lol....just read what I wrote and noticed the typo
It should have said....I've recently just read an article about this topic with all the laws and where we stand as parents when things do not go nicely.
Personally I don't give a damn if I have the right or not to speak to someone else's child. i dont accept that kind of behaviour from my own child, i try to teach him right from wrong, so what kind of message does it send to him if someone else hurts him and gets away with it. If the other parent handles it, then great but if not, then I will. And if they don't like it, thats just too bad, too many people in the world who do not deserve children.
Some peple may not like this but I am one of those mums whom doesn't just console my child after another has upset or hurt them . . . Yep i cuddle my child, I talk to my child, I reassure my child the I get right on up and talk to the other child's parent!
I want my children to know that it's not okay to be bullied and what better way then to teach them by talking to the other parent . . . I've found this works 90% of the time, occasionally there will be a parent that is rude and just plain nasty these are the times when I collect my child and find a better place to play as I don't want my child witnessing adults behaving badly.
i look after a little 2yo boy once a fortnight and last time i did he bit my son for no obvious reason. now the bite wasnt bad but i still told the dad who then told the mum who was ropeable that her son would do that so she rang me straight away to find out the severity and i naturally said "oh its ok' then i corrected myself to say well no its not ok that he bit but he didnt draw blood or leave a mark. and all was well. we as the adult and parent need to stand up for our children as they cannot yet do it for themselves and i know as a parent trying to teach my kids right from wrong i dont care how u teach ur children just teach them otherwise y have kids at all.
I believe that we should speak up when something is unacceptable, lets be honest by 5 if they are at school they are going to be told to stop that behaviour and go and sit on the naughty chair. For me I would say "stop that" loudly and firmly and move my child away, you dont need to rant and rave to be incontrol of a potentially nasty situation. If the child's mother says dont speak to my child like that!!! its easy to reply it was a reaction to my child being hurt.
Depending on the age of the child and where it is there are things you can do. At daycare if I get to daycare in time to see something happen I tell my daughter to go and tell the teacher. If we're out at playgroup or swimming lessons I will tell Hannah, quite loudly, "tell your friend to stop that is unacceptable behaviour" which is not exactly telling the other person's child off, it's giving your child words to tell the child off. It also teaches your child that if someone tells them to stop they have to respect that and stop what they are doing too. It also lets the other mother know that it isn't a behaviour you will stand there and watch. At the same time if you see your child doing something it's best to pull your child up on it immediately to show the other parents that you tell your child it's wrong and you expect them to show you the same respect.
i have to agree with just about very one here....i feel that we should stick up for our children....we don't have to be nasty because that is unacceptable as well....but i think it's important that we let the other child know he did something wrong that you don't do that it's not nice....i can say when i first started play group an older child pushed ryan,and ryan feel over, i was holding ashlei a little way away but making sure i was keeping an eye on my son, when this happened i stated loudly for him not to push my child....and i have to admit that if the parents aren't paying attention then something should be said......that's my opinion anyway.....
I think it's such a complicated answer as there are times that I will definately speak up for example; we were at a water park this summer and a younger child tried to push my then 5 year old under the water and there was no mother that i knew of around, well I VERY firmly said "Don't you do that" and moved him away from my son.
But there are times where I am very hesitant to make an issue, mostly in places where you still have to be around the person after the incident and will prob have to see them again. If another child does hurt my child then I usually pick my child and make a fuss and say loud enough for them to hear "oh baby are you okay? did that hurt?" That works most of the time.
I'd speak up.. I would want someone to tell me if my son hurt there child.. How else is he going to learn if I don't teach him.. If it keeps going unseen he will never learn. Thankfully (that I know of.) I have not had to deal with this yet..
My boy is just eighteen months ... so I have not had to deal with this situation head on ... yet. I have had concerns about overly rough play ... But, boys are boys ...haha
However, in my opinion it is okay to speak up when another child is purposely hitting, pulling hair, biting, and being mean on purpose. I would expect another parent to speak up regarding my boy if he were acting out like that too. I see absolutely nothing wrong with making another child behave and play nice. Somehow in my heart I feel partially responsible for disciplining a child who is a playmate of my son. I feel like a "referee" for lack of a better word. If either child or both children are being mean, then I feel responsible to step up and rectify the situation.
I definitely feel like we as parents have a right to verbally speak up if another child is harming our own child.
Hello, well l do speak up...if someones child is hurting one of my kids > younger ones......l asked the child to stop please , in a clam voice and if the child is old enough to understand l explain how would you like it. Alot of the times the child understands and stops.....l have never had a mother/father complain to me yet. l do speak to the mother/father and let her/him know that l asked her/his child to stop and tell her/him what the child was doing. There are alot of parents that understand and are glad l spoke up to them. If it is at school or kinder l will tell the teacher and alot of the times the teacher does the same thing sits the child down and explains to the child how he/she would like that done to them. l hope l dont sound mean but l would never lose the plot with any child , l just talk to them clamly. Hope this helps
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