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  anonymous | April 2007

What's Suitable

Lately I've been getting put down by my mother over allowing television.  I didn't let her watch tv for a long time. I think that a child under 2 doesn't really need to watch it so she was never allowed to til after her 2nd birthday.  Now she watches a number of movies, but I only allow her to watch tv on our days at home, so twice a week.  She looked at her movie collection and said she watches too many movies. We have 70 G and PG movies, not all of them are hers.  Some are mine and she's never even seen them.  She also thinks that some of them are not suitable.  All my movies that are over a PG rating are kept up high, but because I allowed her to watch Rabbit Proof Fence, I was told that family services would take her from me if they knew about it!  I know it has some violence in it, but it is still only PG and whether we like to admit it or not it is a part of our history.  I wouldn't let her watch it if it was any worse, say with an M or MA rating on it.  But I let her watch documentaries that are Expempt from Classification and they have animals killing each other for food etc and she doesn't have a problem with that.  We have the classics: Wizard of Oz, The Lion King, Babe, Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and many more disney movies. I don't like her watching something more than once unless it's a musical.  What do other mums think are suitable for a 3 year old to watch?

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blackwidowkate
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | blackwidowkate
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Hi
Oooops I think I must be a terrible mum now
I have never stopped the kids from watching what they want regardless of classification same as my mum did with us
We grew up on horror movies and whatever we wanted and it has not affected us.  Mums reasoning and mine is the same if you don't let them watch it then they will go to their mates whos parents don't care and watch it anyway
But in saying that also all kids are different
If one of the kids were scared by a movie then they go into their bedroom or go do something else
If a parent does not want their child to watch a certain movie then we don't put it on while they are here.
With 2 teenagers who watch virtually everything it is a bit hard to say Jalan can't watch it anyway.
But that is just me and my family.
Only you can decide for your family
Luv Deb



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iancherine
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | iancherine
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I think it is up to the individuals involved to decide what your children watch on TV. My daughter Chloe who is 5 now loves the movie Karate Kid and I let her stay up one night and watch one of the Harry Potter movies. She was tired at the time and I thought she would fall asleep during the movie but she was glued to it from start to finish. My daughter understands that movies are make believe and before she watched Karate Kid I explained the movie to her so she wouldn't get scared or upset. She knew the good guy would get hurt but it will all be good in the end.

Cherine.



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      LISA722
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | LISA722
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I did once have the same problem not sure what shows she should watch so what i did was took her to the local video store and allowed her to pick the movies then after that things became clear to what things she enjoyed to watch we now have a rather large collection ourselves of over 200 videos and dvds and believe it or not most of them belong to her things such as bob the builder, hi-5, wiggles, playschool, harry potter, and many others

give it a try and let him pick say two movies  he will surprise you with his pick



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lucky321
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | lucky321
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at that age my my boys watch disney movies and play school  . most of the time we were out side doing things around the yard or going for a walk . Its up to you  to what you like your child to watch  and much tv you want to see .

My boys are out playing all the in the yard  and now that they are older  they still don't like watching to much tv  they rather be out playing and hate  it when its raining  as they have stay indoors  



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Ngairi
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | Ngairi
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I have TRIED to only allow my 5yr old to watch disney movies and things when he was younger. BUT with 2 teenage boys in the house, sometimes it was a little difficult. However, he has never had a problem with any nightmares, reactions, or even playacting scenarios. But I wouldn't change a thing I did. Leisa


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PHOENIX
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | PHOENIX
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You sound like you are doing exaclty what you feel is right for your child. I have been judged before and when I admit in a moment what movies my son watches will be judged again. I believe you have to decide whats best for your child based on your child not on what someone else thinks. Why is it that just because you have a large movie collection that you must spend all your time watching them- do they think the same about a person who has a large music collection. Watching Tv or movies 2 days a week is well under what the 'experts ' recommend so I think you are doing fine.  You know whats best for her and if you happen to let her watch something that probably in hindsite should have been avoided its not likely to cause irrepairable (sp?) damage. My son loves Documentries and we get to teach him things at the same time.

My son is 4 and from birth he watched a range of baby educational videos (suited to age and viewed for 30 minutes a day). When he turned 1 he started watching some ABC kids shows (usually play school) When he turned 2 he was introduced to disney and other cartoon movies(finding Nemo, land before time, bugs life toys story and others like that). He has a collection of about 40 DVDs. Since he turned 3 his movie range has expanded and he is quiet mature enough to watch other movies. This year he started watching Harry Potter. Last year he was watching Spider man and Superman movies. For some reason he can't watch Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle cartoons becasue he goes loopy afterwards. He gets 2 hr viewing time during the week so he can watch ABC kids in the arvo or he can watch a movie (his choice which one). On the weekends he can watch a few more hours if he likes especially if it is raining and he can't play outside.   I definately don't use TV as a babysitter and my youngest is nearly 2 and only just started wanting to watch playschool (the concert DVD) so I know he is going to be different and probably won't watch some of the movies DS does.



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johnmorr
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | johnmorr
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I hope two cents from a dad won't be shunned too much (LOL). Personally, I grew up without a tv. But tv has it's good points too. And it sounds to me like you've got a fairly good grasp on what you're allowing, and not allowing on tv in front of your little girl. Too much tv, as in the case of tv being the baby sitter (which we know no one is guilty of here), results in children with little imagination or initiative. And yet, if used as a parenting tool to suppliment educational exposure, the results could be phenominal. The bottom line is you choose on which side of the debate you stand on. And then make sure that the way you use the tv conforms to the way you choose. Otherwise it appears as if you don't know what you're doing.


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emmysmum
3.92 (Good) | April 2007 | emmysmum
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I allow for my daughter to watch educational shows such as play school (even though it is kinda silly) and also she watches the morning mathematics programs! Even though she is only turning 2 at the end of the month, i personally feel that shows like these that are introduced from a young age will benefit the child in later years.... they may not understand that now..... but they do sit and listen (well my daughter does).....she even sometimes counts with them! LOL.
Also i let my daughter watch video hits because she is a very musical child....so she tries to sing and dance to the music.
ALSO i won't allow for my daughter to watch programs with swering in it, but sometimes it can't be prevented....
As for documentaries well unless the tele is on SBS which is barely ever, then we don't watch them....except for the odd one that comes on prime.....
Animals killing is a way of life, it's how they survive and personally, if the child is taught from day one all about it (right from wrong etc etc) then nothing should be a problem
Just my few cents!


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      MummaBear
4.42 (Good) | April 2007 | MummaBear
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That's exactly right.  Hannah used to love playschool and it's silly, but it's also developed by early childhood professionals and is an educational show without sitting kids down in a classroom-like atmosphere.  We don't get any channels except TEN where we live so we don't watch tv.  But I think there's a huge difference between a documentary on sharks and movie like Jaws on sharks.  I would never let Hannah watch Jaws for many reasons, but I take her to the aquarium and she has been to Imax to watch a doco on under water life.  It's sensible to teach them things but being careful not to overload their little minds.


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MummaBear
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | MummaBear
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Hannah's turning 4 this year.  She has all the Disney classics, and I think that even if something is classified PG it may not be suitable.  If anyone has seen the movie Dinosaur, you may remember that it is very violent.  I sat down with Hannah to watch it as she was given it for Christmas last year and was not impressed. I turned it off and put Mary Poppins on for her.  However I do take her to a wildlife sanctuary as we have membership there and she has seen a crocodile leap from the water and eat a bird that had flown in to the enclosure for a drink of water. I say stupid bird, it was unexpected and made us both jump!  But the point is, I then explained to her about how animals kill for their food and that's the reason also that we don't go swimming at the rivers and creeks around here. Crocodiles are in the water and they will jump out of the water and kill us just like it got that bird.  I think there is a difference between exposing them to kiling and violence and educating them on animal safety. I also try to have her respect all animals. I want her to have a degree of fear so she will know not to swim in some of waterholes around here and she will know not to pick up a snake or anything.  As for movies, I make sure I watch everything with her first, if not beforehand, to make sure it's suitable. Since Dinosaur is a Disney movie I didn't even think about watching it before her or I would have known not to allow it.



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      MummaBear
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | MummaBear
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Having said that though, I have since watched it when she was in bed and I thoroughly enjoyed it. She can watch it when she's older.  What I can't stand is parents who let their 5 year old kids watch the Chucky movies or things like Con Air and even Briget Jones.  Many children in my childcare under the age of 5 have seen Men In Black!


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nell18-3
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | nell18-3
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Personally I think Disney cartoons are a long way from watching documentaries there is no comparison so no I wouldn't be letting my child of that age watch them


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MadMel
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | MadMel
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My kids watch G rated Disney movies only. The also watch Sesame Street. Thats all. I would never let my kids watch animals killing eachother because at 2-3 they are just too young to see that!


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      cazza
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | cazza
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yes i have to agree also with what mel says, as they are 2 little to understand why the animal is getting hurt....


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cazza
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | cazza
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i have a 3 year old girl and she at the moment Dora the Explorer is her favourite-and its really good show as its educational.. She also has finding nemo, wiggles, hi 5,  and various Abc show dvds.. I dont know much about the dvd that your mother is concerned about, but i find as a foster mum my self that it would be very unlikely that docs are going to step in and remove your child over what they watch.... You know whats suitable for your child, and if your child is distressed by watching something- your immediate response would not to show them again.


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      kiarasmom2005
5.00 (Excellent) | April 2007 | kiarasmom2005
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HMMM...........well.....mine watches sesame streest, any disney movies........baby einstein........and some sitcomes if they are on and we are watching them. Unfortunately, she has seen more wrestling than I care to admit.....but when she is old enough I will deffiantely explain what it is. I think that she doesn't really understand so I am not hugely concerned. When she gets a little older there will deffinately be some caution about what we watch around her. There is never anything like suggestive material, or horror films though or anything hugely violent.

 



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