Hi Honey ,

I know many ppl wont agree with me here but honestly I wouldn't worry to much. I think you will find that she is still a little grumpy and unsure after being ill and that's ok . . ..  I bet she loved all the extra attention.

What you did is no different than what i do and will continue to do for my children (my oldest is 16). When they are sick they need a little bit extra and honestly i think we as mums do too . . .  I love to cuddle up with my kids especially when they are sick. I think that extra bit of love goes a long way.

Try not to worry honey . . . . when she throws herself on the ground try offering a diversion such as her favourite toy etc . . . If this doesn''t work then sit down on the floor with her and talk then slowly get up and go about what you want to do.

You have have to do this a few times but by getting down on the floor with her you are saying "I'm not going to pick you up but I will listen" . .  this sends a postive note as well as giving her reassurance . . .

Goodluck B . . . .. . Cheers Kellz

At 16 months, using a redirection when it comes to dealing with tantrums may still work for you. This is just means that you take your child and direct her attention towards something else, far from what she is throwing a tantrum about. 

In a few months, redirection isn't going to work much. What I've done is to ignore the tantrums. My husband and I have learned very early on that if we hang around our son and watch him throw his tantrum, the tantrum just gets prolonged. If we go about our business, and ignore him, the tantrum only lasts a few minutes.

Also, you can start to talk to your child and get into the practice of talking her out of her tantrums. For example, if she is throwing a tantrum because she can't make her toys do whatever she was wanting it to do, you can tell her that maybe she can try turning the toy, or show her how to manipulate the toy. This is actually a great thign to get into now because when your child gets older, you'll be able to avoid having to go and help her every 5 minutes or so when she's playing by herself.

Good luck!

Hi. First i wouldnt say its your fault, i would say its your nature. I know i was the same when my son was the same age. The only thing i can suggest is maybe, with her being so young, try a distraction. If she wants, say a drink, distract her by focusing her attention of her fav doll / toy. Maybe helping you get something, or something done. It used to work with mine when he was little (now 4), and it helped with my daughter (2). Hope this helps, even a little. Good luck :)