Well he does sound like an idiot... Have you actually mentioned this to him - in a nice way of course? 

If you do get stuck leaving bubby with the outlaws, why not pack the food you want her to have?  We used to go to the store on the way to make sure we had all the basic fruits, cereals, milk, yogurt, etc & add to that whatever else was suitable at their house.  Now, whenever we go there, these products are always ready & waiting.  We are lucky though, my inlaws don't  eat too much junk & have nice healthy food most of the time. 

My sister in law fed my eldest son custard tart and sausage roll at 3 weeks old needless to say i was pissed and i was very strict about what he could and couldn't have. Now i am regretting it because he is a fussy eater and its a pain in the butt. My second son was eating vegemite sandwiches at 4months old, gumming at steak at 6mths and i let him eat a little off my plate from 4 months on. Now he will eat anything and its such a relief not to have to pack a second dinner when we go to a friends house for dinner. Personally i think its a good idea to give them as much variety as you can except of course for peanuts and shellfish.

But my mother has a problem with steven and i relling Joseph who is 4 that Mc Donalds and KFC are bad for you and make you sick. She thinks that its wrong that we tell him that and we are terrible parents. She seems to think that him eating a milky way or a freddo frog is much worse than a happy meal at maccas!!! Am i the only person who thinks that is totally insane?

Anyway,  I think you should talk to him and tell him what she is allowed to eat and what you dont want her fed. Just out of curiosity what does he feed your baby?

I am very strict with what my daughter eats and drinks. When she was 4 months old she had a taste of my mother's fruit juice. I flipped out. She never did it again.  When she was 8 months old and we were moving house, my father came to see us (which is extremely rare!) and he brought a 6 pack of XXXX with him and actually tried to give it to my daughter who was reaching for it. I pulled her away and into the Jolly Jumper she went.  That's probably the worst one, the XXXX because of the alcohol in it. I didn't even drink any as i was breastfeeding.  My mother now asks me about things, and I told her that instead of buying her lollies when she visits, why not buy her some strange looking fruit she's never tried before. She does that now and we're all happy. I haven't left her much apart from daycare while i'm working. I stay with her the rest of the time which is lucky.  Good luck with it, and you might need to be just a little more forceful with your family and have your partner be forceful with his family. That way you won't feel like your stepping on toes by dealing with each other's family.  Good luck with it, and just know that we're all in the same boat here :)

Yes! I think that everyone has someone in their family that does that, I would definitely be very adamant on saying something if your child is under 1 and could choke, and always if it really bothers you it is YOUR child, it is your right to make the decisions, but if it is a harmless cookie or juice, it is not the end of the world, if you say something and they don't respect your wishes then you need to figure something else out.

When Isabella was 9 months old my MIL was visiting from New Zealand. I was upfront with her from day one as to what Bella could and could not eat and thought we had an understanding. But when I left the house for five minutes I returned to find my daughter munching on a chocolate biscuit......When my son was about 3 MIL would give him things that she knew I didn't allow (like chewing gum for eg.) and he'd come to me and say "look what I've got. Nanny said don't tell Mum!" Arghh! She is coming to visit again next month and I tell you I won't be standing for any of that crap. Some grandparents come from the generation of "oh it won't hurt them" and there isn't much you can do to change their mindset. I have other family members who abide by my wishes so when I need someone to babysit they are the ones I call on. If your FIL can't see where you're coming from perhaps exlpaining that you won't be able to leave the kids alone with him will wake him up a bit. Or you may just be better off finding alternative care for your kids with people who follow your instructions and supervising visits with FIL.  

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Yes, I think this sounds familiar...my mil was shocked that we didn't buy an Easter egg for our son - he is 5 months. She suggested we let him suck chocolate off our finger! What?! my husband and I have made some decisions about feeding and what he eats. I get upset and angry when people don't follow our wishes. However, I need to make sure that they know what these wishes are.

My mum said that as long as she knows what we want thats fine. When we have mentioned a few points she has tutted or made a couple of comments - where was the 'I will respect your wishes' mum?

It is important or you will worry about leaving your child with them / not want to. You need to be able to trust them. I have since had a word with my MIL otherwise I was worried that I would save up this and it would explode causing more distress for all concerned.

Hope you find a solution for you.

i agree iam very strict when it comes feeding sienna and finally after a year my mil is starting to relise it if she gives sienna something she should't have, i tell her other wise she keeps doing it, like this easter she gave her an easter egg i said no and what happened sienna choked and i mean choked to the point where i stopped breathing i was a mess it has never happend that bad before, marks cousin had to take over and pat her on the back and then it got to the point where he had to pahysically push it down her throat, i was horrified, but since the weekend my mil always asks, there is a reason we worry. stand to your ground your her mother and i would hate for something like that to happen to another child. good luck Britt

oh it used to be all the time aghh, the worse thing was when he was just over a year and mil tryed to feed him an easter eggg ,, aghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh no no nooooo

lucky partner jumped right to it and said hey please do not feed my son chocolate , one he dosent need it two hes a baby omg , she was shocked at her son saying this but got over it cause we where right ,,,

sometimes if its your mother in law the blow of no sounds soo much better if it comes from their child ,,,

my MIL does it, if my MIL sees me feeding my son a little bit of bread, then she does it too, she shouldnt just feed him it, cos i feed him it, she should ask too. im always worried when i leave my son with my MIL, cos i dont know what else she feeds him, cos she thinks i dont feed MY son enough. but i am.

hi, l use to have that problem (agers ago now) .....my mother-in-law use to feed my first born anything as she did with he sons. l ended up telling her off (not in a nice way - to put it straight forward) as she was feeding him peanuts and he had not many teeth - lucky he never choked. You need to just explain to them please asked before they do it as now a days there is so many different things children cannot have with all the reactions towards different types of food. If you have to try to get them to see it from your point of view ( that may or may not work espically if there from the older era of life)....but l wish you all the luck and hopefully you will get through to them. Let me know how it goes.

This is a tuff one.......I don't have this problem,I am lucky I put down all the ground rules from the get go....and yes I allowed for idiots so they got it all spelt out for them P's & Q'S they also know I will have no hesitation in removing my girl from their presence if I feel they have breeched said guidelines.....it is ridicules,but sometimes necessary to do....I wonder at where common sense goes sometimes sheesh they can do some silly things.I just say to you that your Bub's safety comes before reletive's feelings try tact if this doesn't work you just have to be blunt. Good luck regards Merle