Hi There, im a 20 yr old mother of a 9mth old and have just found out i am pregnant again! its a big shock to me as im on the depo shot and use protection so how i got pregnant is beyond me! my partner obviously has strong little swimmers!!! im needing some advise on what i should do and how i should take this as ive just started to get my freedom back ive just got back to my pre-pregnancy weight and dont know how iam going to cope with another baby! please help as this has really shocked the system and im extremly nervous and scared that i will have no life with two babies at the age of 20!!!
hi i am a 24 almost 25 and i have 3 children when i was 17 i had my first little boy and when he was 9mths old i was pregant with my 2nd son so they are only 18mths apart and i was 19 and i had 2 it is hard but you learn to cope i am sure that you have family support. my boys are the best of mates and i probable would of had them closer if i had done it again. don't worry about your weigh to much because you have a 9mth old to run around after and you don't put on much weight with the 2nd 1 cause you are already running around with the first. the way i look at it with having them young is that my eldest son is almost 8 and in 10yrs time he will be 18 and i will be 35 and my younest will be 12 so i will just about have my life back to some degree there are alot of plus to have children young.
you can do it and i am sure you will enjoy it as i have.
Hi there,
I am 23 and have 2 boys who are 23months and 3 years old. It is difficult but with good support you dont have to be doomed to no life as you say. I still go out and see my friends. I go out once a week clubbing with my friends. There are usually mothers groups that run at your health centre. I joined this and a playgroup and have made lots of friends with mums. We used to go to lunch once a week with the kids and socialize. Itsreally not as bad as you may think.
Keep ya chin up and feel free to minti mail me. I have been through it all too :)
Hugs to you
Mel
firstly stay calm because stress can make you lose that baby i know u are young but be happy you can achive such a miracle .family help will be handy or even friends,secondly get your child ready such as have a doll that you can carry around its important that your child gets used to have another baby around .read your cild books about babys and brothers/sisters etc.most mothers are nervous if they get pregnant when they kids are still babys but just remenber it all works out ok in the end.
if you think you cant cope as so many mothers dont ,get help you can give the baby to someone else/abort(not really nice)but remenber no matter what iam sure your hubby or partner will be there to help.
its so hard one voice in my head is telling me to abort, the other is telling me to just go along with it and get them out of the way. i dont know im so confused i have great support from my partner my mother is from that era where no on babysat for them so they dont do it for others i.e me! so i dont have much help there my partner runs two very busy IT companys and is hardly home so really i'll be looking after these two by myself, im worried that ill get post natel depression and regret having the child thats why im not sure if i shoulf abort which is horrible i know but what do you do?
that is a shock!!! im 20 with a 19mth old boy and have been on that stuff too!
i thought i was pregnant at one stage but im not.
i wouldn't say i dont have a life or no freedom, my life includes my son and i get offers for babysitting to have a good relax, pampering or go out.
Have you got any friends with children aswell? i have made some older friends with kids and we find that there is more to do that include the kids.
all my friends are over the age of 25 and most have babies and are having there second but its different for them in the sense that there married and there've had a honey moon and travelled and all those thing that i havnt done i dont want to go on my honey moon with kids! but then i think that i can have my two still be young when they have grown up and travel when im older, i dont know to me having one for now is enough. im confussed as you can tell. i really appreciate all the help!
yeah, im not married either, and now you have made me think of what would happen with a honeymoon if i did LOL!!!
Its not very nice that your mother wouldn't wanna take your child for a night or two, my mum would kill for more time with her grandchildren, i know my mum isnt into lending large sums of money because she was raised to do it on her own...
personally i think its best to have kids young, are you coping allright now with the one child?
at the moment, i really want a second child but because my son is a bit of a rough-nut im too scared to have a baby near him
Don't stress too much just yet, talk it over with your partner first. I am getting married this year and don't want to have to take our kids withus for our honeymoon either. What about his parents can they be your support at all?
yeah there in there 60's and 70's and live in tasmania and also have admitted to me that there've forgotten everything about looking after a baby so that makes me a bit iffy about leaving them with his parents. i think im just going to suck it up and take it head on and just deal with it you never know it could be the best thing that evr happened to me having two kids now.
Hi there, the first thing you need to do is calm down. I do know how you feel I just found out I'm pregnant as well and my daughter is 7 months old. Even though we planned this pregnancy it is going to be hard as I too have just gotten back to my previous weight and all. You do need to decide whether or not you are ready for another baby. If you decide you are then you should find out if there are plenty of support groups around(minti is always great for support). One good thing about this is that if you decide you are ready for another bub then they by the time they are grown up you will still be young enough to have a life, so to speak. This will be my 3rd bub and I am only 24 but I found that after bubs is a bit older I just hand them over to daddy, call some friends and hit the town for a girl's night out. Good Luck with everything and feel free to minti mail me if you wanna chat.
congratulations to you! i think i would be taking this alot better if it was planned but because i was taking evrything to stop me from getting pregnant but didnt work its such a big shock! but is very helpful to know theres help out there from you all that i can get! thankyou xo
fantastic i just have to work out how to retrieve it im new to this! i'll talk to you all soon have to attend to my little one thanks to you all once again it means alot to me!! xo
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