I have started a new group called trouble toilet training toddler.

www.minti.com/groups/39801/Trouble-Toilet-Traning-Toddler/

Take a look cause there is some good advice & please feel free to join & share your experience with us.

Good luck  Jacki

hi there,

i've got 4 children, and they all trained at different ages, training from 2yrs,  to up to 3.5yr.

what i feel is wrong today is parents are trying and stressing to much about their child not being trained by a certain age, some children know what they feel when it comes to the wee and poo. and some take longer. i feel this way, when your child goes to school, they don't have a bottle, dummy, nappies and are toilet trained. so relax and let the child tell you when they are ready. my mothers advice was after some thing to eat or drink,  just let them know that if they want to do wee or poo in the big kids toilet, that they just tell mummy. and that seam to be a great help. my sister tried to give her little boy a lollie each time hie tried to go on the big kid toilet, but she quickly realised that he did a little wee or push really hard to do a poo. to say to his mother. i did a little poo or wee, can i a a little lollie for a little poo or wee. so she stopped the lollies and waited another 6mths before trying again. he was trained by 3.5yrs, don't let toilet training be a stressed memory for you and the child.

well that all cheerscrazyduckinwa

My only advice is to relax about the whole thing. Any build up of anxiety over doing a bowel movement can quickly get out of hand. see my article on my sons experience of chronic constipation. RELAX if he still wants to do it in a nappy - let him. Pop a nappy on and do that. For as long as it takes. Forcing a child to use the toliet to do poos when they don't want to - in my desperate experience does not work and can lead to years if not permanent problems. If I had my time again - I would have let him have his nappy on for 4 months more, then slowly loosened the nappy but sat him on the potty/toliet. Please be careful. Best wishes, pnp xxx

hi there

When I was training my son, we played "bomb the balls!!" Scunch up a bit of toilet paper into a ball and put in bowl but make sure ya little one gets onto toilet quickly so they dont see that the paper has broken apart and then get them to Bomb the ball. When they r done they will c that they have done well cos the paper is all broken!! U can also do this when doing wees by using pingpong balls as they dont flush but just float back up!!

Remember to make a huge game out of it...have fun!!

Hi. I am training my 21 month old (as per his request at just under 18 months when I got home with a newborn!) & am having the same problem. He has done poos in the toilet a few times but only because we have caught him in time & put him on the toilet to finish. We praise him when this happens & let him flush & wave "bye bye" to the poo. He has a tendancy to go on the grass if he is outside with his pants off. I am as confused as you about this but my mum says my younger brother was exactly the same. Persistance is the key I am told so just keep trying - I am!

Good luck