Lately ive been feeling very frustrated... Sometimes I dont wanna be around my son. I love him to pieces, and would do anything for him.. Hes very happy, and hes amazing.. Hes just sometimes sooo crazy... Im a teen mom, like all teen moms or even just moms i get upset but its not with him.. Im soo hard on myself because i have HIGH expectations... But its not like i can get up and go for a walk so i have to sit here and listen to him cry which breaks my heart.. I just want to go back to how things were before i got pregnant.. sometimes i think its not fair that i had to get pregnant.... i was lied to which is how i got pregnant.. but.. i just feel upset and i wanna curl up in a ball go to sleep and never wake up again ( not saying im suicidal, i just want my old life back as a regular teen..)
Huge hugs. If you are worried, go and see your GP or Health Nurse - they have a test to see if you may have PND or if it is just the Baby Blues. And they can help you through it.
I was a teen mom,but a baby is a huge responsiblity and no one is really understanding of what it takes until you are a Mom. I've had many older Mom's that weren't prepared too! You have you and a baby so to look forward is going to help you both. The choices you made have changed your future and now you have this little one that is so amazing and they get more so with every day. Don't be alone and let your thoughts focus on what is past. It'll rob you of the joy of the present. You need to look for help to plan a future. This is what you need to be doing for you and your son so there is something to look forward to...to provide the best life for your family!
Really sorry you are feeling this way. I am probably twice your age but I too am finding it difficult when my three month old daughter cries. I think being a new parent is hard no matter what your age. Sometimes I just sit (or stand) and rock her while she cries. Sometimes I feel like joining in but so far I have resisted the urge.
You mentioned wanting to go for a walk. Not sure where you are and what the weather is like but maybe if it's not too bad you could put your son in his pram and take him for a walk to get you both out of the house.
Have you spoken to your clinic sister. Depression can be really scarey and it is better to get help sooner rather than later if you need it.
Hang in there.
Sorry to hear that your having a rough time at the moment. Yes things can get bad and baby can get you down , but think what beautful person you brought to this world .
I have you got family that you can count on or a friend that might be able to come over and stay the night with you , sometimes just having some one there helps .
Hi there matey well I am no longer a teen mum...But almost 17 years ago I was...I am now 34 and my eldest is 17 in July...It was hard when I first had him and I struggled alot with being so young and not being able to do the things all my friends were doing...My parents were great but I went back to school and finished my senior and even got accepted into uni which I never followed through but I got accepted hehe...Take some ME time and never feel guilty for doing it...I think its time you stop beating yourself up about it hey and accept the fact you are a teen mum and with htat comes responibility no more full on regular teen stuff....BUT in saying that that doesnt mean you can't still go to the occasional party with your friends or go out without bub once in a while...No one will look down on your for this as long as you have somewhere safe for him to be...Even if you just go for a day out with a friend...It will be all good you will see take care of yourself and your little man and good luck
cheers
Angie
Well, you could look at it like this........out of a sinister lie.......came the most beautiful gift and privilege that you will ever have in your whole life. They are the most work but they have the biggest rewards...like the first coo, smile, crawl, word...(the best is when they first say mamma), their first step, tooth.....believe me I could go on and on.
I do understand how you feel though because I have been there myself. BUT........The quicker you take the time to see all of those beautiful little things that they do and know that you made that baby.......take the time to enjoy....these are the moments you will never get back. I am not trying to be mean here but for me the quicker I stopped feeling sorry for myself (cuz your life won't be the same and you can be negative or positive) the less moments that I missed out on.
Ps I am not a teen but I am only twenty five.....There have been days for me that I have thought...................Oh my god WHY did I do this to myself......or I want my life back so I totally get where you are coming from. I would pick someone that you are very comfortable with and sit down and have a good old mommy bitch session. I was afraid to say my true feelings as well because I thought people would look down on me. There have been times for Most moms (not alot will admit it) but I think at one point or another when babies been screamin for hours you haven't had a good decent sleep in eight or so months, you can't get showers for 2 and 3 days sometimes, havn't had a hot meal in a while....that everyone says......I just want my life back. Even going to the store was an olympic event..... I get ya honey....it's normal. Try some of the vitamins and keep your doctor posted. don't ever be afraid to call up someone you trust and say I need ten minutes to myself help me. It's ok to put baby in the crib and go outside for ten minutes and deep breathe.
Hi
I like your comment....you were lied to thats how you fell pregnant.....oh my goodness..my daughter is going to have hundreds of kids she lies heaps lol
I thought sex got you pregnant not lies. Hmm maybe i was told wrong
Hugs for you hope your laughing now at least
You are young and with a baby comes a lot of responsibility
Even us oldies have problems some days
You will find days that you don't like your kids doesn't mean you don't love them you just dont like their behaviours.
Put bub in day care once or twice a week so you can have some "ME" time
All parents need it
At your age you should be out partying and having fun with your friends
That is why us parents tell you don't have sex til you are ready.....You are the most fertile at your age....
This is why you feel the way that you do
Your innocence has been taken away from you and by the sounds of it you don't have much support.
Join a young mums group or play group there are lots of them out there. They help you to make friends with other mums in the same situation. You will see your feelings are normal
Lower your expectations...if life isn't perfect just roll with the flow
Guess what you can never go back your a mum now not a regular teen.....although it seems to be regular with teens now...they will be your support
Be happy and love your baby...and most of all luv yourself and take "me" time
Luv Deb
sounds like also you need a little time out , can your family watch bubb so you can go out for the day . a day with some time out works wonders , we all need a little break now and then , dont be soo hard onyourself most of us have gone through this at some stage also ,, ask for a little help
I can't say since you don't talk about how old your baby is. Probably not baby blues. You are just feeling a bit nostalgic for the old days. I think we all do at times, especially when we are tired, sleep deprived, alone, emotional. I don't know if you have help with your baby but being a single parent doesn't help, nor the fact that you are a teen. Your emotions are all over the place with normal teen hormones and now you are dealing with pregnancy hormones.
Don't be so hard on yourself. Ask for help when you need it. You dont' have to do this alone.
That's really sad to hear. It sounds like depression to me, depending on his age it may be PND (Post Natal Depression) but either way I think you need to talk to someone. I don't like to be a pill advocate, but sometimes using medication in the short-term along with some counselling and lifestyle changes will be very helpful in the long-term. I wish you all the best, and would strongly advise you get some help. If you want to talk more, feel free to send me a message through minti mail.
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