Ponit blank its got to stop ,, for the sake of your children ,, i would be mortifyed if my partner ever called me a nasty name and i wouldnt ever do this myself no matter what ,,when he starts to walk away and say no stop this ,, we love eachother and we shouldnt be doing this to eachother let alone showing the children thats how loving parents act towards eachother ... let eachother cool off before sitting down to talk etc,,, and try to make a promise to eachother that you BOTH wont be doing this to eachother again

learn to talk to eachother  again and communicate with eachother again please  and get this sorted out asap

when you first were dating it was all roses dont let any more thorns come into both of your lifes with nasty words and dont loose respect for eachother .. talk when both are calm and be the bigger person and dont say nasty words back

Hi there, I think no one has the right to talk to anyone like that. I hate the fact that you are going though that. But i do agree with what everyone is saying. Your partner needs to go and learn respect.  You need to ask yourself how is this affecting you and your children. He needs a wake up call.

My husband and I have both used words like S***T and the F word during heated fights, but that's it. During the first year of our marriage, we used to fight a lot and so we sought counseling. The therapist had told us that even though neither of us mean the bad things we say and call each other during fights, that it does cause a little of what she calls "soul death". A little part of each of us gets affected by what we say and so we should take care of what comes out of our mouths during a fight.

If you are internalizing the verbal abuse, I suggest to seek counseling.

My partner always treats me with love and respect.

If my partner ever spoke to me the way your is no matter how bad the arguement we would have serious issues.

What your partner does is cruel and not right. Ask yourself if this is really what you want out of a relationship.

Cheers Kellz

My heart goes out to you, i'm sorry to say this is outright abuse, and mental abuse can do so much more damage than physical abuse which can heal, but ANY ABUSE AT ALL SHOULD NOT HAPPEN or be tolerated. Firstly you need to find some inner strength to pull yourself out of that pit of despair and have belief in yourself, and know that you are worthy of respect. But mental abuse is like a festering sore and without medical help will only get alot worse. You say that you have been with him for 11 years but you don't say how long this has been going on for, if he has just started with this form of abuse, i'd say there is unlying reasons for it.

I too have been abused and have just written my story on it so i ,know where your coming from, so know there are people out there willing to help you and give you moral suupport, but you have to be strong enough to make the first move,

You say you don't want him to come near you and you do it to keep the peace,thats not a life. If you feel like i did, when he comes near you, your stomach feels like it's in knot's, you feel sick, you want it over as soon as possible and when it is over you do feel like what he called you and dirty. If you feel like this i'd say you might be on the road of no return unless you both get help ASAP.

Also your concerns that your boy's are witness too this abuse should be your strength to say NO MORE. If it continues they will grow up thinking thats normal behaviour towards females. Iam thinking at this point damage has already occurred to you, low self esteem, afeeling of  loneliness and most of all not knowing what to do or where to turn. Just know your not alone.

Your minti friends have given you some great advice, and if i could give you just one thing that would be the strength i had THE DAY I SAID NO MORE ABUSE. If you need to talk any time i'm here.

Your Friend Janice

In the heat of moment or not i not think any parter has a right use such words its disrecpted to   each other.    This can lead to depression   where you either one  feels worthless and its not a great place to be   ,as its  a road back to good about yourself.

Go and get some help from family caneclors   be fore its to late