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Over weight mum and feeling the blues about it
Well I am really mad i cant find a friend that is a friend i mean they look at me and they judge me and that makes me sad as i try and be friendly but all i get is trown in my face.I mean i know i am over weight but WHY should that stop me finding friends and finding a job.At the moment i am on a low and i am cofused and unhappy -i mean i have a lovely family but i the stress i have with past issues and emtional issues i tend to eat the wrong foods and i find that i have cravings for sugerey stuff i need help desperately?i havnt got not much money so i really only afford a very basic menu i mean i walk alot and i am quite active but the eating to feel better.I am alone as i find that people stare and i cant find a friend that wants to be my friend please any suggestions thanks
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Over weight mum and feeling the blues about it
well it looks like you have made a few friends here thats for sure and no ones judgeing you on your weight..
i have to tell you that im slim and ive had to cutt a few bad friends off,, its not your weight its the people that you thought that where your friends that are useless
it takes for anything one day at a time to get through it ,, if you look at it as a whole the whole process can be overwealimg.tackle one problem at a time
you have to start to feel better within yourself first then you will be able to get through other things you need to
theres one great thing to start with you said you have a lovely family . talk to them also if you havnt already family supports great if you have it .....
im no doc and im not in your shoes ,, but i have suffered from bouts of depression on and off over the years also and still have a few relapses now and then ,,,
but one thing i do is work on myself within ,,,, like i said you have a few friends here ,, and i would love to give you a hugg also xxxxxx
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Over weight mum and feeling the blues about it
Ya know matey, the reason I wrote this was because of how you are feeling. It is such a life crusher isn't it....
The only thing I can say to you is, change the way you think. Sounds so obvious and so typical but its true. I've got to the stage now that ok, so I'm heavy, big deal - I can't change my body image overnight, however, I can begin to change the mental side of me a site lot faster than the size of my @ss...
The biggest issue anyone with a weight problem has is the fact that we want to do something and we want to do it now - but we also want to see some HUGE differnece in a short time. This isn't going to happen and if it does - well - it just comes back and normally with friends and extended family...my hips have migrated to my @ss and my @ss has moved into areas it just has no right being....
Try and find something, someone who can motivate you and keep you motivated. Its ok having a plan but we all need something to encourage us to stick to it. Don't focus on the size of your hips or clothing. Focus on the mental side. Work with trying to change the way you think of yourself. To hell with others and their looks. If they stare - just smile at them and keep moving on.
Make this about how you feel and not how you look because as soon as you fix that, the weight will still be there, but you will be able to tackle it in a different way and with a different perspective....
A different outlook is the begining of a totally different life.....
I wish you all the luck in the world..
Cheers Lavinia
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Over weight mum and feeling the blues about it
Hi there, I too struggled heaps after having Jaydee... FINALLY the last remnants are disappearing. I think that you need to have a reason for yourself to lose weight. It is like saving money, once it starts to come off, you feel greedy about how good you feel, so it is easy to keep up the momentum.
Try preparing some fresh fruit in the morning - cut up some apples, bananas, oranges, strawberries & melon etc into bite sized chunks and put them in a sealed container in the fridge. These are really sweet and full of natural sugar, so when you need a sugar hit grab a handful of these instead. Because they are readily available, you will find it easier to choose to eat them, and they are sweet, and usually cheaper to buy than sugary treats. They are good for your motabilism as well, so that will also help you with your weight - not to mention all the good vitamins you will get from them. They release their energy slowly too, so you will feel energised for longer and this will help you to feel better (happier) during the day, and assist in those walks that you take, that will also help by releasing those 'feel good' hormones into your system.
Try to eat your larger meal at midday and just have a light healthy snack at dinner time. Reserve pasta, rice and red meat for that midday meal, so that you have all day to use up the energy from them. Having a lighter snack in the evening will also help you sleep, as your body won't be busy digesting food in the night. Another thing to watch out for is what you drink. Drink zero sugar drinks and tons of water, as most soft drinks, cordials and fruit juices are very high in sugar. The water is good for you anyway of course, and it will help keep your tummy full too.
Every week I pull out my favourite clothes, and as they get closer and closer to fitting and looking nicer (without me being squashed into them), I feel great! If you feel good, and are nice to people, people will want to be your friend regardless of how much you weigh - that is if they are the sort of people that you ought to be friends with.
Cheer up matey, life isn't all about how you look - though it seems that way when you look in the media - there are many other wonderful things for you to be proud of about yourself. Have a look in the mirror and remind yourself of all your good points and the things that make you happy - and remind yourself to love and value yourself (you know what I mean).
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Over weight mum and feeling the blues about it
I used to be grossly overweight too. I now know that I too ate a lot because I was unhappy. I was wearing a size 18 UK size and I weighed about 16 stone. It was only one day I suddenly realised I didn't like who I was or how I looked that I decided to do something about it. I used to binge on crisps and cakes and biscuits, so I stopped buying them and cut them out, I did struggle for the first couple of weeks but then realised I wasn't missing them anymore. I took up regular exercise, if you are in a position to do a workout DVD or Video, they really are fun and as you exercise more, there is a hormone that kicks in that does make you feel so much happier.
I now am a size 10 UK and I weigh about 9 1/2 stone I have let my exercise slip since I was ill last year but I am now getting started again, I am fortunate enough to have a cross trainer in the house which I use but just walking is great.
My advice for you is to cut out the sugary foods, and start exercise, this will release the "happy" hormone and I promise you will feel so much better about yourself.
Of course there is an easier way, just look in the mirror every morning and say over and over YOU ARE WORTH IT!! Keep doing this until you believe it. Size shouldn't matter to anyone. You should never change your size to please other it is only a good thing to diet and exercise for either health reasons or the motivation is that you want to.
If people cannot accept you for who you are, move on to the next person, as they are not 'friend' material in the first place. You do not choose friends by how they look if thats how you feel you are being judged. You need to mix with different people.
Be Happy and Think Positive, It is the ONLY way. If you think like this you will attract more people to want to be your friend too.
xx
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