i ahve this problem with my sisters boyfriend and my 4 yr old son for the last couple of months my sisters boyfriend has been treating my son like crap he has hit him and has made nasty comments to him and i was down my sisters house yesturday and my son was just mucking around with him and he took it the wrong way and he turn around and said to my little boy if u do that again i will nock ur tooth i dnt like taking my kids down there couse he always goes of at them i told him not to treat my son like that but my sister stickes up for her boyfriend and i asked my sister why he treats him like that and he said that me and my husband dnt discipline him enough we are his parents we should say wat goes and wat doesnt go my little boy has a lot of health problems i dnt know wat to do i got so upset yesturday when he said that to my little boy
i had this problem myself once b4, the problem is if you don't discipline your child u can not expect anyone else to do it. you should be discipline your child as u are the parent
my question to u is if ur sisters b/f was mucking around with ur son how do u know wat ur sisters b/f said he wasn't mucking around.
my guess is that u should forget about the whole thing and get on with ur life , and still have the realationship with ur sister after all she is family , and if she choses to be with him be happy for her that she has some1 that loves her.
I wouldn't care if he was mucking around... if anyone told my kids they were going to "knock their teeth out" I would knock theirs out. No one talks to me or my kids that way... joke or not.
Family, friend, or foe, when a child is at risk of abuse we should never tolerate it for even a moment, no matter who it is from.
Parents should stand up for the rights of their child against anyone that would try to hurt them, even if it is just by carelessness or thoughtlessness.
Blood may be thicker than water, but water is a lot more palitable. I'll choose good friends over bad family anyday.
have i thought that it was just a slip of the mouth like people do say thing they dont mean and u mite have miss understood what he said only u and ur hubby have that right to discipline ur child may be u should forget ur sister and get a long with ur life
I think you and your sister need to keep this creep out of your lives. I would have to talk to my sister and tell her that she can come see her nephew at my house but if he's there I"m not going. In this day and age there just WAY too many freaks out there. I don't like my bro-in-law too much and everyone knows so I just choose not to go their house and he does not come to mine. Now he is great with my little ones but still would never let them sleep there due to other issues.
i hope ur sister doesn't have any kids with him or from another relashion because he sounds like he is abusif. Imagine what he would do when no other adult is around. If he was able to say that to ur son in front of u, imagine. Maybe u should keep ur kid away from them for a while because maybe one day ur sister will see the light. Take care and please do not leave ur son with that as.....
I personaly dont have a problem if someone (my sister my perents and close friends) else tells my son off for a good reason but i draw the line when it comes to people that are plain rude or nasty. I have told people off (even close relatives) like a time I went to a relative and they have a dog (my son was less than a year old) he went on the window and started playing with the dog (the dog would put her paw on the window and he would try to catch it) and this person goes oh look what he did there are hand prints all over the window like I have nothing better to do than clean after someone elses child. I just went I am sorry Just give me something to clean it up and I would not be coming back EVER.
Maybe you should tell your sister that you love her and all but this could not go on any longer. at 4 children can be naughty but thats not excuse for adults to behave the way they do. so If they cant change the way they talk and react towards you son than you wont have him exposed to such abuse. (as in not going there, or not taking your son there, or not allowing the boyfriend to come over).
I think youre about to make the right decision.
I certainly wouldn't allow anyone to hit my child or even comment about doing it let alone threaten to knock their teeth out.
This man is an abusive bully who is not safe around children and your sister is condoning his behaviour.
Even if (and I'm 100% NOT saying your children are in this category) a child has no discipline, you do not teach them discipline by threats or striking them let alone anything worse.
I'm sure your children are normal children, wellbehaved but sometimes mischievous NOT naughty!!! Sounds like your sister and her boyfriend either do not like children or are jealous of what you have. The only thing to do is to protect your children from them
All the best xx
just answering to blackwidowkate no they havnt got any kids this is wat i dnt understand he wouldnt know wat parenting is all about and his is trying to discipline my kids well more my son then my little girl couse she only 1yr
Hi
Just another thought to add to the pot.....Does he and your sister have kids at all
If not what right have they got to tell you how to raise kids and discipine them
I would tell him in no uncertain terms that if he ever touches or threatens my child again then he will be talking to the police
Your sister is making a choice by sticking up for him and that is she disrespect you and your family for this loser
Most of the people that have killed their girlfriends children or seriously harmed them are like him...
Take your son and keep him safe away from this monster
It is too late after the fact just to spare someones feelings towards your child.....
I can't believe that your sister and her boyfriend are being so disrepectful towards you and you son! You son is your responsability and your sisters boyfriend has NO rights to disipline him in anyway shape or form without your consent!
May i suggest that in future you not visit your sister. Invite her to your house and make it known that it is your house your rules! I used to have the same problem with my sister-in-law and this was how I dealt with it.
Sadly she doesn't come around anymore but that was her decision. I do not believe in negative comments towards my children and I will not allow anyone to say anything negative at all. My husband and I still see our neice and nephew as my brother-in-law still visits often.
im sorry but noone has the right to discipline your child but you and your partner. that is just plain wrong and i really think he over-stepped the mark!
I do not want to sound out of line or add anything else to the muck ... but sounds like the boyfriend has no respect ... for anyone and for any bounderies (like being respectful of a little boy who has parents that teach him) ... Wonder how boyfriend treats your sister ? Does he rule her world too ? I would suggest at this point since right now he is just boyfriend and not spouse ... I would suggest seeing your sister on her own without boyfriend there ... and only see her in that situation .... If that is possible maybe you two could talk things over, find out where she stands with the guy (is it serious, do they plan to marry, etc.) ... And also then you might discuss your concerns ... I would not ever want anyone else to ever discipline my child like that ... especially with physical threats like knocking his teeth out ... that is abusive and uncalled for !
Just wondering how old the boyfriend is ? Is he of adult age ? Or close to your son's age ? Would not matter too much either way, but would add more perspective on the problem ...
I completely agree with what the other mom's are saying on here. That would be the day I ever let anyone speak to my child like that. And the day anyone ever raised a hand to my kid, would be the day I put my foot in their a**. Honestly, if that's the kind of man your sister chooses to be with, then that's her problem, if she wants to visit her nephew, let her come and visit you...minus the boyfriend, I certainly would not welcome anyone like that into my home.
You've already stressed your concerns to your sister, she is sticking by her views and her boyfriend. Just dont take your kids there. I had to make a similar decision with my sister as she smokes pot in her house in the kitchen. I love my sister and she is a great aunty but her lifestyle conflicts with mine so I just dont take him there.
By the sounds of this boyfriend, they wont last anyway and you will soon get your sister back.
Totally agree with the last comment by emmysmum however I'd like to add... I wouldn't be taking my children back to visit anyone who treated my child like that; Sister or not, she is just as guilty as her boyfriend... Both are abusiing your little one & he's not safe. I wonder if any child would be with the attitude you have just described
I agree whole heartedly. If my sister's boyfriend were to treat my child this way just once I'd tell them both exactly how I feel about it... then I would say I will have no more contact with them unless they 1) appologize and 2) agree to change their behavior. What he is doing to your son is not discipline at all... it's abuse and you are the only one who can stop it.
That's right.....you are the parent. Only you and your husband have the right to discipline your child....no one else! It is time to put a stop to what your sisters boyfriend is doing, because otherwise it is going to seriously confuse your son! Not only that, it is abuse! MEntal abuse and physical abuse!
It's time for you to talk to your sister and set her straight, then you sit down with her boyfriend (maybe your husband should) and then set him straight.
IF it happens again, you can have him charged with child abuse. Even though you love your sister and wouldn't want to hurt her, your children are your main priority! Always remember that! Good luck! I hope it is all sorted soon!
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