THE FIRST THING U MUST DO IS LEARN TO FORGIVE YOURSELF FOR ANY MISTAKES U MAY MAKE,ALWAYS PUT YOUR CHILDREN FIRST ALWAYS HAVE TIME FOR YOURSELF AT LEAST 15 MINUTS.NO MATTER  WHAT RELATIONSHIOP YOU GET INTO NEVER PUSH YOUR CHILDREN ASIDE .

PARENTING IS A LEARNING EXPERIENCE SO DONT WORRY TO MUCH AS LONG AS YOUR THERE FOR YOUR CHILD WEHN THEY NEED YOU WEATHER ITS FOR ADVICE,OR A SCRAPPED KNEE IT WILL ALL BE FINE .

DONT EVER PUT YOURSELF IN THEIR SHOES AS THE ADVICE MAY NOT BE WHAT THEY NEED JUST TELL THEM WHAT YOU THINK AND LET THEM DECIDE.

go with your heart, it will all come naturally. The fact that you had the maturity and to really think about past decisions and what was best for you and your family back then already shows the making of a good parent.

You already have the sense of responsibility it takes, the rest will just fall into place, you also obviously really want this family to work as does your parner so you are miles ahead of some people.

And really love is the most important ingrediant of all, love for your baby love for your partner and most important love for yourself! you will be a great mum and your instincts will guide you thru all your ups and downs, enjoy the wonders of parenting you will be fine!

Do what you feel is right for you right now because later when the child is here, it's all about the child and it is harder to do anything for yourself then. I don't think there is a "right" time to have children but nonetheless there are goals each of us has within ourselves that with a child become harder to accomplish. For example, before I had children, I wanted to have a stable marriage, finish school, have a good job, wanted to travel--I did those things that now that I have children, I have no regrets and can be selfless because it's all about them now. The one thing that my husband did not get to finish before kiddos is his 4 yr degree, and now he is finishing but if you ask him is it hard, he will be the first to say yes and how much he misses our children in the evenings & on weekends when he has to study--see, it is harder. Again, do what is right for you at present to prepare yourself for the day that you'd like to be all the parent you are capable of being...

I usually read and research a question, find the answer, or learn a new skill to increase the level of confidence and competency I have with a particular thing. So as you can imagine all this is pretty much useless when faced with your question - and it is the same one I asked myself and still ask myself !

I think there isn't anything I can say that the other members haven't said. I still feel so incredibly new as a parent (I have a 18 week son) but when I look back I have learnt so many things in this short time.I have resisted the inevitable conclusion that you can read and listen to others, but at the end it comes down to you on the job, doing it, learning everyday, loving your baby no matter what and doing the best you can.

If you find the answer please let me know eh?! x

I just sent ya a Minti Mail mate, hope it helps :)

Is there such a thing as being prepared and having your life completly ready for a baby???? I don't think so. On one hand if that's what we were all waiting for mankind would die off, but on the other hand it is such a huge life consuming thing to have a baby so I think it's better to be sure you yourself are ready for a child. Also you learn on the job!

1:  Love your child above all else.

2:  Do what you believe is the best for your child in the decisions you make.

3:  Do not be scared to ask questions, no matter how silly they may seem.

4:   Follow your heart and believe in yourself.

5:  Stay on Minti, it's here to help with advice, ideas, and support for you.

The fact that you are concerned about being a good mother, and you have come here and asked for this advice, shows that you are already a good mother. You are one step ahead of many parents who have entered parenthood without a clue what to expect. I'm sure you will do really well.

you just learn how to be a mum when you are a mum and how do you be a good mother , you just follow the love in your heart a love for your child is  unconditional as once you have a child you will have it for life , you will have to teach them everything .we all have our ups and down in raising a child  and at times it isnt easy ....but we all do what we think its best for  our children ,,

sleepnesnights are one thing that we all go through

 we worry when they are ill

there are things you might have to give up in life in order to raise your child

be arround people that you know that have children in order to know of what there is to expect from having a child

having a child is a true gift and not one to be taken lightly

go have a chat to your doc about your health issues , he might be able to also put you through some type of parenting class just t give you some ideas ,, but in the end its up to you to love and protect the child you have

 

You can read all of the books and follow what they say and you still won't get the result that they say you should.  The best advice that I received in regards to kids is to "follow your heart".  No one knows everything about raising kids, and don't trust someone that says they do.  You will know when you are ready to start a family, make sure that youare doing it for the right reasons.  Go with your own instincts and if you aren't sure ask someone whose opinion youvalue and trust, if this isn't a family member or close friend ask a health care nurse or your doctor.

Follow your heart and everything will be alright.  You can never be fully prepared for the difference a child will make in your life.  Just enjoy the experience and make the most of it, for both yourself and your child.

Good Luck remember to follow your heart whatever you choose.

Hang on I dont undarstand. Did you luse the baby or what???? First of all there is no recepi for a good mother. Just loving your kids, suporting them, doing the best you could thats what makes a good mother. My advice is look at your own mother. Build up on the things that you like about her, see what worked with you. If something did not work for you why would it work with your kids. My advice is if you have an "if" or "but" in your mind about something than you better stop and think about it proplerly.