when i was 3 months pregnant, my baby father stop talking to me for no reason, we had no contact, he did not want to know,even when the midwife phoned him to do a sickle cell test, he refused and said he did not know about me or a baby, anyway when i had my baby i still text him and told him, also rang his phone but no reply, now my baby 2 months old and he has changed his number and location, how can i now locate him
obviously you are better off with out him, however i would contace child services and get him to pay the child support he made this baby with you he should help to pay for your bub, you don't need to contact him to get child support just contact them and they should be able to help you out. good luck you deserve better like your name says you really are to nice lol. hepo you aer enjoying being a new mum, best job in the world. Britt xx
im curious, are you wanting to contact this man to have the anemia test conducted? If not, forget about him. As the others have said, there are ways and means to get him to support his child financially without ever having to speak to him. I can't imagine why you would want him involved in your child's life for any other reason. Male role models do not necessarily have to be the child's father, and should be the kind of men who actually care about and want to be a part of your child's life.. uncles, grandfathers, cousins,friends of the family.. whoever.. As far as im concerned this man gave up any right he had to be a father to this child the second he walked away from you and the baby.
Why do you want to contact this man? I ask only because you may not have truly asked yourself this question. If it is so your baby has a father in her life, it doesn't seem that this man is willing to be a parent to her. If it is for financial support, you can seek that through other means. I notice you're in the UK. I'm sorry but I don't know what system they use over there.
Although you may be in a hard position now, at least without this man harassing you or causing problems you can make a clean new fresh start in life with your new baby. Enjoy your baby and your new relationship. Maybe join a mum's group and make some new friends. And one day you may just find yourself in a new relationship with a new man who will be a true father to your baby, even if they're not related by blood.
the thing is u have to think about is if you want to have the father in your childs life if he dosent want to be in it. my daughters father left me when i was 5 munths preggo, i was a bit worried like u and kept trying to get in contact, finaly when she was 10munths old i got in contact and he came back to try and make things right. he tried to tell me that i had not told him i was pregnant with his child and cause alot of mess when he was here and left again only after 3 munths and we have not heard from him since but i am now abel to talk to his famlie and im actualy grate friends with his cuson. he has told them that he belives that isabel is better off not haveing him in her life. if that is how he feels then he proberly is better off. the one thing i have done but is i do not encorage isabel who is now 3 to call anybody dad, she has tried to call i guy i was dateing dad and i stoped that. its a tital that has to be erned.
thats so true about it being a title that has to be earnt. just 2 days ago i had a massive argument with my ex that my boys call my now fiance daddy. the ex who has only ever wanted to see hte boys when it was convenient to him, and is far from earning father of the year award, had the hide to tear shreds off me for the boys calling DH dad, so i, in all my angry glory lol piped up and said well if you had acted like more of a father maybe they would still call u dad. DH is such a wonderful father to my boys and i love it that they call him dad. neither he nor i pushed it on them and they started doing it of their own accord which makes it all that much more special.
I totally agree with merle and lexi. If you want him to pay financially do it through the system but don't waste anymore of your energy on a guy that seems to have made it clear he is not interested in being a father.
concentrate on being a wonderful mother and providing for your baby. If for any medical reasons etc you need to contact him go to the police and see what you can do. Also is it possible to find people on the voting registry? I thought it was but I'm not 100% sure.
I agree with merle. This guy will obviously never be the daddy to your baby that you want him to be. Believe me it will be so much better for you and your baby to just forget him. When your baby starts asking questions about him explain to her that you did all you could to keep in contact with him but sometimes people just are not ready for that sort of commitment . She must always be told that it is not her fault.
Concentrate on you and your beautiful baby that is what is most important right now. Your baby is better off without him and so are you. Just enjoy your baby.
Hi there,it sounds like you have had a tough time.If you are wanting maintenance use the child support agency they are linked to centerlink and tax department.Money can be automaticly deducted from his wage if he is not complying with child support.If he is going from job to job he will be a bit hard to track,you may not get assistance yet but keep persisting.If you are looking for a Dad for your Baby........I think he has made it clear he does not want to be,you cannot force him.My heart goes out to you.I think you just need to make a loving close little family for you and your baby,forget about the loser.thoughts with you regards Merle
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