I think you should look at things from her point of view.  She is obviously feeling insucure about her relationship with her husband and by ignoring her feelings you are just creating tension to the situation.  Talk to her and set her straight, let her know the truth, that all you are is friends.  Like you said, people that know you think its funny that she would think this.  But she DOESN'T know you, so if your going to be friends with her husband, maybe let her get to know you and you get to know her and this will ease her mind.  It may sound crazy for her to think like this, but could it be possible that she has had a prior experience with this in the past and it turned out to be 'more than friends'??

I vote for ignoring her too.  Confronting her in any way will only add fuel to her fire.  She doesn't deserve any kind of reaction from you.

My situation isn't exactly the same, but my husband's ex. does her best to malign my reputation in every way and every chance she gets.  I have discovered firstly, people that beleive her without any knowledge or desire to see the whole story are morons and I don't need that kind of person in my life any way.  I have three kids (two of which are hers, thank you very much), and I really don't have time for any kind of nonsense.

Secondly, if I don't let her change who I am (by getting angry, annoyed, resentful, bitter or wanting revenge), I prove her wrong every minute of every day.  Eventually, most people that beleive her come around and appologize for behaving badly to me, and the people that don't can go jump in a lake for all I care.

In the end, it's always her that ends up looking like the fool that she is.

it's so strange but woman who have never had a male friend just dont get it do they lol my best buddy of 10 years is a guy and it took a long time to convince some people that there was nothing there other than a good friendship... i've alwase had guy friends. i've put off my wedding because i cant find a bridesmade lol only now since i joined minti have i made any female friends... point being, don't bother this gossip queen she isn't worth the air she's breathing and is obviosly busy enough being such a loser. all the important people know better and anyone who believes this woman is just as loserish as she is... also it is never wrong to be friends with anyone unless they are a terrorist or a circus clown. happy daiz and :)'s for you, your mob and your blokey buddie and fam.

Personally I think a reputation and integrity is the most important thing in life.  After you are gone from this earth, your reputation lives on..  so I would confront the woman.  Maybe give her a call and ask her if there is anything she would like to discuss with you..then elaborate with ...... I have it from a reliable source that you have suggested that I am having an affair with.......  I'll have you know he is  a very good friend of mine AND my children. I am inscensed that you would insinuate otherwise and I would appreciate it if you would stop spreading these nasty rumours.  I'm sure she will deny it  all.  When she does, tell her she has no idea how much all of this has upset you, and the rumours best stop, or you will look into a slander charge for whomever started it.  I'm sure some people would say ignore it and it will eventually die off, but  personally, rumours like that should be addressed, and nipped in the bud. Good luck.

ok so this is what happened to my husband and my best friend when we were first married! they used to hang out alot so often they would go to lunch at a local cafe where we all new the waitress! I was never with them so the one day when I decided to stop by the waitress couldn't wait to tell me about my husband and Joan and the fact that she was sure they were having an affair! Shortly after hearing allabout this they wlaked into the cafe, I looked the both of them up and down and in a rather loud voice said "So Sue here tells me the two of you are having an affair!" "What the hell how come noone invited me!" Tha shut her up and there was never any more gossip about my husband, my best frien, or poor old me! My advice is hit it head on!

I have just laughed so hard that I had tea come out my nose eeeww. Thanks I love you all. Sophie is spending the day at his work tomorrow in her new fluro yellow safety shirt and boots. She has packed her lunch and her bag, I'm sure she's plotting how to move in with them !!!! 

hi,  i think you should pull the gossiper aside and tell her the truth and that you would appreciate it if she would mind her own it has nothing to do with her anyway i think it is great that you have a male friend who is married and has children we have the same kind of friendships with some friends and i think it is wonderful .

Just ignore her hunny she obviously has nothing better to do and is not very happy where she is in her life. It will all die down soon.

 Lexi xxx

No there no harm in it , tell women  to get a life  , She just jealouse of the fact  you have a male friend at that

Don't let her  get to you   its her problem   let her deal with it

Hi
My best friend is a married man....
Shock horror
We love each other as a brother and sister would.....
His wife is ok with it....
Organise it with your friends wife and set her up totally.....
Have his wife go and cry on her shoulder lol
Then show her up for the fool she is
Just my thoughts
Luv Deb

Oh god ignore it............I would perhaps send her a sympathy card commiserating with her on her lack of a life.or get the friend and his wife and you to walk up in front of her at work and give him a big pash LOL

Obviously this other woman who is a gossip doesn't matter to you so just leave it smile at her and let it be....I am best friends with a married man and if your hubby and her wife are cool with it all then it is fine I think anyway....Have a good night
Cheers
Angie