I am 26 too and am seeing that my 3 year old would have not only had more individual attention but would have enjoyed helping me w/his baby brother 9 months younger then him. I wish I had waited, would have let my body heal more and better, would have given my 3 year old his own 3 years of just him, I wouldn't have been so tired when my 2 year old was a baby,  BUT, BIG BUT, I will never regret and am looking foward to my 3rd, but am going to wait at least 2 years. Hope this helps you :)

Ihave a step daughter who has been living with me since she was a baby who is now 4 and my baby daughter is 9 months they play real nice i think itsa good idea havin kids close together it may be hard at the start but trust me it gets better as i found out the hard way

I think their are negatives and positives to having siblings close in age. I think it is good b/c they will be in the same school together (except maybe the first babies first year in elementary, middle and high school, but the other would catch up and be with them the next year.) They always have a friend their own age. The only downfall would be that a lot of your major expences (braces, car, college, etc) would be one after the other (but then your through so I don't know). You also have to consider that unless they are at least 2 years apart (or 2 1/2 or 3 depending on the child) you will have 2 in diapers, and won't be able to reuse a bed unless you want to deal with a toddler  being able to get out of their bed at will (we are going to wait to change ours to the big bed for as long as we can). If we could afford it, I would try to become pregnant again now. But we can't, so if you can I would b/c it would be hard at first, but I think if you could put the other in preschool a few days a week for fun and interaction, it would be more manageable, my mom did that when I was 2 1/2 b/c my sister was born. Good luck, either decision would be right, babies are great!!

Close is good, my eldest are only 13 mths apart and a lot of rivalry, but I know that if the younger one is getting harassed the older one is there for him and vice versa. They also both look after the younger one (9yrs younger). That was hard to do. It is up to you what you do and how you want to do it. There are a lot of options with study these days. Look into the pros and cons of time restraints if you still want to study full time as opposed to part time or by correspondence. It also depends a lot on how much support you have too. Take care.

 

I agree to finish school first, but if you want a baby you just need to think what you want more. School can wait til they both start school if you really want them close in age, otherwise finish school then have one. Just remember that you will be pregnant for 9 months so you'll need to add that on as well.  My daughter is 3.5 and i would have liked 2 of them by now. I wanted 2 children 2 years apart.  I wasn't about to have a one night stand when she was 13 months old just to have the right age gap that i would have wante though! I study externally so it's easy enough to do while she's asleep.  YOu just have to work out what you want to do more, school or family.

 on baby number one for starters.  I am 27 now and have 3 gorgeous kids.  Jack's 4, Sarah's almost 3 and zoe is 10mths.  There's 21mths between Jack and Sarah and exactly 2yrs between Sarah and Zoe.

I love the closeness of all the kids.  I wouldn't have it any other way.  But, in saying that, i think it depends on what you're trying to study for - are you hoping for some sort of professoinal career now or are you studying for the future when you're kids grow up? 

Maybe if it's for career now then i would wait for the next child, but if you're studying for the futre for after your kids grow up, then i'd have another one now so you can enjoy the kids and THEN enjoy a career.  (that's my plan anyway)

good luck either way.

Lauren.

We have 2 girls both loveable mistakes. but they are 14mths apart and although when they were younger it was a bit of a struggle i love that they are so close in age they seem to be around the same...height, weight and clothes size. Not only that, they are just so close, so cuddly and protective of each other its really beyond words, would'nt change it for the world all the hard work was worth it.

My kids are 23 months apart.  I'm the eldest of 4 kids - my sister & I are 2 years apart, my sister & brother are 2.5 years apart & my brothers are 3 years apart.  We are all very close.

The short answer is "When you are ready"...

Hi there!

My kids are 8 yrs apart. We were only gonna have one child but ended up having Jenaya which has been fantstic. I love the difference in ages. I was able to devote all my time to my son when he was a baby and now again with Jenaya without having to deal with a baby and toddler (I dont know how mums do it...hats off to u!) Jordan my son has been sooo helpful and is at an age where he is quite responsible with her. I can hang out the washing or have a quick shower and he will watch her and entertain her. Dont get me wrong, they are starting to fight a bit but its easy to break up. And lets just say...im not as grey as my friends who have two closer together!!!

Theres twevel years between my daugther and my boys  which are 13 months apart.  i find the boys are very close and watch out for each other weather its school out playing. they play togrther well when theres no friends to play with .

They are close to there sister and love its when she comes home  , but when i frist had  the boys she was jealous  of losing someof the attends  . So i say i wouldn't have the children to far apart . think a year to twos years   be great .

hi there i just read that you have started school again well i reckon you wait until you are finished before you have another not to many girls get to finish school off so if you can than do that first i have a 4 year gap and a 2 year gap and i love my 4 year gap

its when you are ready? but firstly as i said i would finish school

Hi! I am a mother of two children. My eldest is nearly 11 and my youngest is nearly 2. Believe me when I say I wish they were closer to each other age wise. My Eldest is hitting puberty and is hard to live with whilst my youngest has reached the terrible two's. So I have my hands full all the time. Sometimes I would like to throttle both of them because they both carry on at the same time. Try not to have a nine year age gap because your patience will wear very thin. TRUST ME!!!!!

Hey there, I am 23 and have 2 boys that are 2 and 3. They were 14 months appart and I have found it fantastic!

Not only are they great friends but they keep eachother entertained and Jaidan is always teaching Chase something new (lately its been to say excuse me after he burps lol) Im doing it alone and have been since my 2 year old was 3 months. Sometimes it is hard work but its easier as they get older. I want 4 more and ill be doing it the same as I have here. 12-14 months appart. I wouldn't have it any other way :)

It's such an individual choice, personally i like a decent gap, mine are 3 years apart although i would have liked them a bit closer in age like 2 1/2 years but it didn't work out that way. A friend of mine has two boys and they are 18mths apart and she likes it that way, she has said many times that it's hard work but she copes well and has a lot of family and friends to help out also. If you think you can cope then i say go for it!!!   Don't forget that if you start trying now your daughter will be just about 2 when you have the baby anyway and that's a good gap.