Escape the pain

Feel the pain in your heart,
The sadness inside,
The worries you go through
The loss of your pride           
 All the names and the put    downs,
And the games that he plays,
It’s all really stupid,
It can go on for days.
There’s much more to
life,
As one day you will see,
I have the proof,
Just take one look at me.
Don’t let this man break you,
Set yourself free,
Learn to love life again,
Be free as can be.
Don’t wait any longer,
As it only gets worse,
Imagine your life,
Put under a curse.
There’s so much out there,
So much more to see,
I hope one day you realize this,
And you come and live with me.
I know it’s really hard to leave,
I know you’re pretty scared,
At first you may feel a little sad,
So get yourself prepared.
The life that your living,
Moulds your future up ahead,
Why let it be miserable,
When it can be happy instead.
I hope your future is happy and bright,
For someone like you,
It would only seem right.
Always be brave,
And always be strong,
And don’t you forget,
it was he who was wrong.
You’ll one day see,
How life can be lived a much
Better  way,
So come on girl,
Put all your tears away,
Save them for another day.
Free your self From
this hurt and pain,
You have nothing to lose,
But plenty to gain.
Don’t let anybody make you feel bad,
Cause It’s your life your living,
They all should be glad.
Now sit and think,
Think hard and strong,
About your life,
And what went wrong.
Now ask yourself,
Where you want to be,
You can stay where you are,
Or set yourself free.
I hope all you’re choices,
Turn out to be right,
It’s going to be tough,
But never lose sight.
I wish you nothing,
But the very best,
I’ve done my part,
Now you do the rest…

I wrote this poem for my best friend hope it gives you some inspiration...

Always

Skylee

My dad busted in, held my ex down while me and 8week old bub went down to the car.  I know this is drastic but worked for us.  We just left with nothing.  His mother went with me to get some clothes for us both, she distracted him and chased him away while I got our stuff.  It was a scary time but we got through it.  He would ring me 30 times a day with tears and threats on me, my son and himself.  You just have to stay strong.  I was lucky to have supportive parents. 

 My husband's ex wife (he never abused her, the relationship went bad and she ripped him off)  waited til he went to work one day and came around with her family and a truck and cleaned out every bit of furniture in the house.  My hubby called the police but they said it was common property and they couldnt do anything about it.  He had to wait til the divorce settlement where she had to pay him the max $7000 for his half of the gear. 

You would be able to get legal aide Im sure as long as you go to centrelink and tell them you are separated due to abuse and they should put you on SPP.

Goodluck, it is the hardest thing you will ever do in your life but keep thinking of your child, that should get you through,  He will play every dirty rotten card in the book to get you back but you have to see through it and not give in.  STAY STRONG!  we are all here anytime you need a chat.

You have been given excellent advice below I cannot add any more.........I will how ever give you my love and support.You need to be brave and strong for yourself and baby.Remember we are all here for you hugs and support Merle

All the help has been given to where to look  for advice and seek help  , the next step up to you   ,its going to scary at at frist  not knowing if you are  going to make it but beleive me we all do.

                      Its not easy leaving the comfort zone  but its worth it if you are turely unhappy   where you are . With help form friends and family   you  make it  though the tough times best of luck  .

For legal advice, try legal aid.

the link below has links to legal aid info for each state, and also for women's services. If you follow the links to your relevant state you should find phone numbers you can ring, or email adresses you can contact.

http://www.fedcourt.gov.au/legalinks/legalaid.html

they will be able to tell you lots of information about what legal resources you have available to you, and how to proceed with them. I would also follow the advice of some other minti members and contact a womens shelter. Even if you don't feel able to leave right now, they will be able to tell you what you need to know to plan for leaving, and will give you loads of help and assistance, or know where you can get it.

I was very fortunate I have loving parents and brothers who have supported me all the way, they had been bullied by him for years but kept if from me as they thought I loved him and would not want to upset me!!!!!
Once I broke down to them, they helped in any way they could and were a strong force on my side. By then he had blackened my name and theirs,so no one else believed them,  but didn't matter, by then they had witnessed his abuse of me for themselves and as I was so ill at that stage, my Mum and Dad then let me move in with them until I was strong enough to make decisions for myself. Such is their love for me, that even then if I had decided to go back then they would have supported me. But once I was recovering i knew there was no going back and I didn't want to go back anyway.
I still live a constant battle and it is very scary but on a percentage scale the fear of living with how he is trying to make me suffer now is nothing compared to the hell and fear he had me in when we were together.
Don't make any rash decision like walking out without plans, if you do and find yourself with nothing then you may HAVE to go back for the sake of your toddler and it would be 100 times worse if you did go back.
Is there any friends or family you trust enough to be able to confide in??
Do a search on the internet for help in an abusive relationship, email them and ask them to call you so nothing shows on the bill, but stipulate a definite time so the call cannot be intercepted by him.
They are used to your situation, they will understand your request and will do everything they can to help.
We don't even know which country you are in but if you are in the UK Citizens Advice are helpful and you could probably qualify for public funding legal aid to get a lawyer.
There is a life for you without him. I am still terrified of my ex, i wake every day that he may turn up at the house but at the same time I feel happy with myself and I feel free
Just make sure you plan things properly so there is no eventuality that you will be forced to return to him.
All the very best
xxx

There are many ways to do it...but as suggested seek out these links.

The answer to this is not just straight fwd either.....and its not something that can be just given out as this advice needs to be protected as much as it needs to be given to all women who are suffering from abuse of any kind.

THe sorry side of this is that you could very well be a man after this information and for this reason alone, the links are offered to access and the right authorities are the ones who can answer these questions...

It can be done though, as these kind of men are weak...they are not men...any man who would do this, well....they are just dirt......You don't need money to be saved from abuse, and you don't need HIM either....these guys are just a drop in the ocean of good men and they can be overcome.......

Look into the links, look into reclaiming your life....and most of all....over look him...his nothing but a hiccup in  your life..

GOOD LUCK

OB

Hi there - I am realy touched by what you are going through . . .

Get in touch with A Domestic Violence  Centre near you:

N.S.W - 1800 656 463  (24 hours)

Q'land - 1800 811 811  or follow this link for the nearest local domestic crisis unit http://www.dvrc.org.au/links.html

N.T - (08) 8981 5928 or  1800 019 116 (24 hours)

W.A - 1800 007 339  (24 hours)

S.A - 1300 782 200 (24 hours)

Vic - 1800 015188 (24 hours)

A.C.T - (02) 6280-0900 (24 hours)

Tas - 1800 608 122 (9am til midnight)  or 000

All thses numbers will be able to assist you and get you help. In some cases they can help you get out and away, help with legal fees, help set you up in a home of  your own and help get you all the counselling and other services you may need.

Never think you can't get out because you can and there are lots of services available in Australia to do just that. I know this because i've used them. 

 

Hi

You are brave, you can do anything, don't get disheartened, you have given out a cry for help and there are people and places you can go.

if you are online

you can do a search at www.sensis.com.au

type in the search:  womens refuge centres

or

type in the search:  +women +refuge +centres

this will bring up a complete listing of all nearly 200 refuge and crisis care centres and help for you.

I really hope this helps, some centres can collect you if you are in need.

Don't lose hope people are there to help you..

 

There are womens outreach places everywhere. If you look in the phone book you should be able to find help. I really suggest you give them a call as places like that can help you with every aspect i.e. new housing, legal help, just about anything. Good luck in your new life.

I would assume there is a womens refuge in the place where you live contact them they will assist you.