My Daughter has just turned 1 years old and i have found out that i am pregnant again. I am really excited but my family have mixed coments saying that i will find it really hard i need some advise pleeeeese
Hi, my 2 children are 26 months apart. I got told the same things. I'm only 23. So being young with 2 kids, everyone just asumes that i was going to struggle. To tell you the truth, i started to beleive them and was really starting to doubt myself as a mother. But when our son, Julius was born and we brought him home that day all doubt floated away. If anything, having our second child helped me too be more organised. I believe I am a better mum now than when i only had Iesha at home. Knowing that there are two little people that depend on me made me pull it together. No matter how tired i was i always gave them he time they needed. Try not to listen to doubting comments. Some people find it really hard others find it easy. You need to just take each day as it comes, find your routine that works for all, and smile. Don't hesitate to ask for help if you need it. No need to make things harder than they are. I'm sure you will do fine. Minti is always here 24/7 when you need friendly advice or just someone to cheer you up. Goodluck and best wishes.
It doesn't matter the age gap between your children when you have a second it is always going to be hard. I had my boys 2 years apart and it was difficult but you learn to cope.
If you are excited i think you will do a great job, go into things with a positive attitude and you will be fine
the comment from me below was made by a freind, the age gap between my children is about 2 and a half years and you do learn how to cope and raise them. And it does get easier by the day.
Hey forget the doubters you'll be fine, my children were born 15 months apart and it was great. Firstly as your second child you'll be more confident and will feel more capable. Being close means that you're still in baby mode so your thinking doesnt have to change from baby to child within seconds. My sister had her children several years apart and all she did was grizzle because its I forgot about nappies I forgot about .... and was sleep deprived for many years add to that her oldest resented the new baby and then when their son was born felt real jealousy which was hard to handle I think it was made more difficult by the age gap where as mine were to young to actually realise... mind you that was only my experience and it may not be the same in other families. People make their own choices for me it was a joy having mine close, they are old enough to help with the baby as well and with support and guidance from you can cuddle and love the new little one. My kids bonded with each new addition and have remain close friends as they have grown up.
Hi, my biggest advice is not to worry! My first born was only 6 months old when I fell pregnant again. I worried about how I was going to cope but it was actually quite easy. The house was childproof, I was still in the nappy-changing frame of mind, and as my husband put it - might as well get all the yucky bits done together, and the baby rearing out of the way whilst everything is still fresh in my mind - before I forget the difficult parts. My golden piece of advice is get a tandom pram. I would be completely lost without mine. When things got too much (yes both babies do cry at the same time!) I could put them in the pram and go for a walk. I've seen other mums trying to juggle two babies. Why bother when I can put them in the pram and stroll stress free through the shopping centre, stopping to browse without worrying where number one is running off too!
I let strict routine go out the window and to a certain extent let my babies dictate their day. They were happier and I was calmer, simply because I wasn't stressed because it was twenty minutes past when they should have gone down for a nap. They still slept for two hours at a time when they did go down.
I also didn't have any problems with sibling rivalry or jealousy as those feelings simply didn't exist in babies so young.
Well that's about it. Good luck, but take it from me I found it a lot easier having two close together - and the best part...when they both go down for a sleep at the same time! Lol.
I'm always fascinated about how hard I (and others) find the early years when our grandmothers often had 5 or 7 or 9 children running about them and they managed. I think we are a little more isolated these days. I kind of wish families wouldn't comment about how hard things are going to be and perhaps be a little more hands-on in support. I think parenting standards are a little different these days too so that we have fewer childhood accidents but at the expense of eternal vigilance which means (no breaks for Mums). It's a complex issue and one that I think about quite a bit. Yes, it will be hard to have another when your first is under two but the answer, I suspect, is in mobilising as much support as you can to help you in that period. Congratulations on your pregnancy by the way.
You be alright mind are 13 months apart ,its hard but you get into a routine and you you be ok .
You will they be close as they grow up as mind are close more like friends then brothers ,enjoy having your baby and dont worry about what other poeple think
You'll be fine, there is about that much difference between my nephew and niece and my nephew is so cute and protective with his new baby sister.
I had 3 years between mine thinking that was the easiest yet I was constantly having to disturb the baby so I could get my toddler to his play groups etc. Not good at all
To make you feel less intimidated my nan had 9 children and when she had the last baby the oldest was only 12!!!!!! She coped fine and that was without all the mod cons we have now
I thinks its lovely
xxx
Hey there,
Me and my sisters were all 14-16 months apart. My kids are 14 months apart. And OMG i think it is so much easier (nothing to compare to though)
Heres some of the great things about having them close together...
They learn together (i see Jaidan teaching Chase things all the time)
They become best of friends (mine even hold hands and sleep in the same bed sometimes)
You remember everything (no wondering what you did when your other was up all night teething, it only happened last month...)
You still have all the old baby stuff (its fun to buy new stuff but also great that those money crunchers are still lying around)
They keep eachother amused
They wont be bored all the time as they have eachother
and my favourite People will always admire them and ask how close they are. It seems to be a great toic started for strangers LOL
If you are happy who cares what other people think? It will be hard having two children in diapers, but you can do it and it will be a blast. Besides, everything is fresh in your mind, you will be well prepared for another little one. Think how close they will be in age!!! A baby is a wonderful thing, no matter how close his/her sibling will be in age. I am so jealous, I would love to have another baby so quickly, but my husband things I'm crazy!!
The riddiculous thing is that my generation there are soooo many siblings close in age, my brother & I are 15 months apart, that meant I was 6 months old when Mum got prego with my brother. Heaps of the kids I grew up with were as equally as close in age.......I'd lay odds that some of these people raining in your parade had kids close together too. It might be hard for sure. You will have to be very very organised & then it wont be so hard. You will have less time to yourself...unless these members of your not so supportive family turn around & become supportive after all. The big PLUs is that they will leave home around about the same time as each other in about 18 years time & you will have all the time in the world. Who gets the last laugh then eh...hahahahaha! (thats you) Get into a routine with your number 1 now o you have something to model number 2 around when s/he gets here, this way you wont feel lost or drowning & number 1 won't feel left out. Give #1, two 20 minute one on one plays with you. Could be playing with toys, throwing the ball outide (or you blow bubbles & they catch....nice & eay on you) or read a story. 40 mins out of 24 hours not much, but does need to be cheduelled & will mean a lot to #1.
Hi congratulations.. I have a 9 month old and we just found out we are expecting again.. As for your family it may be hard but if you are excited that is what really matters.. Yes you will be busy and it will be tough at times.. feel free to email me whenever you want....
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