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mum Vs kids
hello, i've got 6 kids all up. But only 4 have only lived with me, {12,10, 4,2yr olds} the other two {9,7yr olds} only came 4 weekends & holidays. But from the start of this year they all live with me. & its getting really hard i am yelling every day untill am blue in the face& i hate it. They dont listen at all, if they do its only when i am in the room still as soon as i leave, they just muck up again.Fight all the time.or when near each other.If i ask any one to do anything, all i get is "i dont it last time or "why doesnt he/she do it or "i always do it ect... I have a job list 4 each of them, they get pocket money. I tried taking their money off them,they dont care, tried grounding them but its hard when they share a room with one other, or they wait untill am busy & leave the room. The little ones are picking up on this behaviour & are nearly out of control. All of them have lost respect for me.. I am by my self & have no family, my house is a mess & am at my wits end.. Its 6 against one,..........pls any ideas 
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mum Vs kids
Wow I really feel for you. We used to have a family holiday at the end of the year. We had this big tin and at the end of each week my mother would put a gold coin into the tin for each job we did WITHOUT ARGUING. At the end of the year, around October, she would take it into the bank when she got home with figures on how much was in there, we would sit down together and work out our holiday. It was always either a holiday up to the North Qld rainforests, or down to the Gold Coast. It always gave us incentive, as the more we did without fights, the better the holiday we got out of it. With so many kids, maybe put 50c into a tin, or come up with a similar idea. There was only 3 of us too, but even if you came up with a similar idea to buy them something special at the end of the year with the money and the more money the better it is for them. I agree with the family meeting idea too, it's important to bring order into the family when there are so many of you. The kids might be feeling anxious from the lack of control too so it's becoming one of those vicious cycles. I hope this helps in some way and I really do wish you all the best.
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