Well it doesn't sound as if shes a great example does it what the heck are they doing having parties all the time ,encouraging their own children to do whatever their doing I suppose or they don't see themselves like that HA!!!!!. I had the same problem and ended up recording my neighbour after about six months of it. I went over their and told them all that I had filed a formal complaint against them and that I was going to take the tape in that day unless we could resolve it hear and now .I did this when their kids were around so that if they also had any questions or comments I would listen to them and answer them because kids can have a lot of sway with their parents It all came to an amicable end to this day they let the whole street know when they are going to have a party by dropping a flyer in our letterbox and let us know around what time they'll finish. I don' t know if you could find a time to talk to them as it can take some persuading  but this sounds like it's hurting your family too much already so don't leave whatever course of action your going to take for too long as they'll think they have the upper hand.

Hope all goes well and be careful as you don't know how anybody is going to react.

there is a legal way that you can have these disputes worked out. I would suggest possibly seeking legal advice and seeing what is available to you in your area. You could also go to the extreme of getting and Apprehended Violence Order which could stop her from yelling things out to you. It is very sad when some people feel that they can not be adult enough to sort out their problems without all this crap. In my experience it does not stop until something is done. I beleive doing things completely legally is the way to go.

 Lexi xxx

Moving would just give this neighbour too much satisfaction, don't give up and let them win this one.  Instead, as crazy as this sounds, try to turn this enemy into a friend.   I'm not living there so I can't tell you how, but you want to extend an olive branch of sorts (an offer of peace with them) without appearing weak or God forbid, apologizing.  You need to go over the next time she yells and you and say that this would have never started if they had been considerate. 

I would be strong and tell her "Look, I am not moving.  We can choose to battle like this or we can choose to let the past go and try to get along.  Are you in?  It will be best for ourselves and our families."  I would get a few other neighbours with you so they get the message that it is time to try and get along as a neighbourhood  - and all the fighting and bickering is not getting anyone anywhere.

It is very, very hard to do this but that's where I would go.  I have a neighbour who thinks they are much more welathier,sophsticated, and just plain better than our family.  They send their kids of expensive public schools and have fancy imported cars and treat us like we're nothing.  I do wave to them and smile all the time and it drives them nuts!  I think they hate being reminded that someone so "inferior" as myself lives next to them.  Love it!  Payback with kindess is the best there is. 

Good Luck!

Thankyou all for your responses.  Moving is not an option.  I have it so good here, 3 bedroom house, big yard, cheap rent - I can even buy it if i want to!!  I have had to stop my daughter from playing with her children, even though the kids are lovely, because they come inside the house and their mother thinks I treat them badly.  They asked for a drink of cold water once and I don't keep water in the fridge, we only have the bench-top tap ones that comes out room temperature.  I told the children that's all the water I have, but I'd be happy to put it in a glass instead of a cup as I keep these in the freezer to keep them cool. They went home for a drink of water, and now she's telling people I don't give children water!!! It's the ONLY thing on offer in my house most of the time!!!  I had a rock thrown at me once when the council turned up knocking at my door threatening me with a fine if I didn't keep my dog locked inside as it had bitten a child. It wasn't my dog, it was her dog, and it didn't just bite one child, it knocked my daughter over in play and bit me on the arm. All in play though, I don't know who it bit or how bad it was. They took the dog away and the lady threw a rock at me and demanded to know why I did that to her. Luckily I was in the front yard with my other neighbour and he sorted her out.  I can't afford to move, I can't afford to pay any more rent than i'm paying now, and I don't think I should keep moving because other people can't keep to themselves.

I agree with Channy....I would not be moving and I know its easier said than done..but take this cow for what you can. Slander - compensation...go for it...keep reporting her and keep a diary of the abuse, tape her, record her...do what you can....but do not back down. She is doing this 'cause she wants to see you buckle.

I'm buying my home and if I was going thru this, I couldn't just pack up and move...I wouldn't either. You need to take a stand against her and alhtough it may be tough, you need ot do it. Don't allow her to walk over you and keep going back and making reports.

You don't have to ask for police assistance, they dont' have to respond - all you need to do is get them to record the problem on their data base so that you ahve something for when or if you send her to court.

You could even seek legal advice. You may be able to have a letter drawn up by one, a cease and desist letter - it may be all you need to do, besides asking for a public apology..

Good Luck and stay strong

OB