Stick to your routine! My HUSBAND didn't even get it......until he had to put up with the results! He gets it now! I tell my friends the times we are available and if it doesn't fit in....it doesn't fit in!If they are over at my place, I tell them I am happy to tell them to amuse themselves while I put the cherub to bed. I have found this is a good ploy - I can still get her to have a sleep AND have a socail life- although I get sick of cooking muffins and cakes and dinner time BBQ's! I have missed that many socail occassions because I would rather keep the cherub in her routine than bear the brunt of the tantrums and screaming that missing out on sleep brings! If they are real friends, they will help you out by fitting in with your cherub's routine!

I know just how you feel . . ..  My bub 10.5 months has a sleep everymorning for 1 hour and another at 2pm for an hour. . . . plus she is used to a certain bedtime routine which begins a 5.30 with her tea then a bath followed by mum time and then bottle and bed.

I've told EVERYONE that I WILL NOT break these routines EVER! ! ! If they can't respect it then tough luck . . .  Our kids need these things and they come first. If my friends and family can't understand it then it tough luck . . .  They are the ones losing out . . . . .

Oh and my little bub hates being held alot too . . .  Very independent and there is nothing wrong with it . . . The only time i get to have lots of cuddles is either when she tired or when she wants too . . . . hehehe

Don't change your beliefs or routines for others. If you've explained your reasons then they should understand. Especailly when it come to a little one . . . After all they are only little for a short period.

Cheers Kellz

I would try and get her into a routine, like having a nap in the morning, ducking out to shops, then lunch then another nap you know what i mean and just explain to you friends that as you are getting your little one into a routine her sleeps at the moment are all over the place and maybe could you make it at this time and this day. You could also perhaps let your friends know that she has just woken up or is ready for her nap therefor she is a bit grumpy and would just like to play quietly on the floor or else where. Goodluck

Best Wishes Blond.

Tell them and if they don't like it then they miss out on your company for that outting. People who can not respect others ways will miss out on a lot in life

 Lexi xxx

Here Here!  I have the same flippin problems.  I have friends who fight over who gets to hold my son. And he is more interested in playing with his feet or the dog or watching their big TV!  I just step in and take him.  And I don't have a social life with those who plan interfering events. 

Some might think I am being naive or silly or whatever but you know what, I am the one who looks after this little boy and I know what works and what doesn't. 

Do what you think is right!  You are the mommy!