when i split from my ex i concentrated on my children they were my world to me.....and yes after 8 yrs you wonder will there ever be someone really special that will not only love you but your children as well.......i was lucky and found him....his a great man and he has been wonderful to me and my children.....and now we have two more......no you are not being selfish everyone needs someone to love......

I think that it is very smart to be careful with relationships because of our kids. I think you are not being selfish just careful and that is a very great thing everybody needs love and affection from an adult at sometime

 Lexi xxx

Sorry i missed the original question, but it doesn't sound to selfish to me. I mean c'mon 7 yrs your doing better than the girls on sex and the city lol, but seriously you sound like your a great mum and i think its time for you to say i need a bit of me time.

Best Wishes Blond.

You aren't selfish at all
I swore I would never trust another man and I still believe that
However there are times when something else goes wrong I just think how nice it would be if there was a really great guy in my life, who would just give me a cuddle when I am down, just be there totally for me, support me and even stand up for me when the going gets tough. I have Never had that. My ex only touched me when he wanted no NEEDED Sex!!! Affection is an alien concept to me except from my children
But I do think that as much as I don't need a man right now, I would love that kind of affection, nothing else I'm totally not ready for anything like that. But just the comfort part of affection.
So if you are being selfish then I guess I am too