Thank you all so much for your honest answer's, there is a few problems about asking his school & Dr, we don't know were he goes to school or what Dr he goes to because even though we have a stamped contract that states that she must notify us of these things she still after all this time says to my husband he has no right to know these things & we have asked Jordan but he said that mum told me not to tell you and she will get mad with him if he dose so he says nothing. So we are stuck in between a rock & a hard place, so with everyone’s advice I think no I KNOW that we will be consulting with our lawyer AGAIN.

Thank you all so much I really appreciate the honesty & you all have really helped us to make this decision & I will keep you all informed about the out come.

 Jacki

I dont think youhave over reacted, he pays his money and its his on he should have been consulted. I would contact the school and see if they feel he required medication, I would also be curious to know whether his Gp or a specialist prescribed the medication her reaction as in hushed tones and not wanting her bf to know seems really strange to me, I would be very, very concerned.

I will make this one very simple! Any medical decision should made by both the parents, whether they are together or apart! Your husband still plays an active part in his sons life and has ever right to be informed of any kind of medication that his son has been placed on! Has he contacted his son's doctor? That would be my course of action t o find out why and do it ASAP. He has rights too!

NO NO NO NO YOU HAVE NOT OVER REACTED WHAT SO EVER. I am really sorry for the caps but i wanted to stress that you havent over reacted. I am a single mother, my daughter goes to her father's every fortnight and more during the school holidays. It is high common curtisy to let him know what is going on with our daughter.

Not only that, what happens if the child has a reaction in your care and you werent to know what is going on? that sounds devestating. I could not bear to let my child go to her fathers unless he knows the inn's and out's of what is going on with her.

LIke everyone else said please seek legal advice and seek a second opinion from the doctor or better still go to his doctor and ask what is going on. I think you have the right to do that as the child is under 16.

I am really sorry but it really gets my blood boiling when there is lack of communication between ex's when it comes to their children. The children come first no matter what has gone on in the past.

I wish you lots of love and the best of luck, and most of all i hope his ex communicates more with him for the childs sake.

I don't think he overreacted. He has a right to know what is going on in his sons life.

He is after all the father of the child, why shouldn't he know, and why would she try and hide it from her boyfriend? that just doesn't make sense. If the child is sick you take him to the Dr no big deal, why hide the fact he is on tablets? sorry but sounds a bit fishy to me.

Best Wishes Blond.

I think u should deffinately consult legal advice.I feel your husband really needs to be consulted in these serious matters.I would also be taking the little fellow to another dr for a second opinion.Let us know how u go regards Merle

i totally agree with both of there ladies comments .. i was not allowed to put my sons on meds even know they do have add and ocd  they still do long story,, it should be a joint decission but also you have to have at least a coupple of oppions because their is also a differnce of both parents oppions...and both be supportive of this choice either way and not let ill feelings get in the way of whats best for the child , you partner has every right to see his son also

For a major decision like that he should definately be consulted. I think that you should seek legal advice to find out where you stand because if the boy does not need the medication then it will be harmful to him.

 Lexi xxx