hi Skylee, i am Ian, and a 38 y/o male,  with ex's (i even have one in NZ  that my daughter Maddison lives with) and for what its worth, i would not want to stay at my ex's especially if i knew it was going to make my present partner feel as you have described you feel, in fact i would not under any circumstances even consider staying there any way, i think it would be wrong  for every one concerned including the child, i believe that out of respect for your feelings even if he has nothing to hide, he should not consider it either. as for the wedding ring, it is the past and should remain there, his 9 y/o child is the only person that should want the ring . I have always believed that trust is love. without trust there can be no love.  from Ian

I think he should be taking  you and  the little one with him.i just don't think its right to stay with the ex  wife,i be feeling like  you  worry .

I was talking to a male friend of mine and thinks its just toatoly wrong , here thinks theres more to it  and he wouldn't  be staying at exs   he be taking  his child to send time with him  somewhere else .

oops !!

Thanks Gazza!! Can i call you Gazza?  Gary??

nice to hear some input from men also...

So thanks again..

Skylee

Hi Skylee

Its clear that this matter concerns you deeply so I don’t think that its a good idea that he stays there! It is understandable the concerns you have and I think any girl or guy in your situation would feel the same! He needs to see his child, but he also needs to consider your feelings as well, and he should do whatever it takes to achieve both!!!

I think a good compromise would be for you all to go and make it a family holiday!

Matt.

I don't think you are over reacting hunny. I think that you need him to be more understanding of your feelings. I think that hubby needs to look at it from your point of veiw.

 Lexi xxx