been there, done that.

I was in a similiar situation and I watched him closely. Times he was coming home, phone calls etc..

Finally I got an old but good friend of mine to follow him as I knew his so called ''work''  schedule.  Well to make a long story short the friend of mine caught him going to a hotel arm in arm with another women.    Needeless to say our relationship was over and I was gone 3 days later while he was on another business meeting.  He tried to blame it on my insucerities in myself.  Don't let it happen to you.

I would trust my gut instinct.  Somehow our  hearts know something isn't right.

I hope you find out what is going on as you deserve to be happy!!

The odds of your partner confessing to infidelity just because you ask him a direct question about it are pretty slim I would have thought.  If he is being unfaithful and hiding it it is because he doesn' t want you to know about it and doesn't want to deal with the consequences of his actions.  However, by asking him you give him the opportunity to make amends for what is, probably, the hardest thing for people to deal with about infidelity - being lied to.  If you receive a negative response and you're still not happy with the situation hire someone to find out for you (wait a month or so because he might be extra vigilant after you've notified him of your suspicion).  However, I would also make sure I knew what my response was going to be if I did find out that information.  Not everyone wants to disrupt their whole family over an affair.  It's a personal thing.  Know yourself.  Get advice or counselling.  Act rationally and only make decisions based on evidence and knowing fully what you want for you and your family. 

Even if u ask him, 90 percent of the chance he will deny it. Something i had seen on talk show once, the man will often change his look with new clothe, new parfume and cleaner look. Come back from work often late and make excuses for it. Will become cold towards kisses and compliments and might find reason to sleep on the sofa. Start going out more often saying it is with friends. If u can check the numbers on cell phone and write down the one that is being called or received more often and after call that number(s) from pay phone to see who answers, a woman or man or business.. If really u think he is cheating, ask a good friend of his that is also a good friend of your and that u can trust. Explain him the situation and tell him that if he is, u will not make ur husband any harm u will just leave and go on with ur life but that u don't deserve to stay in a relationship that is not real. The friend will probably feel obligated to tell u if u do it nicely. I am sure ur husband told someone if he is cheating they usually have to tell someone. The wife is often the last to know. Take care and hope it is not the case.

I have a friend who suspected her hubby wa cheating.  she snooped through his mobile phone.  scrounged through his car for evidence & eventually called a P.I. (paying cash of course).  He was, she said nothing...nearly killed her (metophorically speaking).  she had just had their IVF baby, he didn't like her hormonal self or her weight..........so she changed herself back to pre-cheat her & he gave the other woman away without a word being spoken...though I dare say he might have been suss that she was on to him.  They are now happy again.  I personally couldn't be that forgiving.  I follow him myself, rip his balls off & shove them down her throat.......................but thats just me.

Yes I was in a similar situation with my ex...........I asked out right the first time and he denied it(he did have an affair)the 2nd time I didnt bother asking as I didnt care by that stage.I would keep an eye on lateness,perfume smell on clothes,odd behaviour eg distance then all over u behaviour,odd phone calls eg hanging up when u answer the phone or him hanging up when u enter the room etc,vagueness over credit card or phone bills etc I would not say anything till u can provide cold hard facts or valid suspicions  and only when you can remain reletively calm good luck hugs Merle

Maybe approach him about it, and take note of his body language. If he gets angry, stay calm and ask why he's getting so angry. You'd know by the way his reaction is, body language etc. Hope this helps.

I don't have any experience in this matter (thankfully) but I just wanted to tell you to stay level headed and strong!  Try to also keep smiling whatever happens!

I was in a very similar situation with my ex. I had a feeling that he was seeing another woman but just brushed it aside out of pure denial.  I refused to believe that he could do that to me even though the signs were there. One minute he wasn't interested in any kind of touching or "action" and the next he was all over me. He became distant and really angry if I asked him when he was going to be home for dinner. I finally plucked up the courage one day and asked him outright. He denied it and then got even angrier at me. We continued down the same road for 6 months until I had enough and walked away. I found out he was cheating on me but with two other women.

The only piece of advice I can offer you is to ask yourself this, what has made you think that he is cheating on you? all relationships go through good times and bad times. It's a big decision to ask someone a question like that so I think it's best to fully examine the situation before going ahead. If you do ask him you'll know by his reaction, it's just whether or not you'll believe it.

Really am sorry if this doesn't help. Fully understand the situation that you are in. Stay strong love.

fiona xoxox