Make sure your son knows what is going on. Put up a calender and mark (with a pic) when daddy is leaving and coming home. Let him mark off the days and talk to daddy at the same time. The with him count down the days to daddy come home. Keep him in the loop if anything changes as he is very aware.

hi there my husband did fly in and out 2 weeks away 1 week home and i had the very same problem ,one peice of advice i would offer is that when he is away get your child babysat at least twice while hubby is away as my middle son become out of control he would let no one near him for plays or cuddles and wouldnt let me leave the room it got that bad that when i would shower he would bang his head on the door to see that i was still there i ended up getting a lady from some childrens center to watch him do it and she said the reason he wouldnt leave me and became so clingy was i was the one that was always there dad goes and comes back so do grandparents and so on and so on so if you have the option of leaving for a few hours twice while hubbys away it's a great way to help him deal with seperation,and to let him know it's okay to go and come back
good luck

Hi there everyone,

If you have access to the internet and a web cam, you just set aside a time each night or morning or anytime of day that suits everyone and chat to daddy and see him too. My partner went away for 3 months at a time after my son was born, this helped everyone to adjust and still gave daddy his time with the kids. We found this better at night as dad could read a story before the kids went to bed.....

The computer age has become a wonderful tool for keeping in touch with family and friends, and it also helps keep routines at home

cogs75

Its a big change for a little boy to adjust to... he will adjust tho. He's too young to be 'punishing' his Dad; probably just shy & uncertain of what it all means. You could give him the idea by making a fuss of the fact that Daddy's coming home on the day he's due... Make your son's favourite food as a celebration (& maybe Dad's too). Blow up a couple of balloons, hang some streamers. My Dad had to go away for months at a time when I was 4 - 5yo. His homecomings were big exciting affairs for me. I'd hang out near the front door all day & I wouldn't recognise him when he arrived. (At least once I asked him if he was my Dad!) But then when he swung me up on his shoulders I'd remember (& then that I needed to duck when he carried me thru the front door).  Making a fuss will probably boost Dad's morale too.

My son is the same with me and My OH...He wont even let his dad feed him. He spends 95% of his time with me as Im a stay at home mum, have been with all my kids, maybe get your hubby to play games with him, or read a story, even bath him or something like that, he will grow out of it. He will see there is a pattern in Daddy being home and Daddy at work..

Maybe get some piccs out and get him to say theres daddy, and you say where daddy is, and that he will be coming home, and Daddy misses him very much, re-inforce your Hubbys relationship and feelings for him..

When my OH gets home I really make a fuss, like say to my son "Look Daddys home, daddy home", and he will go to the door and say "Hi Daddy", OH gives him a hug straight away...Im sure it will be ok..Best thoughts for you.

Oh deary me.........I don't think he is punishing,I do think he is confused and reacting in the only way he knows how.Could you let him talk to Daddy on the phone through the week?get him to draw Daddy some pictures,if he doesn't already,get him a big picture of him and Daddy and put it in his room.Make up little stories about he and his Daddy.I think it will just take time for him to adjust.It is a big thing to happen in his life......he will get over it though.regards Merle