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How do I tell friends and family in a tactful manner that my daughter will not be travelling in their car unless they have a carseat bolt installed and agree to have the carseat put in. They don't want to put a bolt in even though I said I'd buy it and they don't want the carseat in their car because it might damage their seat. They think I should buy a foam booster and said to get the ones with the part on the side that guides the seatbelt. I will not have my child in a booster seat, she will stay in her safety seat until she is around 7 or 8, depending on her height at the time, and will stay in a harness until I decide otherwise. You can now buy harnesses to fit children up to 12. I'm called over-protective and pedantic (sp?) but it's the way I am. I have been to the funeral of a small child who was not securely strapped into the car. I want to get the point across that I would rather drive her myself than have her in a foam booster seat without a harness, but I don't want to cause negative feelings. My mother has a carseat in her car and my brother has had a bolt put into his car so her carseat can go in there, but other people won't but want to take her places and think i'm being controlling and unreasonable. I have a way of saying things in an abrupt manner and end up not talking to people for ages after that so I just need to know a tactful yet forceful way. Thanks!
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Laws are hopefully being changed very soon. The safety recommendations which are to become law state that a child remains in a harnessed, bolted in car seat until the age of 4 then in a booster seat, still bolted in and with a harness, until the age of 8. Children will no longer be allowed in the front seat until they are 12, but I know it's being pushed the safety recommendations to become law and hopefully sooner rather than later. I am very strict when it comes to car safety and nutrition. I don't hold her back in any way though, she is excelling in everything she does. She swam 25 metres today in water that was way over her head. I know that legally a 12 month old baby can sit in an adult seat in the rear of the car but that's just stupid and that's why laws are being pushed through to be in line with safety recommendations. The seat she is in is a safety seat, not a baby seat, and will do her til she is up to 8, but that goes on size too. She is safe in the car and she is very healthy, and I just need to know a way of telling my family and friends that this is how we do things without coming across as being nasty. I wasn't after criticism for keeping my child safe in the car. My child is far from wrapped in cotton wool, she is exposed to far more than other children of her age. I know that her safety seat just that, a safety seat, and I can undo the clip on the harness easier than if i had to fish around for a seatbelt clip that has gone to the back of the car or is under the booster seat. I do not believe that foam boosters are safe on their own, they need a bolted in harness, and I refuse ever to allow her in those soft foam ones, the hard foam ones are alright but she hasn't been in one. She won't suffer tormenting at school if it's made mandatory and parents start getting fines for not securely restraining their children in the car. her friends will be in harnesses too.
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I see what you mean by abrupt....settle yourself down, i wasn't attacking you!
I am aware of the laws. I am currently taking a legal course actually, so i am right in to law! You went way over the top, you really need to learn some control with your abruptness! I never did imply in any way that you are a bad mother or that your daughter was unhealthy or stupid!
I can however see things from both sides, as you need to learn to do aswell! I was very abrupt like you, and i have learnt to control it, because with abrupt speech and actions, it does nothing but push people away, cause conflict between family and destroy family!
This is a very important issue within society, and you are likely to get mixed responses!
You need to be prepared for the mixed responses and accept them, as you asked the question!
And just for the record, i too am very strict when it comes to car safety, nutrinional and health needs and educational needs!
I wasn't criticising your parenting, i was just answering the question MY WAY!
The best way to tell people who won't listen about safety is to show them pictures of what could happen.....DONT BE ABRUPT.... BE CIVIL!
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