Thank you for all the advice, it has really helped. I think I wrote one thing wrong I still have the DVO on him. He is begging me to take it off him because he thinks he didn't deserve it. I provoked him to be angry, I am so scared that I will lose my child as he has said I have nothing I am not working because he was ringing me at work all the time and made me feel bad that the boss said no phone calls and that I made work more important than him, he will always put me number 1 as he said. so in the end my work had enough and made my life horrible until i quit because they couldn't fire me as being pregnant, and it would be wrong to fire me.    I am living with my mum and there is no room to bring up a child to crowed I dont have my own room there, the money from welfare is not enough for a real estate to even look at me to rent a house and I am scared of renting a room from someone I dont know,  but this is early days, I can do it just keep my chin up, its really hard though. I just think its easier going back but then I have my mum saying no and I have great advice from all of you, I thank you so much for that. hopefully I can do it. I dont have friends anymore as all  my friends were males and he did not like me talking to them so I cant contact them as I deleted their numbers. grr. all the people I know i cant trust cause they know him and I even bumped into an old friend miles away from him and thought she wouldn't know him and she did and went straight back to him and told him where I was, luckly she didnt find where I was staying. Im so upset that people can just not care like including what I told her what happpened and that I want no one know where I was. Not a true friend I know, I have stopped all contact with her and this weekend I spoke to him friday and thats when he was threatning me to put the dropping of the Dvo in writing in his mail box that night or he is going to his lawyer and fighting this and it will cost me a fortune to pay a lawyer to help me, and i didnt do it, i was stong and didnt put it in writing and didnt put it in his letter box, & I have had 12 missed calls from that girl wanting to catch up and see how I am and wanting to pick me up from where I am, Yeah right like im that stupid, Im not talking im not going to be put back there anything could happen.

Sorry about the amount of writing here girls im just tring to get it off my chest. its really getting to me, I wish I could have a nice drink and relax and I cant I refuse to drink being pregnant. lol. I'll just try to amuse myself and stay busy to not think about it, usually I had work as an escape but I dont anymore.

So im not dropping the DVO and I am not going to answer anymore phone calls as I hear his voice and I go weak. I dont know if its love as its different to my previous relationships ive had but he just has that charm. bloody men. im not falling for it. not again never again.    Thank you for your wonderful advice it means alot. :-)

I was going to make a coment here but after reading Nell's coment i really have to agree with everything she says, it would be exactly what i would have said. Stay strong hon, some of us have been there done that and no matter what you do he will always sweet talk you to come back, he won't change, you have seen this for yourself. Goodluck and remember there are people here who you can talk to anytime just don't be afraid to reach out, sometimes strangers make the best listners, its even better if they understand you completely.

Best Wishes Blond.

you do need help.  you need your family and your friends to rally around you and support you and help you to make the right decisions.  you know the right thing to do is to stay away from this evil person. 

he does have rights as the father of this child.  but, it is really unlikely that he would get any kind of custody, let alone visitation given his violent nature.  just be strong for yourself and your unborn baby.  If you aren't, no one else will be.

good luck and if you need a cyber shoulder, give me a shout.

angela