my cousin was 17 when she had her 1 child, 25 when she had her second, 35 when she had her 3 and 41 when she had the tweens and she said to me she would not do it any other way but she said also that it gould have gone teribly wrong as well .

I dont see why not apart from medical reasons. go for it and good luck.

As a child of a second marriage I was born when my mother was in her 30's yes times have changed and so has medical help but the truth is we dont know how we will be five years from now let alone 10, when my mother had me and then 13 months later my sister she was in fine health but we never played games (with either parent) we were treated like we were much older than we were and apart from some other fairly dreadful stuff I grew up knowing that I had "old" parents physically not chronological, when I was young (lol way back when) I decided to be a young mother and have never regretted my choice, at 30 still feeling young I went to Uni and studied for two degrees (one first follwoed by fulltime work and the second) at 45 I still do not feel 'old' and I believe I could keep up with a littily but and its a big but even if I could have children which I have been unable to do since a histerectomy at 26 I wouldnt, I am now at a time in my life when I want to enjoy it, explore, learn and I dont think there is anything wrong with that, I also dont think there is anything wrong if you chose to have another baby because ultimately we all make our decisions based on whats best for us, my oldest is pregnant I am looking forward to being a nanna to play, to hold and to hand back . Consider all the facts, if it helps right it down in the old two column pro's and cons weigh up the ages concerns you feel you have/might have; I hate to say it but Im going to consider the additional risk to the baby I know many women have perfectly normal babies in this and older age groups, are you prepared for that, can you cope financially with that, who will look after your baby if something happens to you, if you chose to be tested are you prepared for the hard decisions? I know these are awful questions and please dont shoot me down for voicing them I believe they are questions all women should consider before having a baby regardless of age, having a baby is a big responsibility and not one to be entered into lightly, financial costs are skyrocketing along with morgages but ultimately only you know whether you can take on the added expense of another mouth to feed, clothe and shelter. Careful consideration is needed but as I said only you know if you can travel the path.... best wishes!

I've only had a chid in my thirties so it is difficult to compare but I think it's safe to say that a baby at this age takes a slightly greater physical toll on your body than if you give birth at a younger age.  Certainly, I have found that to be so.  I also found sleep deprivation pretty hard whereas, in my twenties, sleep deprivation went by the name of "parties"...which I dealt with very well and consistently.  Having said all that, wouldn't trade my girl in that's for sure and I'm just about to have another one so go for it!

my mums best friend has a 1 year old she is 43 this year and is the happiest i think i have ever seen her adores him, and he her, she loves being a mum even at this age and she has two other kids a boy 20 and a daughter 17 and they adore him just as much, i think if you want another one go for it 36 isn't an old age to be having another baby alot of people are leaving it till they are your age to start having children anyway, each to there own i say go for it, if you are ready for another baby, and your husband is then go ahead and you will have lots of help from the kids to which will be great for you all, good luck!! Brittxx

how about you bump it up another decade! I was 41 when i had my son, age difference between him and his sisters, are 9 yrs., 10yrs., and 13 yrs. At first the 13 yr. old wanted nothing to do with him, she thought it was "gross" that I was pregnant again! She eventually came around, and they are now the best of friends! So my advise is if that's what you want then go for it but expect that noses might get a bit out of joint for awhile!

Sheesh some poeple are soooooooo rude....,.

We were asked for an honest answer and when we give one we get a low rating... that is soooo wrong........ How can you rate a persons feeling or opinion.... Advice maybe but not an opinion...... Grrrrr..........

hi there

ive hav a 6 mth old after havin a gap of 10 yrs.. im 34 and i can really recommend it.. invest in some good eye cream for those bags!

 

If thats what you desire of course go ahead, I am 35 and I don't think that is old, yes of course there are more risks having a baby over 30 but I intend on having another and I will be 36 in August, if your healthy then why not, what has age got to do with it. Go for it.  Good luck

its your choice but here are a few things you have to consider....

my mother in law was the same age as you when she had her second child... her second child is now 7.... alright now after 40 she has found her health has gone down hill and she is struggling to keep up with miss 7.... by the time mis 7 becomes miss 15 she is going to be 50 and having to deal with the teenage stage wich I understand to be very difficult...

Ask yourself could you keep up with your child when health starts to go down hill will you be able to deal with your child effectively at the age of 50... Society is going more and more down hill and teenagers have more they have to deal with now.... Can you handle it?

Be honest with yourself and if the answer is yes then go for it if not I would seriously reconsider and go on the pill or something....

Hi Kelred,

I have 3 children, aged almost 12, 10 and 4 months. My first 2 are from a previous relationship, the 4 month old is from my current relationship.

I am 37 years old, turning 38 in April, and I am so happy with my darling little Levi, and the kids are a great help. I will be going back to work, part time, in June.

So should you take the big step? Think about why you want another one, look at your current relationship and understand how it could change the dynamics. My husband has no children from a previous relationship, so he was eager to have one (and he wants another one..)

Are you physically and mentally up for it? Be real with yourself, go for a walk along the beach or something and think about the pros and cons. If you are so excited in your heart, follow your gut. To be honest, when I first got pregnant, I did get a touch of the cold feet, but mainly because I felt so sick! (yeah, that doesn't change with age I'm afraid) But as the pregnancy progressed, I felt really good. And when the big day arrived, well! I fell in love all over again.

So chew the fat over the issue, talk to your partner, then go from there. If you really want one, you will do it anyway, you wont need to be convinced.

Good luck with this life changing decision, feel free to talk to me with any questions or nagging thoughts.

Cindy

Hi
Nooooooooooo don't be crazy...its time to retire and relax..........
I had my baby at 39 with 2 teenagers in tow.....not a good combination
I want to sleep she wants to play....although good age for babysitting and turning them off having their own babies young......
Think how free you are now.....you can go away without worry,,,,,plus your kids will know for definate you still do have sex....shock horror.....and their friends know it too......
I should be enjoying life not changing yucky nappies and cleaning up pukey babies.....
The floor is a long way down now to try get up off and leaning into a bath tub picking a kid up is not good for your back,,,,,,,

but saying all that the joy she brings may just be all worth it......
Hmmmmmm
11pm at night is NOT play time...........
Good luck with your decision.....
Think long and hard....go borrow another older mums baby and see how you feel.......or better yet you seen those "real life" dolls....least you can switch them off
Luv Deb

I think at 36 as long as you take all the precautions and listen to doctors advice there should be no reason for you not have a baby if that is what you want.

Good Luck

 Lexi xxx

go for it. if you want to have a baby then go ahead. your 36 your still young, why not.
xoxo francine xoxo

ive got 15 year old twins and now a two year old im 39 ,, for me the gap in between worried me a little at first , but now ive found that im alot more calmer and have alot more to give of myself to my little one ,, and a whole lot more wiser lol  and im not as scared as i used to be

even know im 39 i dont feel or look like i am ,,

go with how you feel

the gap dosent bother me one bit my twins are great big brothers and love him ,, i feel that im a better mother now then i was with them ( maybe cause i was raising twins without any help)

you have to go through a few tests to make sure things are ok  health wise , down syndrome etc,,, but for me it was worth it

i wouldnt change the age i had my child and im glad hes here

 

Hi there,  I also say go for it.  I am the second eldest out of 7 children (I'm now 34 years) my other siblings are 36, 32, 27, 25, 23 and the youngest is 17.  So you can see there is a big age between me and the youngest,  when my parents  told us my mother was pregnant we couldn't have been more happier as I was able to help out and spoil him.  Now that we are all older he doesn't seem so young, he is very mature even when he little due to being exposed to so many older siblings. Good luck

I fell pregnant at 39-I was very fit and healthy,me personally I found physically the pregnancy was extremely tough and you are at risk of more health problems-high blood pressure and gestational diabetes to name a few.....I would go again if I could cause it is so worth it.......I am far more patient now then when I was younger.I think if you don't have to work it would be easier on you,I worked 7 days a week through out my pregnancy,I wouldn't do it again.Look if this is what you want go for it.

Go for it my mum had me when she was your age and 18 months later had another child. It was 9 years between children not quite 12 but close. Age should not worry you as long as you are healthy & can afford to have another child. Are you really ready for sleepless nights? I wish you all the success a newborn baby can bring