Thanks to all that responding to my concerns about my daughters head banging. I took her to an ENT specialist today and turns out that the ear infections she has been battling for nearly 3 months now hasn't gotten better, so she is off for surgery to have tubes in her ears. When I asked him about her head banging and hitting when her older sister cries he said she is in pain and the noises around her are causing her even more distress. Well now I know lol, however he did point out that she could also be doing this for attention, etc, so we will see... Again thanx to all and take care!!!

Lynn, mommy of Will, Hannah, and Ayla

hey guys my son went through the same thing and they are very clever to be doing this according to the child clinic i called out as the child knows you wont let them do any serious damage to themselves so in turn they get you or what they want,so the docs advice was set a pota cot up in the lounge where they can see everyone and as soon as the child head bangs pick him up and say in a calm nice voice"mummy dosnt want you do to that as you are going to hurt your head you can come out when your happy and calm" put them straight in the cot and walk away and continue to do what you were doing for 2 mins no eye contact no talking nothing for that whole two minutes,my middle son stopped all head banging within three days and never did it again
you can use this for all sorts of things as well they hate seeing that  you can get on with things while they are in their cot ,but there room hasnt become a place where naughty kids go either

give it a try and goodluck

Hi there, my son started doing the same thing at around 18 months old, we had never had a day of trouble with him before this, it just seemed to come out of no where.  Turned out he did in fact have a double ear infection.  He will still hit (others) when he gets mad and throw him self on the ground but the actual head banging has stopped, for that I am grateful as it really frightened me.

 

my youngest nephew did this also, and it was only a phase with him. My SIL would try and put a cushion under his head when he did it.

My son did that at that age and still on the odd occasion he hits. We just tell him no and tell him to say sorry (give kisses) if this dosn't work we then do time out. 1 minute for every year is the generally accepted I have found with Zack it only takes thirty seconds. Good luck

 Lexi xxx

Presuming that you have seen the doctor to rule out any illness, headbanging often suggets ear infections and headaches (interesting that she hits her sister when she's crying,ie making a noise). You know what its like if you've a headache and somebody won't shut up!

Try to work out any pattern to the behaviour. Is she tired? she is still young enough to be in the bust boom cycle. You know the one where they dash round like mad things and then flake out. If can spot the triggers you can dive in quickly before the behaviours really start.

Whatever the cause of her behaviour it must be very frightening for her. Try to give her extra cuddles and reassurance. And remember , as my mother always says "its only a phase"

hugs

Anne