Help!
My daughter's father wants to come up to visit for her birthday. I have remained close to his sister, and have become close to another sister of his and have some contact with his brother and family but not much. His sister will be coming up with her hubby and their son, and she told me she has even convinced her parents to come up. That will be the first contact they will have with their grandaughter who is turning 4. They were nasty towards me until about a year ago, then I just didn't hear from them. Apparently they are embarassed at having treated the 2 of us in such a bad way when we aren't bad people, so they're not talking to us at all any more.
Anyhow, his sister has been really looking forward to it and has booked into a holiday apartment for 2 weeks to coincide with my time off and my daughter's birthday so we can spend heaps of time together. His parents are only coming up for a few days and staying in a motel. I have found out my daughter's parents will be bringing him up for it too and that's not what I want.
My child is a child of rape. His whole family know this, he went to jail over it and some of his family have been very supportive. His parents weren't at all supportive of me and my child but I understand I did send their son to jail who is their baby and now living with them. They have decided that it wasn't my fault and certainly not my child's fault that he did that to us and they are also aware that he has been up on other charges against other women too, including former girlfriends.
I don't want him here, I have told his family this. His sister said she can't stop him from coming up because they will be coming up a week before him and the parents and leaving a week later. She said she doesn't want him there but the parents think he should meet his daughter.
What's the right thing to do? It's only 1 weekend, he has no legal rights to her and lots of people will be here. I am having some of my family staying with me and will not be here alone at any time. He won't have his own transport as he will be with his parents who have said he will be with them at all times. I don't think i get much say in it, but I don't think I'll cope seeing him and would hate for my child's birthday to be ruined by her mother having a breakdown.
Sorry this is so long, I had to include all the information. I just don't know how to tell his mother who is determined to bring him. I've even told her she won't be invited, but she said she will come anyway because I've sent her an invitation already.
Please help!!
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