It was easier on me if I waited for him to get tired as I was less stressed with leaving him in the bed to cry when he was not tired...

I wish you luck.. xx

I tried everything with my son and nothing workes. I would live him in his bed and walk off he would cry and cry (throw up and change colour at which point you cant live him on his own) and at the end it was not worth it. now that he is biger he just walks off. I was told by a nurse to get a lock and lock him in his room and let him cry. I am sorry but I do not agree with that. sleeping is not a punishment and he is not in jail.

Just dont expect miracle over night do it bit by by dont change his whole rutine at once that way you will have a better result. say start by puting him in bed and read to him then do what you did till now. after few days add something like the bottle and so on.

I made the mistake of doing it all at once (agein the nurse told me to)

HI, of course it's going to be different from child to child, but it seems like he just might not have been tired enough to have that morning nap. I found that my son's sleep patterns changed as each month passed in that first year. So a child might need 3 daytime sleeps at 6 or 7 mths, maybe 2 sleeps or 3 shorter sleeps at 8 or 9mths, and then maybe by 10-12 months you might find he only needs 1 big middle of the day sleep but only a morning or afternoon nap on most other days, it really all depends on the child. I guess the most important thing to remember is, that even though you want a familiar routine for your child, the routine really is determined by the child. And routines change so quickly in that first year, just when you have it worked out, they go and change it again. Also, another thing I'll add, your child is 10mths old so is more aware of the environment around them and more intent of playing or investigating rather than having to sleep. Hope this helps, but pls be flexible whilst still maintaining consistency. Let's face it, if you normally go to sleep at 10pm at night, some nights you'll be tired at 8pm, and some you won't want to sleep until 11pm. Same with children.

From my experience, as hard as it is, you just have to leave them.  My son cried for the first 2 weeks or so that we started having him fall asleep on his own.  It hurt, but it got better, now we put him in bed at his bedtime, and he stands up and jumps and plays and talks to himself, sometimes for a good 45 minutes, and when he decides that he's tired, he just lays down and goes to sleep. 

You might want to consider not laying him down when he stands up, just stay close by so you are near, but don't let him know that you are there.  That's ultimately what worked for me.  I just had a friend babysit for me the other day, and she made the mistake of sitting in the room while he drank his bottle ( i don't usually put him to bed with his bottle as he is too old for that, but she did it, no big deal). And when he was done his bottle he wanted to get up and play because she was still in the room, so when she left, he just sobbed.  I thought I had explained his nighttime routine to her better than that, but apparantly I didn't.  Anyway, I'm rambling, best of luck to you.  And remember, I know it is hard to listen to them cry, but you can do it!!! and it will be much easier as the days pass

Sarah