I know where your coming from i felt that way too for a while.I know for myself it was the fact that instead of seeing him as this spunky man that wanted me .He was with other people more than me,a dad,a worker and our car driver most of the  time.I saw him as not as wonderful and indestructable as he was in the past.But also boredom in life and how everyday runs into the next making everything so mundane.My partner and i are trying to do a new thing everyday so it doesnt become so "ho hum".We go to school earlier,we go to a different cofee shop,we get something different for lunch etc.The only other thing that will cause that is perhaps depression.or PND.Maybe its creeped up on you so quickly that it really can overwelm all thoughts.This last week i didnt want my baby,or my partner or my house.I was so fed up with the boring exsistance i wanted to give my baby up for adoption,leave my partner and move to brisbane.

So i hope this helps im very sorry that this is happening and i really hope you can see that you probably do love your husband vey much it might just be life in general your out of love with.Try and love more the things he means to you and not your immediate thoughts for him.It did work for me.

wow! thanks everyone

well everything is okey now lol hehe, i'm not really sure what came over me but this sort of thing seems to happen every once in a while to me, but i feel fine now (very bizare) i was a bit shirty when i picked hubby up this morning, so i got angry at him, then he listened and now i'm fine (hu!) but i tend to be like that sometimes, i think i was just angry at him, but not really sure why, i think i just really missed him which sounds stange i nknow as i was saying i don't find him attractive anymore lol, (my emotions run rings around me at times) i've been very up and down lately (maybie hormones) anyways i'll probably right the same thing again in about a month lol

anyway thanks everyone for makeing me realize i'm not the only one who has feelings like this at times

thanks

Hi, hang in there. Our feelings about people change all the time. Each of us need our own time, time for ourself and then we need time together- when there is just your husband and you, and then there is family time.

My husband is my full time carer. He has been around me 24/7 for the last 15 years. At times he drives me crazy. I take time out for myself, I go and use the computer, listen to music or meditate. We make time for each other. It has been the way our marriage has managed to survive for the last 26 years.

So hang in there. Marriage is all about the good and the bad. Go out together, hold hands, laugh at jokes, laugh with the kids,

Most of all remember how much you are loved and how much you love.

All the best

Hi, my husband and I were at this stage about 5 yrs ago.He was doing refridgerated semi driving for 3 yrs and was hardly home in that period.Heres me sitting at home with 4 children to take care of and while your husband is not at home you get in your own routine with your children,and then when hubby comes home and unsettles it all,so yes it is easier for them just not to come home.

In the last 5 weeks of my husband doing fridgies we saw him for 2 days and not even full days at that and of course he had to be serviced (sex)in the short time he was home  and I really didn't feel like it as I was too annoyed with him because he was never home I know he was only doing it to support his family financially but he was not here supporting me as a husband ,father  and me as a wife mother and there was other options.

I had ,had enough finacially we were no better off than if  he had a local  truck driving job ,because of what he spent on the road.So I gave him an option family or the job.He soon finished up with the fridgies and as he had a good reputation in our local area as a sand and gravel truck driver he had a new job to start the next day.

He has now been home permenantly with us for 5 yrs and we have never been happier ,we go camping ,fishing and all the family stuff and he realizes now he missed out on so much of our younger boys growing up.I too met  my husband very young I was only just 17 and he was 18  but in my experience my husband and I grew together.We have  been together for 18 yrs in august  and married for 15, i think the longer he  is away the worse things may get.So if finacially your husband is able to get a local job and be home with his family in time things may get better,and the spark may return.

I know exactly how you feel, I too am confused at the moment as am not sure if I love my husband any more, or i am just really angry at him & also can't stand it if he tries to touch me, not that it happens any more.  I was concerned about this & went & talked to my doctor, just last Monday, who reassured me that the majority of women with young kids feel this way. She recommended I take a mild AD to get 'my spark' back & suggested I go & talk to a councellor about my feelings etc..  So my suggestion to you is, go & see your Dr & have a chat with them, they are probably the best ones to help you. Also, please feel free to visit me, as talking to people who are in a similar situation, sometimes helps. Wishing you all the best. Try & keep your chin up! I'm trying too! RobynM.